somethingaboutmary Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Met this guy about 4 weeks ago, went away with his friends for a weekend last weekend and everything went great. He told me he really likes me and that he would like things to work out between us which i was genuinely happy about coz i like him too. Came back on Sunday and he offered to cook me dinner on the Monday but i think he has now gone off me. We spoke about the coming weekend and what we would like to do but now he says he has other things that he has to do and hasn't included me in any of the plans... Am i jumping to conclusions or has he simply gone off me. I don't get it. Can a guy just get turned off like that after seeming so into me? Advice please
Author somethingaboutmary Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 I thought about that but we were with his friends at the weekend and they even suggested that he liked me alot. I was feeling a bit freaked out because i thought it was going a bit fast. We're not spring chickens either. we are mid 30's I just don't get guys.
Author somethingaboutmary Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 maybe, i think he almost told me he loved me which is why i'm so surprised that he is blowing cold right now. Should i just not contact him anymore?
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 He might really like you, and it's freaking him out a little. Give him a littlw space, and if he really likes you, he will come back. This happened with my bf. I was convinced he was going to break up with me. After a little space, he bounced back stronger than ever and it hasn't changed since.
SummerSun Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 He hasn't gone off you, he's got scared. Men in their 30s are the worse culprits. Younger guys are more fearless and don't 'think' so much about relationships and kinda just let things happen. When a guy gets into his 30s he is carrying around so much more past hurt and over analyses everything. The mistake I make in your situation is to turn the dynamics of the relationship around - where at first he is really keen and chasing, when they pull back it is important that you don't play the part of pursuer. Just play it cool, don't contact him....my guess is that he will contact you again and ask for another date, give him the space to do that. His friends have probably freaked him out too by taking the mick about how much he likes you etc etc. Be patient....
Author somethingaboutmary Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 i guess this could be true. I've been unlucky in love in the past and was reluctant to start liking someone again but he seemed so keen and then this happened. I'll leave him alone and see what happens.
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