mgnjfd Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 tomorrow I am hanging out with some girl and she said she is going to be picking me up and she wants to go to the beach. I know its probably gonna be cold but she loves the beach and she wants to walk it and she said it will be fun. Keep in mind this is the first time I will be meeting her but she seems really cool and she said she wants to pick me up. She said I will enjoy it and she will too so I dunno what she means by that but I am shy and I would like help on what I should do. She said it will be cute so I dont know if she is expceting me to make any moves so I dunno. She said we can take a lot of pictures and stuff. On the ride home when she drops me off, should I give her a hug or what? please explain cause I am not very good with this stuff and I would like to know what I should do.
Tyra Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Well, you said she seems really cool so just relax yourself. Have good conversation and be yourself. Don't try to be something that you're not. Make you sure you enjoy yourself and treat her the way she deserves to be treated. Don't make any moves on her. But if she comes onto you, then anything will be bound to happen. But don't come onto her. At the end of the date, it's o.k to give her a nice hug.
Author mgnjfd Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 PLEASE HELP fast, date is tomorrow afternoon!
Author mgnjfd Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Well, you said she seems really cool so just relax yourself. Have good conversation and be yourself. Don't try to be something that you're not. Make you sure you enjoy yourself and treat her the way she deserves to be treated. Don't make any moves on her. But if she comes onto you, then anything will be bound to happen. But don't come onto her. At the end of the date, it's o.k to give her a nice hug. Tyra, thanks for the quick reply! thats great advice. Thank a lot!
P ness Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Sounds perfect. Don't worry! Worrying is going to be your worst enemy. You want to just relax and have a good time. I know this is very vague. But if you are yourself (to a point, don't talk about star wars) and calm she will be too. Girls feed off your body language, if you are calm...she is calm. If you are comfortable...she is comfortable. I'm glad she picked the beach. This is obviously a place she has been before since she wants to go and told you about the fun you will have and the pictures you can take. This is one less thing you have to worry about! Often times when you take a girl to a she has not been to before it makes it more difficult. First she is on the first day with a new guy and second its an unfamiliar atmosphere. No all you need to do is get her comfortable and trusting in you (which I talked about above). On your next date, take her somewhere you know. If you take her to a restaurant go to a place you are familiar with. That way you know whats on the menu and things will go smoother if she says "I've never been here before, I wonder whats good." Your comfortable and calm in this situation and so she will be too. As far as the kissing here you go. Take her hands in yours. Point out that your ring finger is longer than your pointer finger but isn't the case with her hands. (don't do this if is not!). If she says wow blah blah blah tell her that it has to do with testosterone (this may not be the best example, but just get a hold of her hands). The test is give her hands a small squeeze, if she squeezes back shes all yours! Its safe to do a kiss because she wants it. This test indicates her trust in you and level of comfort. She wont even notice that she is squeezing back. Good luck! Let me know how the date goes! Its going to be simple man!
The Blue Pill Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 To be honest, a first date should be a mutual meeting place. I'm probably a little shy like you meeting new people, I DEFINITELY wouldn't want to be riding around with someone I don't know. Best plan would have been to meet somewhere driving separately for the first date, but if she's as cool as you make her sound, then I hope you have a ton of fun!
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