simplythebest Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I had been dating this guy for five months. I really had feelings for him. Last week, he broke up with me. don't know what to do. I don't even know why he broke up with me. He gave me some really lousy reasons, but I don't even know what to believe anymore. I really loved him. Every night I wait for his call, a text or something tat lets me know that he still thinks about me, but nothing yet. I am literally losing my mind. I don't know what to do. Everything reminds me of him. We didn't even fight or anything. Please help!!! Should I contact him? Do you think he will call me?
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I'm sorry for what has happened to you. For the next few days you are going to be wondering why and hurting and crying and hoping he will call you, but the reality of it is...that he won't call you...as of yet. Why that happens, I don't understand, but it's time for you to take a step back. You stated that you did nothing wrong, so why do you need to call him. He messed up with you BIG TIME. Let him come crawling back to you. But if and when that happens, would you really want to get back with him after he gave you lousy reasons why the break up was necessary. Do you think that maybe he had another girl on the side or maybe that he has commitment issues?
gavinus Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I know you want answers!! Please don't contact him!! Let him come to you, if you contact him it will reaffirm to him that you are needy, upset etc and that will make him feel great!! Take the advice of somebody who has contacted their ex who dumped them, give it time, let him come to you
bayouboi Posted March 13, 2009 Posted March 13, 2009 I think it would be good to know some more context of the relationship. Who did most of the engaging for spending time together? Who put the most work into the relationship? The 2 replies above seem to assume that you were the one who put the most work into the relationship which may be true. The reason I bring this up is because I'm in similar length of time together & with never a quarrel yet I'm considering breaking things off and I don't think she'd see it coming. The main reason for me is because I feel like my investment in her is WAY more than her investment in me & all that does is make me devalue myself. If there was more reinforcement from her end, I wouldn't even consider breaking it off because I could see myself starting a family with her. If you were the one who was putting more into the relationship, though, then you should probably just let him go.
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