Charmaine_Champagne Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 ok here's the story.. my boyfriend of nearly 6 years had suddenly been acting as if he didn't want to be with me and had started to ignore me- he was very sharp with me and distant. despite this i still continued to text and call him even tho i sensed something was wrong. the weird thing is he told me he hadn't received my texts or emails when i definitely sent them. he tried to make out as if it was ME ignoring him and whenever i would send him a message he wouldn't reply and would later send me a message saying something like ''why aren't you texting me?''.. i guess this was him playing some kind of mind game. though i don't know why. his behaviour was quite sudden, one week he was telling me he loved me and the next he seemed to want to cut me out of his life. although he didn't actually officially dump me it seemed like he was ignoring me to try and get rid of me. he stopped meeting up with me and when i would ask him what was wrong or ask him to be honest with me he just wouldn't reply. anyway, he ignored me for a total of 20 days which seemed like forever and was agony for me. In those 20 days i didn't get in contact with him either as he didn't reply to any texts i'd previously sent him or he pretended not to get them. my family also told me not to contact him as he was just messing me around. friends advised me that him ignoring me was most likely his childish way of expressing that he felt our relationship had run its course and ignoring me was his way of breaking up with me but without having the courage to do it decently and tell me to my face. i accepted they were probably right and so i deleted his number, didn't contact him again and tried to accept it was over and tried to move on.. this was very hard as i didn't really get an answer for him and he never officially dumped me but then the other day out of the blue after 20 days of hearing nothing i received a text message from him and all it said was ''how come i haven't heard from you?'' -this is rich considering he was the one who was ignoring me! do you think this is some kind of childish mind game he is playing, trying to put the blame onto me? and do you think i should ignore the message and maintain 'no contact' with him? (so far i have not replied to it) i just don't understand if he was ignoring me in order to get rid of me, why would he text me at all? i know the text wasn't that friendly, he didn't ask how i am or say that he missed me or declare his undying love for me but i'm just wondering why you think he has texted me all of a sudden? is this his way of trying to worm his way back to me? or is he just 'testing the waters'?? i have found a bit of comfort thinking that he must be wondering what i'm doing and maybe even missing me. but my family and friends think that maybe he's been out having fun or having a fling and now the novelty has worn off he's trying to get me back. they think i should ignore him because he's been sly and cruel and treated me badly (he ignored me on valentines day) they also say that i don't know what he's been up to or who he's been seeing in the time he was ignoring me, they basically think he is a creep. the trouble is i still miss him so much (6 years is a long time!) i keep thinking about him and wonder does he miss me at all? i do feel lonely, my friends invite me out whenever it suits them and often plan things without me and i'm still struggling to concentrate at university. also, because i was with my ex so long and was so used to having him around and always texting me,etc it's almost like an addiction and its hard to get used to him not being here. i know deep down that he is no good for me and has treated me like crap and my family are right. my three main questions are: should i reply to his text, or should i ignore him and do what i was already doing- keeping busy and trying to move on?? and also why do you think he has suddenly got in touch with me, does he want me back? do you think if i keep maintaining a policy of 'no contact' that he will keep trying to get through to me? ideally i would want him to miss me and phone me, maybe then i would get some answers and i would atleast know that he cares. (i realize this is a bit long and rambling but i hope someone will take the time to read this and help me, i really dunno what to do and i feel so alone.) all advice no matter how harsh would be greatly appreciated!
JoL Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 You already posted the exact same thing.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t182479/
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