now_what Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Hello: I already posted this, but wanted to change the name of the thread to better reflect the advice I am looking for. I'm switching forums - from the breakup to the dating. I will be single in a few weeks after being married for 30 years. My husband and I have been separated since September - he left me to be with another woman. I just turned 50 in January, but do not feel old at all. In fact, my interests include many activities that would be perceived as "younger". Not that I'm looking to date right at the moment, but in the future I can see myself wanting some companionship. I am open to all pointers, hints, suggestions, whatever on how to re-enter the dating world - after basically being out of it since I was 16. I am a mother of three and a grandmother of 2 - only my 15 year old daughter is still at home with me. Any help will be greatly appreciated!
collegekid491 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Bear with me, I play hockey so I have to use a hockey analogy lol. Keep putting shots on goal (keep trying even if you don't get a good one the first few times you try), if your getting robbed on the glove side, go blocker (if something isn't working, change up your behavior/location/priorities/approach), and if you can't deke, don't deke! (stick to your strong points, know them, be confident in them). Basically, just relax, be yourself, make an effort, and don't set unrealistic goals. The number 1 mistake people make? They assume something has changed in the dating game, the game never changes, just where you play it. Pick a place you with a target rich enviroment (with the type of men your interested in) and... just take initiative!
Author now_what Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Bear with me, I play hockey so I have to use a hockey analogy lol. Keep putting shots on goal (keep trying even if you don't get a good one the first few times you try), if your getting robbed on the glove side, go blocker (if something isn't working, change up your behavior/location/priorities/approach), and if you can't deke, don't deke! (stick to your strong points, know them, be confident in them). Basically, just relax, be yourself, make an effort, and don't set unrealistic goals. The number 1 mistake people make? They assume something has changed in the dating game, the game never changes, just where you play it. Pick a place you with a target rich enviroment (with the type of men your interested in) and... just take initiative! __________________ Thanks for the advice and the entertaining analogy!!
stepka Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 No advice here--I am breathlessly waiting for advice too--I'll be 50 in less than 2 months and I'm getting divorced after 23 yrs of marriage. I'm sorry to hear about your divorce but we'll both find that we're better off I think. I'm looking forward to getting out there and dating again, but have no idea whether I'm even still attractive--I'm putting in hours at the gym every week to up my chances.
Author now_what Posted March 13, 2009 Author Posted March 13, 2009 I am getting ready to do that too. Have been spending too much time reflecting on everything that has happened over the last six months, but now I'm ready to move ahead with my life and want to look and feel good. My hearing is March 30th, then I will be a free woman. Woo, hoo!
Nebo74 Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 Try lunch dates at first. You're under a time limit (normally) and it will give a good impression of what to expect click-wise. Personally, I tend to txt and talk on the phone for a week or so before meeting people from online dating sites. Even then a crazy might sneak through.. Like this one last week.. Shows up... PREGANT.. LOL.. Still, I bought her dinner, but you know.. Life is weird like that... Makes you remember that someone else is always worst off then you. I tried all three major dating pay to play online dating websites.. I think plentyoffish.com is the best and it's free.. Good luck!
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