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I want to know everyone's opinions on here about your significant other watching porn. HOw does it make you feel about them watching it. For the guys, if you are in a relationship why do you watch it and is it replacing something that you dont have. Vice Versa as well. I have my own opinions on this and before I state them, I want to know the opinions of others..thank you.

Lizzie60 Established Member

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No.. I wouldn't care.. and if we had only one computer I would tell him to hurry up.. I also need to watch my porn... ;)

tanbark813 Established Member

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Can open. Worms everywhere.

 

There are a ton of drawn out porn threads on here and they never end up in any kind of resolution.

 

To sum up:

 

1. 99% of guys admit to watching porn.

2. 1% of guys lie about watching porn.

3. No, it has nothing to do with you.

4. Guys will generally prefer girls who like porn over girls who don't.

JohnnyBlaze Established Member

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Although I'm single at the moment, I have dated girls who looked at porn (both male and female porn). As it never got to the point where watching porn was replacing having sex (and admittedly, the two were often done concurrently), it didn't really bother me. I found that one girl used it as more of a reference than anything else. She'd watch some video clips online and when she found one she liked, she'd call me over and say "hey, let's try this one".

 

As to my own viewing habits, I have no problem watching it. Some of the girls I've dated didn't like porn; they were smart enough to realize that, like every other guy, I did. So the agreement was simple: as long as I wasn't watching it with my girlfriend around and it wasn't cutting into our sex life, it was okay. Kind of that "out of sight, out of mind" thing. And to date, that arrangement has always worked.

 

Some guys watch it as a replacement for the real thing; most of us do it because it's something different. You can own every Lamborghini in the world, but your head's still going to turn when you see a Ferrari drive by. It's just about something different. Not better, not worse, just different. That's why all those fetish sites are still in business - it gives people a chance to watch something that they'd probably NEVER do themselves.

 

Is it safe to assume that your question isn't just a general interest, "what do you think" type of question? Usually when people ask about their SO's viewing porn, it's because something happened recently in their own relationship that involved the other person watching porn.

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Although I'm single at the moment, I have dated girls who looked at porn (both male and female porn). As it never got to the point where watching porn was replacing having sex (and admittedly, the two were often done concurrently), it didn't really bother me. I found that one girl used it as more of a reference than anything else. She'd watch some video clips online and when she found one she liked, she'd call me over and say "hey, let's try this one".

 

As to my own viewing habits, I have no problem watching it. Some of the girls I've dated didn't like porn; they were smart enough to realize that, like every other guy, I did. So the agreement was simple: as long as I wasn't watching it with my girlfriend around and it wasn't cutting into our sex life, it was okay. Kind of that "out of sight, out of mind" thing. And to date, that arrangement has always worked.

 

Some guys watch it as a replacement for the real thing; most of us do it because it's something different. You can own every Lamborghini in the world, but your head's still going to turn when you see a Ferrari drive by. It's just about something different. Not better, not worse, just different. That's why all those fetish sites are still in business - it gives people a chance to watch something that they'd probably NEVER do themselves.

 

Is it safe to assume that your question isn't just a general interest, "what do you think" type of question? Usually when people ask about their SO's viewing porn, it's because something happened recently in their own relationship that involved the other person watching porn.

 

Eloquently put. I'm a woman, I watch porn sometimes. A visual aid for when I'm horny or when I want to get horny.

 

My boyfriend watches porn too, nothing excessive that I've noticed and it doesn't cut into our sex life. I don't care if he watches it. Sometimes, we watch it together.

rlindzie Established Member

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i am anit-porn it is a threat to todays society. Here are some facts. and to answer your question i NEVER date guys who watch porn. and that guy was wonge 71% of men watch porn [George magazine 1994] not 99% porn is not goo and it is another way for women to be opressed. men show your masculinity some other way.

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boys admitted to regular use of hard-core

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[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4]That number jumped to 57% after the same men had watched



10 hours of porn featuring rape scenes. [/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3](Ibid.)

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[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4]In 1983, Alaska and Nevada had the highest per capita



readership of porn and the highest rape rate. [/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3](Baron and Strauss)

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and Families)

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[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4]The murder rate in New York City has dropped to a 40-year



low, while the rape rate has steadily increased. ([/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3]NY Daily News,

2002)

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[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4]81% of serial killers interviewed by the FBI named hard-core



porn their "highest sexual interest[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3]." (Final Report of the Attorney

General's Commission on Pornography, 1986)

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[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4]A 1985 study by Abel found that 50% to 66% of convicted sex



offenders admitted to regular porn use. In a 1988 study by

Marshall, this number climbed to 86%.

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[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4]56% of the rapists in the Marshall study said they imitated



favorite porn scenes while committing their crimes.

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[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4]Pornography was used before or during sexual assault in 41%



of rape cases committed in Michigan between [/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Times-Bold][sIZE=5][FONT=Times-Bold][sIZE=5]1956-1979[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4].

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(Detective Darrell Pope)

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[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4]In Phoenix, neighborhoods with a porn outlet had 40% more



property crime and 500% more sex offenses than

neighborhoods without one. [/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3](U.S. Department of Justice, 1988)

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[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4]After 150 porn shops in Oklahoma City were closed, the city's



rape rate declined 27% over 5 years. ([/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=3]NCSP website)

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[/sIZE][/FONT][/sIZE][/FONT][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4][FONT=Palatino-Bold][sIZE=4]In a 1982 survey of San Francisco prostitutes, Silbert and



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Lizzie60 Established Member

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ouch.. my eyes..

rlindzie Established Member

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ya i copie and paste and came out wrong. i tried toedit but it woulndt let me , sorry :p

Jaytb Established Member

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ouch.. my eyes..

 

:lmao:

 

ya i copie and paste and came out wrong. i tried toedit but it woulndt let me , sorry :p

 

Preview post is your friend.

missdependant Established Member

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I personally hate porn.

 

It is probably just a phase. My last relationship.. the guy watched it all the time and it used to really piss me off. After being with him for about a year, I stopped caring. He watched it all the time.

 

The guy I'm with now, has agreed that if he watches it, I don't have to have sex with him.. he can't finish with me after he's watched porn. I don't know why.. it's his problem really.

 

So it's either porn or sex. Fair trade.

 

And by the looks of it, he'd prefer sex over porn.

prettybaby Established Member

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I honestly don't mind. It's not something we have discussed (yet), and I don't really feel the need to discuss it either. I mean, if he has urges and enjoys watching porn, I really don't care. The vast majority of people watch it at least occasionally.

 

As long as our sex life is fine, what's the problem, right? I don't feel threatened by porn at all. It's a type of entertainment, not a relationship substitute.

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Yeah, I watch porn and my bf does too, though I'm not sure how frequently he watches porn. I'm not against porn as long as it doesn't cut into our sex life, I'm fine with that. We have sex plenty enough :)

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Just to Let everyone know that is interested...I do actually watch porn and so does my boyfriend and I dont really get bothered by it..it is both visual for us. I just want to know people's opinions on this subject.

JohnnyBlaze Established Member

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i am anit-porn it is a threat to todays society. Here are some facts. and to answer your question i NEVER date guys who watch porn. and that guy was wonge 71% of men watch porn [George magazine 1994] not 99% porn is not goo and it is another way for women to be opressed. men show your masculinity some other way.

 

 

  • 20,000 images of child porn are posted on the Internet each week (NSPCC, 2003).
  • In 1998, the US was the world's largest consumer of child pornography. Bangkok Post, 1998)
  • 87% of molesters of girls, and 77% of the molesters of boys admitted to regular use of hard-core pornography.

  • Sexually abused children are about 4 times as likely to develop a psychiatric disorder, and 3 times as likely to develop a substance abuse problem as other children. (Finkelhor and Dzinba-Leatherman, 1994)
  • 25 to 30% of male college students said they might rape a
  • woman "if they could be assured of getting away with it". (Donnerstein, 1983)
    • That number jumped to 57% after the same men had watched 10 hours of porn featuring rape scenes. (Ibid.)

     

 

  • In 1983, Alaska and Nevada had the highest per capita readership of porn and the highest rape rate. (Baron and Strauss)
  • The incidence of rape in America has risen 500% since 1960. (National Victim Center and National Coalition for the Protection of Women and Families)
  • The murder rate in New York City has dropped to a 40-year low, while the rape rate has steadily increased. (NY Daily News, 2002)
  • 81% of serial killers interviewed by the FBI named hard-core porn their "highest sexual interest." (Final Report of the Attorney General's Commission on Pornography, 1986)
  • A 1985 study by Abel found that 50% to 66% of convicted sex offenders admitted to regular porn use. In a 1988 study by Marshall, this number climbed to 86%.
  • 56% of the rapists in the Marshall study said they imitated favorite porn scenes while committing their crimes.
  • Pornography was used before or during sexual assault in 41% of rape cases committed in Michigan between 1956-1979. (Detective Darrell Pope)
  • In Phoenix, neighborhoods with a porn outlet had 40% more property crime and 500% more sex offenses than neighborhoods without one. (U.S. Department of Justice, 1988)
  • After 150 porn shops in Oklahoma City were closed, the city's rape rate declined 27% over 5 years. (NCSP website)
  • Elsewhere in Oklahoma, reported rapes were up 19%. (Ibid.)
  • In a 1982 survey of San Francisco prostitutes, Silbert and Pines found that:
    • 97% had been raped at least once
    • 89% were sexually abused as children
    • 38% had been used in porn as children
    • 24% of the rape survivors said their rapist had mentioned his porn use during the crime

     



First of all, I cleaned up the formatting for you.

 

Secondly, if you're going to copy someone else's post, at least have the decency to state where you got it from. I found your entire list, verbatim (and in order, nonetheless) from a site called "Anti-Porn Activist Network" (www.antipornactivist.com/uploads/handouts/qpf.pdf).

 

I was going to comment on your facts, but there are just so many problems with them that they're just not worth my time going into detail on each one. Of course, the source pretty much alludes to that; I'm sure they're not going to acknowledge anything that might counter or diminish their stance. Of course, me being me, I am going to comment on the one thing that I noticed most of all. (You didn't really think I'd shut up, now did you?)

 

Most of the stats talk about how convicted sexual offenders have viewed porn. Well, of course they did! They ARE sexual offenders, after all. It's like asking a convicted armed bank robber if he likes guns, or a pickpocket if he likes money. You've got your facts backwards for what you're trying to prove.

 

There are three key questions that you should be asking are:

 

  1. What percentage of people who view porn commit a sexual crime?
  2. What is the rise in sexual crime stats versus the rise in the availability of porn? Example: if sexual crimes increased by 2% each year before porn was available, saying that it went up 10% in the first five years that Playboy was available means nothing - based on historical stats, it would've increased by that much regardless.



 

[*]How many more crimes are actually being committed each year versus how many more are being reported? With the advancement of women's and children's rights, many more victims are coming forward and reporting it.





I'm not saying that I doubt there is a correlation between the two. What I am doubting is that it's wholly responsible. As usual, people aren't taking responsibility for themselves anymore. "TV made me do it". "I saw it on the Internet". "I listened to the Judas Priest". (The last one might be a little old for you kids, but the rest of you'll get it!) I don't buy it.

 

Ask any boy growing up in the 80's; we watched a TON of G.I. Joe and WWF Wrestling (now known as WWE, but back then who cared about pandas when you had pile drivers?). At one time or another, we all got our turn at being Destro or Snake Eyes and tried to take over the world or save it. We wrastled; EVERYBODY wanted to be Hulk Hogan...which was cool, since I always liked Rowdy Roddy Piper better. We put our buddies in figure 4 leg-locks and did flying body slams off the top turnbuckle (the back of the couch...or the arm, if you were chicken). But guess what? We were eight at the time! Since then, I have not yet taken over the world or perform a single Running Legdrop on a single human being. Not that I don't want to take over the world, but it does take some time to accomplish.

 

The point is, people have to stop blaming everyone else but themselves and start accepting responsibility. All it takes is enough maturity to realize that what you see on the screen (computer or TV) is rarely like it is in the real world. Watching porn does not necessarily lead to rape. I'm living proof of that. In fact, I think I'll prove it again tonight when I get home!

 

And use national stats. Northern areas (like Alaska) typically do have a higher crime rate. It's called "what to do when there's nothing to do" See also: cabin fever. Vegas was a town built on crime, so I won't even bother with that one.
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Just to Let everyone know that is interested...I do actually watch porn and so does my boyfriend and I dont really get bothered by it..it is both visual for us. I just want to know people's opinions on this subject.

Colour me impressed. Every other time this question is brought up on LS, it is inevitably followed by "my boyfriend watches it all the time and it's killing our relationship". I'm glad you two have a healthy relationship, and I apologize for my earlier assumption.

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As a guy, I use porn to relieve sexual tension, obviously. It doesn't matter if I'm having sex regularly or not, there is always the want for more. I wouldn't expect my mate to come relieve me every time I had an urge, so I'll take care of it myself.

 

That being said, I can totally understand a woman's viewpoint if she says she is hurt and uncomfortable with her man watching porn. I can understand her feelings of inadequacy, etc. But if you plan on telling your man he can't watch porn and take care of his natural urges, then you had better get ready to be the one taking care of them for him.

 

If you can't reach an agreement, then you are sexually incompatible. Personally, my exes have enjoyed watching porn with me, and it can help both parties get worked up for each other too.

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Just to Let everyone know that is interested...I do actually watch porn and so does my boyfriend and I dont really get bothered by it..it is both visual for us. I just want to know people's opinions on this subject.

 

I can help you. If you go back and do a search on all topics with porn in the thread title, you’ll get a very good gauge of where the people here stand. There are lots of posts, and like another poster said, no agreed upon consensus between the sexes. The closest I’ve seen to a consensus is that if it doesn’t affect the sex life then moderate use is ok.

 

I can tell you from what I’ve seen on here you’re in a small minority of women that both watch porn and are not bothered by it. Most women either don't like it or are indifferent to it. There are a few ardent anti-porn crusaders (all female). They are almost always women who have had relationships with men who were addicted to it. If any of them notice this post you can rest assured it will go on for days. Luckily, though, you didn’t have the word “porn” in the title of your post, so maybe they won't see it. :laugh:

 

As for the guys, I haven’t seen any men posting anything negative about it except a few mentioning that it’s a problem when it becomes excessive and affects the sex life. And I don’t think I’ve ever seen a guy post on here that has said he never watches porn. Like tanbark said, if a man falls in the small minority that don’t admit to watching it he’s probably denying it.

 

As a guy, I use porn to relieve sexual tension, obviously. It doesn't matter if I'm having sex regularly or not, there is always the want for more. I wouldn't expect my mate to come relieve me every time I had an urge, so I'll take care of it myself.

 

That being said, I can totally understand a woman's viewpoint if she says she is hurt and uncomfortable with her man watching porn. I can understand her feelings of inadequacy, etc. But if you plan on telling your man he can't watch porn and take care of his natural urges, then you had better get ready to be the one taking care of them for him.

 

If you can't reach an agreement, then you are sexually incompatible. Personally, my exes have enjoyed watching porn with me, and it can help both parties get worked up for each other too.

 

This pretty much sums up my view.

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My main reasoning for this question is that no matter what type of forum I go onto, this question always comes up and most of the time it is women that are truly against it and feel that their boyfriends watch it because they are not happy with them which I think is bullsh@t. Men and Women watch it for the pure visual part and thats all. We are human beings and we like to watch other people...it does not mean that we are trying to replace something that is missing, it does not mean that we want to sleep with these people on TV..they are there for entertainment and thats all. I dont understand why women get mad at their boyfriends/husbands watching because they will never meet these porn stars, they will not talk to them, they are in love with you, not the girl on tv that sleeps with a million people for money. People need to open their minds more and try to experience things and dont judge people for what they like to watch or do.

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Porn, in itself, does not cause problems with relationships. When one person overuses it to the point they are neglecting other parts of life, there is the problem. This is no different then alcohol or drugs, or even gambling or affairs.

 

Look ladies (and I am a lady too), if your man neglects you (I mean actual neglect, not your insecurities) because of porn, it is because there is something wrong with HIM. Vodka companies do not cause alcoholism, people's inability to handle alcohol or deal with stress in an appropriate manner is the cause of alcoholism.

 

It's very easy to blame porn rather than acknowledge that a person has serious issues and often use porn as an escape.

 

But whatever, to each her own, mine enjoys it and I enjoy it with him.

 

Girls, if you will only date a man who doesn't watch or enjoy porn, then be prepared to date a man that will lie to you just to keep you from getting upset. We all know how that turns out.

fral945 Established Member

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My main reasoning for this question is that no matter what type of forum I go onto, this question always comes up and most of the time it is women that are truly against it and feel that their boyfriends watch it because they are not happy with them which I think is bullsh@t. Men and Women watch it for the pure visual part and thats all. We are human beings and we like to watch other people...it does not mean that we are trying to replace something that is missing, it does not mean that we want to sleep with these people on TV..they are there for entertainment and thats all. I dont understand why women get mad at their boyfriends/husbands watching because they will never meet these porn stars, they will not talk to them, they are in love with you, not the girl on tv that sleeps with a million people for money. People need to open their minds more and try to experience things and dont judge people for what they like to watch or do.

 

But you have to admit there obviously is a major gender gap regarding this, since most women do not view it the way you do. I doubt you’ll get many arguments from men. I think a better question (for the women that do find it offensive or threatening) is: what exactly about porn makes you feel threatened?

 

I explored this a bit one time and a few of the women introduced a term I was not familiar with, called “mental monogamy”. The idea was that even thinking about another person sexually was equivalent to cheating. I tried to explain that it is normal for men to think about other women sexually, and we can’t control our thoughts like that, even in a sexually satisfying relationship. They claimed that when they are in a relationship that they only thought about their partner sexually and no one else (which I find hard to believe, but can only take their word for it).

 

Not sure how prevalent that mindset is but found it interesting nonetheless.

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porn is a way for a man to exercise his need for visual variety without cheating on his girlfriend.

 

when a girl doesn't like me watching porn, inevitably, my eyes start wandering a lot more. however, with some porn and a quick fix, i never have to be susceptible to that. it's not like i DESIRE those other girls or WANT anything different, but if there's no porn i notice that my eyes can't help but wander as it's being fed less candy.

 

so ladies, what's worse, a guy who watches porn every now and then or a guy with wandering and tempted eyes.

 

counterintuitive as it may be, i'd say guys who watch porn are doing their girls a favor (good intentions assumed as in he loves her, committed to her, doesn't think of other women but still watches porn). i think that if a guy watches porn and masturbates while his girl is away, he's less likely to cheat or be tempted by other women. again, it's a harmless way for a guy to exercise his need for variety.

tanbark813 Established Member

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i think that if a guy watches porn and masturbates while his girl is away, he's less likely to cheat or be tempted by other women.

 

Totally agreed.

Shygirl15 Established Member

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I honestly don't mind. It's not something we have discussed (yet), and I don't really feel the need to discuss it either.

Just to Let everyone know that is interested...I do actually watch porn and so does my boyfriend and I dont really get bothered by it

No.. I wouldn't care.. and if we had only one computer I would tell him to hurry up.. I also need to watch my porn... ;)

I wish more of us would think of it this way.

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