hotgelato Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 In a relationship for almost 2 years. Is certain that he's the one to marry. But in different continents with 14hour time difference. Has to be that way for the next 2-3 years. Only get short breaks for 1-2 weeks for christmas and holidays. Even then, flight tickets are so expensive. Is it okay for someone in this kinda relationship to sleep with a friend who's nearby? And just call it physical and leave it at that? It's not my story but someone I know is doing it and doesn't feel guilty about it. I guess in her defense, it is just purely sex. But isn't it cheating if the bf doesn't now about her behavior? I'm just curious..
zilverenvlinder Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 It is cheating, but when you're not 100 years old, whether you're a man or a woman, you're going to have urges, seriously. I mean, a whole year or two without sex? That's too much for me... I commend your long distance efforts because I definitely could not do it.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Yes, it's cheating. IMO, anything you're doing to deceive your SO is "cheating." There are all different forms of cheating. But I can't understand for the life of me how having sex with somebody couldn't be called cheating if the BF doesn't know about it. Just wait until the GF develops feelings for the "just sex" guy. Heehee. I do feel bad for the BF, though - that's pretty skanky behavior.
collegekid491 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 cheating, UNLESS, you talk to your bf and he gives you the ok to do so. That being said, you have to let him do the same. If you have to look outside your relationship though, for any of the needs that it should be fulfilling, then may as well break it off. If you need sex that badly and can't wait, break it off. Personally... its just sex, if the relationship is really worth it then put it before your physical needs.
colosseum Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Wow. You sure he's "the one to marry"? I would seriously have second thoughts about that claim. And by "second thoughts" I mean what-the-hell-are-you-thinking-he's-not-the-one-to-marry-if-he's-sleeping-with-another-woman. But I guess it depends on what kind of marriage you're looking for...? Clearly I have strong opinions, but they are, after all, mine so do as you wish.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Wow. You sure he's "the one to marry"? I would seriously have second thoughts about that claim. And by "second thoughts" I mean what-the-hell-are-you-thinking-he's-not-the-one-to-marry-if-he's-sleeping-with-another-woman. But I guess it depends on what kind of marriage you're looking for...? Clearly I have strong opinions, but they are, after all, mine so do as you wish. Um, it's the chick doing the cheating.
prettybaby Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Of course it's cheating. Duh. I'm pretty sure that "the one to marry" would not appreciate it
Author hotgelato Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 thanks for your input. It's not my story as I stated above. I was kinda shocked when my gf told me about this. She says sex is better with her bf but being apart for so long (even though they see each other once every few months) is hard on her, thus just looking for physical relationship nearby. I was also surprised she was so sure that her bf is the one she'll marry and they seem really happy in love together... Just wanted to know your opinions..haha thanks
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