becci-lee Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 This guy, i met 2 weeks ago, we REALLY hit it off!! we are like perfect for eachother, we talk on the phone about good in-depth topics and he says i always have good answers. he is kind of playin hard to get a lil bit, he even told me, that he just doesnt want to be a needy guy cuz girls dont like needy guys, but im feeling like i might be a bit needy, we talk on the phone everyday at least ONCE but i feel like if hes thinkin girls dont like needy guys, then does he not like needy girls, and he has discovered that i am SUPER sensitive, like my feelings get hurt super easily and he figures out everyday that i REALLLY like him by saying things like " im moving to trinnidad" and then i get upset and he says "I didnt think you cared, you must really like me eh?!" and then he says hes flattered and what not, but i cant tell if he thinks i am too needy and i DO NOT WWANT TO DRIVE THIS GUY AWAY!! i REALLY REALLY like him, like EXTREMELY and i have "that feeling" the feeing you only find once in a while, the feeling of your chest being heavy and love in your tummy and what not, and i tell him this, but i just NEED to know some tips and hints on how to keep him interested, how to read him better, exactly HOW I CAN PLAY HARD TO GET, while he is ALSO playing hard to get, yyou know what i mean, I NEED to know some exact, non-immature, REAL GOOD ways to play hard to get on him and some hints and tips please!! HE IS THE ONE, I KNOW IT
colosseum Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Sounds to me like someone has to take charge and stop playing games if you want something meaningful out of this. Sounds like he's not the one who will, so maybe you have to. By that, maybe... 1) Be honest with him and tell him you want the games to stop or 2) Drop contact--play hard to get. Because frankly, you're not playing hard to get if you're talking to him everyday. And frankly, neither is he. So the good news I guess then is that you 2 are talking daily.
collegekid491 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Don't play hard to get, just don't be needy, there's a difference. See the thing is, what you are asking is how to disguise yourself so your more appealing to him. At some point he's gonna see the 'real you', so why hide it? But your not asking for an opinion, your asking for how to play the game, so ill give my 2 cents on that. Don't tell him your deep feelings, wait until the infatuation passes (after a couple of months) so when you really do fall for the real him (cause you don't know everything about him yet) your 'i love you' actually means something. Alternate calling, if its his turn and he doesn't call the next day, wait till he does (if its longer then a week, then you need to find out what the deal is). Work on your sensitiveness and think before you get upset, its clingy/needy behavior. Reading him, there's no magical way to do this. Either he will blatantly let you know with obvious signs or tell you, otherwise you can't do anything about it so you... don't :s. Your honestly over thinking it though, just relax and realize he's interested in YOU, so don't assume you have to entertain him constantly. I talk to my gf on the phone about half an hour a week, we go on 2 dates generally, we don't play hard to get we just have our own stuff to do. The whole reason its so easy and we never fight is we both don't play games, we trust each other, and we are who we are. The key to a good relationship is simplicity itself.
colosseum Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 By dropping contact I mean let him go to your voicemail, call him back after a day or 2 at least, and act busy. If he really wants you he'll come for you.
colosseum Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 The key to a good relationship is simplicity itself. Sometimes the most refreshing thing can be when a girl is just totally honest to a guy, cause we're constantly the ones trying to figure out what y'all are thinking. My 2 cents--a little diff from the above, but do what u will.
Author becci-lee Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 kk, well he was supposed to call yesterday and he didnt so i calld last night and he was out, so i waited till late tonite to see if he'd call today and he didnt, so i calld and he was out again(chuch and N.a.) nothing bad. but tomorrow is this new group thing we started going to its calld Celebrate Recovery, and we havent talkd in 2 days so we havnt discussed about going tomorro or not, but we are supposed to go everyweek and im wondering, should i just go and suprise him that i am still EXtREMELY accountable or should i skip out, im leaning to the just going, but i still dont really know....HELP!
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Well, I would imagine the recovery thing is more for YOU than a date activity. I don't understand why you can't just go for YOU. If you base it on whether or not he's there, how can he think you're serious about taking care of yourself?
Author becci-lee Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 You are RIGHt!! wow! that really answers my question! i guess i should go get ready then eh!!
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