rod_in_gtown Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Well, I decided to quit eHarmony a little over a month ago, I stopped all my matches and started doing other things with my time. All of a sudden, out of the blue, this girl that I had started coresponding with re-appeared and msgd me on eharmony. she had gone quiet for a couple of weeks so I figured she had found someone. But we start emailing back and forth and set a date. between this email and the date we emailed back and forth a couple of times a day. I started to really like her. she's funny and nice and gets my sense of humor. Comes the date and we have a great date. we're talking and having a great time, laughing and everything seems to be going great, dinner is over, she lets me pay on the condition she buys me a drink at the bar. so we're done and go for a couple of drinks, just beer, we chat some more make light banter, break each other's balls about things we've said earlier, hit some serious subjects and overall have a great time. After 4 1/2 hours she says it's late and she needs to get home. I walk her to her car and we talk about seeing each other again. she's going to be out of town for a few days and then I'll be out of town. so it looks like we won't see each other for a while. I felt there was chemistry until the last minute, she tells me I can track her down and we'll stay in touch. I may have told her a story that may have put her off. about a business trip I took a few years ago. Probably TMI for a first date. And in hindsight, I probably shouldn't have brought it up. But for some reason it seemed appropriate at the time. This was near the end of the night. We hugged good night by her car and that was it. I'm inclined to email her and tell her to ignore the stupid story, but I'm afraid that would emphasize it even more. Should I let it go and wait for her to contact me? She said a couple of times that she had a great time.
P ness Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I may have told her a storyThat made me laugh. Rod, the fact that she wanted to buy you a drink is awesome. She didn't want the night to end. Its clear she felt something early on. I wouldn't email her about the story. I would email her about the highlights of the night and tell her you would love to see her again. Forget about the story. If it felt right at the time its probably not as bad as you believe it is. Besides we all can't bowl a 300! Give her and email and let me know how your next date goes!
Prodigal Princess Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 God, I remember this, getting home after a date and then desperately recalling all the stupid things I said that could have F'd it up. The truth is, she probably didn't think twice about your story, and is worrying about what she said on the date that you might not have liked. Anyway, here's what I think: Do not mention the story again - even if she did have any misgivings about it in the first place, this would just serve to remind her about them.Why wait for her to contact you? I thought she asked you to "track her down"? Women like men who take the initiative. Wait a decent amount of time and then email her. Perhaps email her while you're out of town and tell her something interesting that's happened to you in that place (i.e. so you're not like "*pant pant* I really like you please let me see you again", more like "hey I thought you'd appreciate this little story, by the way, want to catch up when Im back in town?")Good luck how, and let us know how you go.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 You said that she told you to contact her (if I'm reading that right). So how about taking the initiative and emailing her, telling her what a great time you had and suggest a next date?
Author rod_in_gtown Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Well, right after I wrote this post she accepted me on messenger and came online. so I wrote her about being glad we got to hang out and she said the same. I cut it short and told her I'd let her get some rest since she and I had long days today. I went on a "good" date a few months back and the girl went silent on me. so I was afraid that might happen with this one but it didn't. I'll stay in touch via email and probably call her this weekend.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 She was at the confererence for work, and I saw their agenda and it was kind of insane. So I wasn't too worried when she didn't pick up the phone over the weekend. She came back last night on the red eye and we IMd very briefly today but she's still recovering so I made it a point to keep the conversation short (plus I'm not a big fan of long IM conversations with someone with whom I have a romantic interest). There's a musical that's playing in DC for the following weeks so I want to invite her to see it. She and I both like musicals so I think it would be appropriate, however, is it too soon for that kind of date? it would be a little on the expensive side. Another option is the Improv which I always enjoy.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 I'd go for the Improv. And I actually really like musicals, so it's not a preference thing. I just think going the slightly more casual route would be good at the beginning, here.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 Awesome! I looked up the performer, asked her and she accepted! We have a second date people!! :love:
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 19, 2009 Posted March 19, 2009 Yeah!!!!!! And when that goes well, you can both go see the musical....A Chorus Line, by any chance...?
Author rod_in_gtown Posted March 19, 2009 Author Posted March 19, 2009 Well, I wanted to go see chicago which is playing at the National Theatre but tickets for that are wicked expensive. Then there's something playing at the warner theatre but I forget what it is. I'm excited about my date :bunny: Plus the guy playing, Chris Finnegan, is apparently very funny. He was on Comedy Central's premium blend.
beefburrito Posted March 20, 2009 Posted March 20, 2009 forget the story. if you bring it up its just gonna make her think about it more, let it go and bring up the fun night you 2 had and make a plan to meet up again
Author rod_in_gtown Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 The date is tomorrow, contact has been sporadic but I'm going to be positive about this whole thing. I'm picking her up at 7ish, I'm a little nervous but excited to see here again, it's been quite a long time since our first date!
D-Lish Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 That's great news! What story did you tell her ya big perv?
Author rod_in_gtown Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 That's great news! What story did you tell her ya big perv? If you come online on msn I'll tell you
D-Lish Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 If you come online on msn I'll tell you I'd have to block hordes of pervs. I'll go on offline (shh) and say hello
BobSacamento Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 Oh yeah Chris Finnegan is mad funny. You'll have a blast. Good luck!
JamesM Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 If you come online on msn I'll tell you Nothing like tantalizing us with a piece of juicy gossip...and then hide the meat.
jadelil25 Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 I dont think you should email her about the story. It sounds like she was not too worried and I think that it will not be good if you bring it up again. I would say the best thing to do is leave it until about 3 days after the date and then send her a polite happy email. Let her know that you enjoyed the other night, you hope to do something again when you are back in town and just ask how she is and how her trip is going. This shows that you care, like her but is also light hearted.
likestolaugh Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 hey! Good luck and have fun with your date tonight! That sounds like the perfect kind of second date idea... it's almost a recipe for success, as it generally puts everyone in a good mood
Author rod_in_gtown Posted April 2, 2009 Author Posted April 2, 2009 hey! Good luck and have fun with your date tonight! That sounds like the perfect kind of second date idea... it's almost a recipe for success, as it generally puts everyone in a good mood Thanks! I'm borderline giddy... ugh, I make myself sick sometimes I had a very productive morning at work but about 30 minutes ago we texted briefly to get her home address and now I can't focus on work AT ALL...
likestolaugh Posted April 2, 2009 Posted April 2, 2009 oh, and you have to report back and let everyone know how it went... although I'm sure you will anyway.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 Second date went GREAT! we had good seats, great conversation (she's really good at making conversation) and we have a lot in common, I haven't brought up my previous relationships and neither has she, but I like the way these dates with her have been going, she's very family oriented and I love that she has a great family. Ok, back to the date, finnegan is freaking hilarious, my head still hurts from laughing, and the other act and the MC were pretty good too. we had a few beers and burritos (she can eat!) and I took her home. I'm going to keep the rest to myself but I think this one is going to be special. There will be more dates in the future, I think she's a keeper!
likestolaugh Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 *high five*!! Glad to hear she's good at making conversation... that's one of the things I wish my gf would be better at. sounds like things are going well for ya!
Author rod_in_gtown Posted April 3, 2009 Author Posted April 3, 2009 I love that about her, Now I'm struggling what to do for a third date, it has to be on a weekday because her weekends are taken up with traveling for family stuff, I'm thinking I'll invite her over and make dinner for her either Monday or Tuesday. Too soon?
likestolaugh Posted April 3, 2009 Posted April 3, 2009 I don't think Tuesday is too soon... Monday isn't really either, but it's nice to have time to miss each other at the start of something good... so I'd go with Tue. Then again, you know her better than anyone here... so only you know the kind of vibe you're gonna communicate.
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