Charmaine_Champagne Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 my boyfriend and i were together for 6 years since we were 17. i was his first girlfriend and he was my first boyfriend, first serious loves n all that. around a month ago i sensed he was becoming distant with me and he began ignoring me for weeks even on valentines day and so i took the hint.. so we didn't officially break up, he just ignored me because he didn't have the guts to break up with me.. very childish and very cruel esp after 6 years.. i know that alot of teenage romances fade out as people grow up, mature, move on etc but i don't understand how he could just cut me out of his life.. i'm finding it hard to move on esp the way things ended i didn't really get closure or answers.. if he wanted to see other people or whatever i'd rather he just told me straight instead of playing mind games and doing the whole sly, silent ignoring thing.. whenever i asked him to be honest with me and tell me what was going on i got no response and he would try to make out i was the one ignoring him. its now been 20 days no contact and iv just received a text from him asking why he hasn't heard from me (playing games again) should i answer him or maintain no contact?? does he even miss me? i miss him so much, i feel very lonely, and i can't concentrate in college i'm falling behind with my work, alot of my 'friends' aren't really true friends, they all have boyfriends so we don't socialize together as much.. i'm very lonely, i miss him and i'd give anything for him to just call me and give me an explaination but i know he's treated me badly and i have to move on.. but how do i do this after so long. i'm an attractive girl, i'm well groomed like to look nice, dress well, etc but i'm very shy and quiet some people say aloof.. and people can take me the wrong way and think i'm stuck up.. so i dont meet people easily.. my ex on the other hand isn't that attractive but he is very outgoing and forward in his personality, i know he'l meet someone easily.. and maybe guys are less fussy.. esp on the rebound.. i miss him and its hard to think of him with someone else. how do i get through this?
The Blue Pill Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I thought it was hard after 2 or 3 years, but 6, wow. You're right in that high school things usually don't work, because almost nobody is ready to settle out of high school. Regardless, that's no excuse for a poor breakup attitude from your man. He must be joking if he's actually confused after not hearing from you for 20 days. If I were you, I'd write him back only ONCE. And I would say something along the lines of: "The reason we haven't spoken is because you obviously broke up with me, even though you lacked the audacity to do so in a mature way. I'm focusing on myself now and moving on in my life..." and end it with whatever you want. You could even be more polite, but I'm not THAT polite when someone ignores me for a month.
Author Charmaine_Champagne Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 i feel i should respond the way you suggest- if i'm going to respond at all. atleast that way it will have been me who ended it and not him, despite all his game playing. though some of my family have told me to give him no response and just ignore him the same as he did to me and that eventually he will go crazy wondering where i am and what i'm up to and maybe come crawling back.. although maybe he actually wants me to officially be the one to end it as he didn't have the guts to and it takes the guilt away from him
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