now_what Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Hello: I'm switching forums - from the breakup to the dating. I will be single in a few weeks after being married for 30 years. My husband and I have been separated since September - he left me to be with another woman. I just turned 50 in January, but do not feel old at all. In fact, my interests include many activities that would be perceived as "younger". Not that I'm looking to date right at the moment, but in the future I can see myself wanting some companionship. I am open to all pointers, hints, suggestions, whatever on how to re-enter the dating world - after basically being out of it since I was 16. I am a mother of three and a grandmother of 2 - only my 15 year old daughter is still at home with me. Any help will be greatly appreciated!
The Blue Pill Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 You go granny! I'm glad to hear you're optimistic about your future. I would assume that you have quite a few social ties built up from all of these years on earth. Is there anyone you might want to know better from your social outings? (Do you attend mass, if so, maybe someone from the parish? That's just one example). I wonder if checking the classified ads in the local paper would be best to start. I know there are a lot of older folk who avoid the internet and like the newspaper, so that might be worth a shot. Maybe your children might be interested in helping you out. That is, if they aren't too uncomfortable with the idea of you dating again. Anyhow, good luck!
Author now_what Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 I might just add for the record - I would not be opposed to dating someone younger than myself - now I don't want to be like Madonna dating 20 year olds, but... somewhat younger would work.
Charles1978 Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I've been trying to hook my dad up for quite some time now. It is hard for older people, that's for sure. I've approached older women many times, and it just never works out. He's a good guy... a doctor, funny, looks great, etc... but he hasn't found anyone yet. He loves us too much and likes spending time with me and my bothers, so he never really looks around. That, and he had the best marriage possible with my mother who passed away at 52 because of bladder cancer. I want him to get out there and enjoy himself, but he just doesn't want to do it. That, and he says it is difficult at his age. If you find any secrets, let me know.
Scum Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 now I don't want to be like Madonna dating 20 year oldsShoot that takes me out of the running I don't have any solid advice for you and I'm not sure you would want any of mine anyway. However, I do have one idea. You mentioned you have a 15 year old daughter living with you. When I was a kid I played soccer and my parents would come to the games and watch. Parents of the other kids would come too. My parents have made some life long friendships through ME haha. I'm not sure what your daughter is into, but maybe you can get to know some of the other single dads or at least make new friends? Anyway best of luck to you and your daughter!
Author now_what Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 I've been trying to hook my dad up for quite some time now. It is hard for older people, that's for sure. I've approached older women many times, and it just never works out. He's a good guy... a doctor, funny, looks great, etc... but he hasn't found anyone yet. He loves us too much and likes spending time with me and my bothers, so he never really looks around. That, and he had the best marriage possible with my mother who passed away at 52 because of bladder cancer. I want him to get out there and enjoy himself, but he just doesn't want to do it. That, and he says it is difficult at his age. If you find any secrets, let me know. I have always been one to spend a lot of time doing things with my children (travel, concerts, conventions) and especially my 15 year old daughter since she is the only one left at home. If not doing things with her, I go out with my mom and sister for lunch and shopping. My husband and I did some things together, but then he started pursuing solo interests and we just won't go there. I don't want to take away much time with my daughter, but as she gets older and is busier with her friends, I can see that there will be time for me to meet new people.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Hmm what are your interests??? What did you like to do before you got married?
Author now_what Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Hmm what are your interests??? What did you like to do before you got married? I can't remember what I liked to do before I got married - that was in 1978 lol. I guess some things haven't changed - I like to go to concerts - mostly alternative music. I also like to sew costumes and go to Anime (Japanese animation )conventions - that is a new interest - my daughters got me hooked on this. Travel is very important to me - I always like to have a trip to look forward to. I love animals - especially dogs.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I can't remember what I liked to do before I got married - that was in 1978 lol. I guess some things haven't changed - I like to go to concerts - mostly alternative music. I also like to sew costumes and go to Anime (Japanese animation )conventions - that is a new interest - my daughters got me hooked on this. Travel is very important to me - I always like to have a trip to look forward to. I love animals - especially dogs. Well maybe you can go to some music concerts in your area, arrange a date with a single good looking guy and just go. I dont do converntions like that they dont come to new york often. Have you ever heard of COSplay??? steer clear if you hadnt.
yeex Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Well, to give you hope, my dad in his 60's got divorced to my previous step mother of 20 years when she walked out on him. He found his next solid relationship within 3 years and got married. She was widowed and is a few years older and they get along great. He has a much better relationship with her then my previous step mother. Now we are all so glad our previous step mother walked out on him. This one is so much better for my dad. I believe they met through some friends at restaurant.
Author now_what Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 [quote=Chrome Barracuda;2082204 Have you ever heard of COSplay??? steer clear if you hadnt. That is what we are doing "cosplaying" my daughters have mostly and even my little granddaghter has a couple of costumes and is adorable. I do have one costume that I wear. We have gone to Chicago a few times and are going to Toronto in May.
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