Author Lost_2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Author Posted March 21, 2009 Holding-On, also the president President of India is a woman and also the most influential political figure in India, Sonia Gandhi is a woman too. Interestingly, Sonia Gandhi is from Italy but now an Indian citizen.
yongyong Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 if someone thought you were from pakistan, sri lanka or whatever, don't try to educate them. in their eyes, you guys look the same. (the less educated person they are, the more they will try to generalize it) BTW, when a girl asks if I were from north or south korea, it shows her education level about the rest of the world. India and Pakistan are completely different w.r.t culture. Funny that you just extrapolated Indians from Pakistanis. I would have accepted whatever you had to say if those were Indians. But Pakistan is more like Afghanistan not India, just so that you know. And it's plain sad that I have to live with so much misunderstanding. I myself respect women. I don't care what some Pakistanis say. Edit: Ever thought that they may have felt uncomfortable? Most Indian students you are talking about keep to themselves because they feel uncomfortable - not because they think that you don't have good ideas. Most of them are kinda shy and would talk to you if you start but wouln't initiate because they can't get outside their comfort zone.
Author Lost_2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Author Posted March 21, 2009 Thanks for the tip. I was almost going into a full fledged lecture mode. Haha.
blue16 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Just re-hashing what other people of said, but I'm a white guy and I have a fair amount of East Indian friends...all but one of them is born here. Probably the most off-putting thing is the accent. I have one east indian friend and while she does have a slight accent, it's nothing overwhelming or anything. Since you mentioned you don't have a thick indian accent then I think you're already in good shape to becoming more assimilated. And as others mentioned, clothing is a big issue. If you have glasses, get those nice black framed ones that everyone is wearing these days. Do something cool with your hair...you can go to a stylist and get them to show you a bunch of hairstyles that might suit you. Make sure your clothes are 'North Americanized' if you get my drift. I'm not saying you should forget your culture, because you definitely shouldn't, but I think dressing closely to Americans will definitely help in the assimilation process. Also, why aren't you interested in East Indian women? They're better looking than American women anyway.
Author Lost_2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Author Posted March 21, 2009 Also, why aren't you interested in East Indian women? They're better looking than American women anyway. Thanks for the reply. It's funny that you said that 'coz most of the time I find the opposite to be true. Also I am a diversity-junkie and I don't know exactly how my brain functions at times.
Ocean-Blue Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 if someone thought you were from pakistan, sri lanka or whatever, don't try to educate them. in their eyes, you guys look the same. (the less educated person they are, the more they will try to generalize it) BTW, when a girl asks if I were from north or south korea, it shows her education level about the rest of the world. Some people think a brown person is necessarily Indian, just based on what they think an Indian looks like. This has nothing to do with education. Most people, outside of a given group, have a harder time distinguishing between one group and another, similarly featured group. I've been guilty of this myself. But when someone makes an outrageous guess about your ethnicity, then you know they don't go out much. I do agree, though, that when a moron argues with you about India being representative of SA, they betray their ignorance. I once had a prof ask me where "my people" were from. Before I responded, he guessed that I was Indian. I went on to correct him, but he didn't care. He kept insisting that it was the "same thing" anyway. I'm always impressed when someone gets it right and actually knows Asian geography. And Lost, you'll find that the longer you stay in the US, the easier it will become for you (duh).
angie2443 Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 Now I have to say that Mohinder Suresh's character has to be one of (if not THE) hottest actors on that show. I adore his accent (because I can actually understand him unlike the customer service people) and love his look. . He is the hottest on that show!
vazelin Posted March 21, 2009 Posted March 21, 2009 If you are posting a question like this on a public forum, chances are you are thinking too much. I'm Asian (I was born and raised in SE Asia) and have been in the US for six years. And yes I do speak with an accent too. I'm 5'4" (very short), 24 years old and graduated with a 3.8 GPA in an engineering program from a top ranked school. So as you can see I have every possible "problem" that some of the posts described. When I first came to the US it took some time to assimilate. I surrounded myself with white friends (because the town I'm in was 99% white). Eventually over time they started to call me twinkie (yellow on the outside, white on the inside). Then I started dating. Of all my dates, I have had only one Asian gf. And I did not do that on purpose, I just dated whoever that I was comfortable with. Now, I am dating this beautiful girl (she is white) that I really love. The most important thing is that you need to be confident. Forget about being different, if a girl will not give you a chance just because you are of a different race you should just move on. My gf loves me because of who I am. We are both triathletes (thats how we met) and we train for the Ironman together. Having similar interests is very important. She also says I'm smart, charming, sweet and respectful (that was from a really sweet card she wrote me for Vday). As you can see she did not say she likes me because I'm Asian. She likes me because of what I can offer as a person. And its the same for me too. I like her because she is very level-headed, has goals, likes to be challenged, positive and smart (she is a blue-eyed blonde and don't believe the things people say about blondes). In short, just be confident of yourself and try not to overanalyze things. Good luck!
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