AmazingLove Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I just wanted some quick advice.. I was seeing somebody that I was introduced to through a best mutual friend... After hanging out a few times he worked hard at getting me to be his official girl. Unfortunately some of life's tragedies hit during the few months we were together. Which bonded us even more tightly & he was really able to show he's got my back. Recently I've been talking about switching jobs (so i would have more time for school & do things that I consider to be more of a success for myself) the first time I mentioned that he told me how when his ex gf was in school she ended up dumpin him telling him she has no time for him etc. (which sorry if someone is a priority to me.. I will make time for you) I've lived on my own since I was 18.. and hes 24 still living with his parents..(he spent a year away but then was robbed & lost his job. So he's playing catch up) so I didn't hold that against him when I met him..it happens, I'm not perfect. Soon after I talked about the changes I want to make for myself he seemed distant..I asked about it he said he's just been stressed bout work etc not me..(I thought he didn't seem right for about a week) but I let it go after saying "aww sorry your stressed bout life, work etc..if there is anything i can do let me know" beyond that respected his space. Also anytime we've had any differences he'd tell me no matter what he does he isn't good enough for me or that I don't accept him? I'd stop him in his tracks and tell him I've NEVER said that. (& the only reason I took so long to say "yes" to being his girlfriend was cause I wanted to see him more then 3 times before dating him...I waited about 5 to 6 weeks before officially say yes to him (but I was never seeing anybody else during that time- I was 5 months out of a serious relationship when I met him) Few days later he called me breaking it off etc' I did all the things your not suppose to do the next 2 days. (Ive never been that way with ANY other guy..but I think some serious tragedies made me connect a lil too much just to have it taken away with no apparent reason) that original convo i played it cool tho but who cares after acting a fool lol. He ignored me. I stepped back a few days..but then broke down another couple texts/unanswered calls. I decided to leave him alone for awhile..cool off. (he told me with his ex's after they dumped or cheated on him he just pretended they died immediately...but I didn't do the dumping or cheat on him, but I feel he's doin the same thing to me) After a week of no talking I hang out with our mutual friend (&some others) we make small talk..and cause I ask How did last night turn of for you? they bring up Mr X. & found out Mr X has retaken up his habit of smoking cigs and pot..(he had quit before we got together cause he knew I didn't like it, but I told him I didn't want to be his reason..cause it'd never stick) but a couple hours after I left dinner I get a call from Mr X. Only no response when i say "hello?" I ended up texting "what was that for?" with no response. Its now Day 12. I was wondering if there is something little I can say on vmail to get the ball rolling or talk to try to settle things ..(at least try?) Sucks we both have the same bestfriend & It made me so uncomfortable cause we all used to hang a lot as a group... (If he dumped cause of his own confidence issues etc...if he was sincere & willin to bust his ass..Yes I'd be open to possibilities, & if not.. I just want to not hesitate to hang with my buddies cause its too weird or hurtful. Any advice on the best thing to say? Also would it be best to give him a lil longer cool of time or give him a ring now? Thank you for advice ahead of time even tho I'm new..(newbies have feelings too!)
Author AmazingLove Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Well don't all jump at once!! Seriously, nobody?
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