hotgelato Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 So after few weeks of no men, i got a date. I met him at a club then found him on facebook just by his picture.. (haha is that freaky?) I sent him a message if he remembers me, and we've kept short messages so far. Then we stopped cuz I was busy for a couple weeks but now that I'm free I msged him again if he's still interested in getting to know me. He said he's out of town this week but would want to go out when he comes back next week and asked my number =) However, i've seen his facebook photos and there are a lot of his past gfs in there starting from 2005. It seems like they were childhood friends developed into gf/bf for 3 years and they broke up last fall-ish... They are the same nationality so they share culture, and language too. I, on the other hand, am new to the area, and different culture. I'm not expecting a lot from him but i don't wanna be a rebound girl. If they broke up for whatever reason, last fall, then still kinda keep in touch cuz they have so many mutual friends, is that a bad sign? I guess I'm thinking way too ahead but still... want your opinions! How to charm this guy and NOT be a rebound girl?
jadelil25 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 You just need to be your self and show him fun you can be. Dont worry about the future and being serious. Just focus on having fun and getting to know this guy more. You are worrying to much about the future and also his past and you need to stop doing that. If he was not interested then he would not be interested in meeting up and dont ask him about his ex girlfriends either let him come to you. If you put pressure on him and developing a relationship then you are taking the fun out of things and it will push him away. You just need to focus on now, being your self and showing him fun you can be. Dont do all the chasing your self, let him do some - that way you know that he is interested. Also dont come across as clingy or needy. Dont call or txt him every day and dont spend lots of time with him, let things build up gradually. Im sure all will be fine and just let nature take it's course, if it is meant to be then all will be fine and it will work out.
redant Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Get to know him more and see if he is over it. Don't get your hopes up too high or get too close until you know more about it and if wants to move on. I hope I have leaned my lesson. Being a rebound is not fair so just realize he MAY not be the one. You just don't know yet. He does still have their pictures up which is weird. Just get to know him more.
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