Flirt in the Internet: is it unfaithfulness?

[lovestory5]

My friend yesterday saw her husband being in the Internet and watching the girl’s photos. Of course, she made a quarrel and now they don’t speak. She doesn’t know what he did, I mean did he only look at the photos or chat or also have the correspondence. The point is that he did something. ; )

What do you think about it? Is it unfaithfulness? Or maybe it is better to cheat in such a way, than to cheat your second half physically? And men, what do you think if women can have flirt in the Internet too? What is your attitude? Will you not pay attention on it? Maybe it is really true that we need some new emotions and we shouldn’t pay so much attention on it? Of course, we should make a quarrel and so on, but still don’t think about it too much? Can really a pair live together for 50 years, not having even a flirt outside? What is your opinion? I am really interesting in your thoughts.

[stbx2007]

Flirting is flirting no matter where you do it or how. Married men have no business communicating with any women they meet on the internet or anywhere else if its not for work. Basically what a married man does should be something his wife would feel okay with him doing in her presence. That eliminates internet porn, looking at photos of women, and certainly communicating with women. If his wife objects to it he shouldn't be doing it. No excuses.

[AmazingLove]

Yes flirting on internet I consider cheating. Is it the same as physically having sex with someone , or even just kissing somebody...obviously not. But adultery is committed in the mind - & using the internet yes the person isn't physically with your husband/wife but mentally, visually, (& sometimes in his/her heart) your partner is choosing to create feelings or spend time with somebody else.

 

Besides sure doesn't take much to take it from an internet scandal, to a "friendly" phone call.. then to meeting face to face.

 

but maybe I'm just old fashioned in liking the whole faithfulness respecting & loving each other approach.

 

How does your friend feel about this?

[Lizzie60]

So.. a lot of LoSers have been unfaithful... but yet, they're swearing they have never, would never cheat.. how hypocritical..

 

They know who they are.. 2 comes to mind right away..

[lovestory5]

Of course, my friend doesn't like it. But I caught myself in thouhgt that maybe women shouldn't allow to flirt in the Internet. She should to tell her husband about it. But if she noticed it and it was not in his presence, she should not pay attention at it. Maybe it is really true that passion goes away at some time of realtions and both men and women should gain some new emotions, for example from the Internet.

[carhill]

So.. a lot of LoSers have been unfaithful...

OK, I confess. I'm a serial LS cheater

 

I swear, every poster I see using "lovestory" and another number make me think "troll".

 

Oh, right...it is a troll....look at the signature line. D@mn, I thought I was better than that.

[Trialbyfire]

There's a line in the sand that couples have to draw about what constitutes cheating. Light-hearted flirting does not, IMO, unless it's gotten out-of-hand, as in consistently with the same person or words/actions you would hide from your SO. The second you post/PM/IM/say or do anything that you can't show your SO, you've already crossed the acceptable threshold.

[carhill]

TBF, did I tell you about the time I went to Ukraine to find a bride?

[Trialbyfire]

Gotcha! Sigs can be stripped!

[carhill]

BTW, I really did. There are times I wish I had stayed. I'll tell you sometime about the time one of the ladies from there, my then girlfriend (wife now) and I went camping. Full disclosure, RV-style. No unfaithfulness...

[socialight]

looking at photos or whatever on the internet is neither flirting nor cheating.

 

Emailing or texting another female with romantic intentions most likely is flirting or cheating.