artchick88 Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I'm getting involved with my ex again but I feel like I'm putting in all the effort. I call him maybe 80% of the time so I've decided to let him initiate our interractions more often. How long should I wait for him to call me and when does it become obvious he's not really into me anymore? Thanks!
The Blue Pill Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Tell him you want that 50-50 love, not that 20-80 stuff! Seriously though um....just be honest and say that you don't feel that you're being reached out to enough and ask him what's going on?
Tyra Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 If you been trying to reach out to him with an 80% effort, and it doesn't seem like he's showing any interest or concern, I would fall back from him and see what steps he will try to make. If he doesn't call you while you're letting him put some type of effort into it, it will be obvious that he's not interested. But you'll be fine.
P ness Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Oh no. Exs are the hardest to pick apart. Sure, go ahead let him initiate, but who likes to play these games? I don't know if you dumped him last time or you got dumped, but obviously it didn't work then and isn't working now. So my advice: while you wait for him to call, figure out why you are waiting. Ask yourself what you see in the fella and if you enjoy these games keep waiting. Otherwise, if it didn't work before and isn't working now...whats your number? Breaking up can be hard (as you must know), but you need to weigh the pros and cons here and step up. There are a lot of guys out there and some are better than others. I will be the first to tell you that we are all scum, just some float higher in the bucket. Good luck!
redant Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I would try to move forward with my life as much as possible I do know it's hard. Try to get out and make yourself happy and don't wait on him. He may be involved with other things. It's hard to say though because I know someone who would persist and chase her guyand they have remained together because she has been persistant, but imnot sure how happy she is also I don't think they were ever broken up. Good luck.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Oh no. Exs are the hardest to pick apart. Sure, go ahead let him initiate, but who likes to play these games? I don't know if you dumped him last time or you got dumped, but obviously it didn't work then and isn't working now. So my advice: while you wait for him to call, figure out why you are waiting. Ask yourself what you see in the fella and if you enjoy these games keep waiting. Otherwise, if it didn't work before and isn't working now...whats your number? Breaking up can be hard (as you must know), but you need to weigh the pros and cons here and step up. There are a lot of guys out there and some are better than others. I will be the first to tell you that we are all scum, just some float higher in the bucket. Good luck! I agree with all this. I'd quit initiating and see what he does. And if he NEVER contacts you, well then you have your answer. Why would you put a time period on him not contacting you to contact him back?
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