MashedPotatoes Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 So, here's my story... A good friend of mine has been trying to set me up with this girl for the past couple months. She set up a little get together so we could finally meet. It wasn't really a first date because there were like 10 people in the group...let's call it a pseudo first date. She initially cancelled because she was feeling to well, but my friend insisted that she came. This girl also lives about 50 miles from where we all met up so I considered a good sign that she drove all the way out to meet up with me...or maybe she didn't want to let down my friend. Anyways, we chatted for a little while and got to learn some things about her, but she only stayed for about an hour. It was already 12pm by the time she left and the fact that she was sick, I completely understood she had too leave. I sent her a follow up message the following day saying it was nice to see her and suggested we hit up some bars that she talked for a little bit during our "date." She responded that we definitely should and gave me a time period from wed-saturday, the following week, after her acting rehearsals. I asked if she was available on Thursday and haven't heard back from her since. Our mutual friend asked her what she thought and she responded that she wanted to get to know me better and take things slow. My friend uploaded a picture she took of us during our "date". A couple people commented that we looked good together and some other various light hearted comments. The girl commented on the photo and said something to the effect that she looked like a chipmunk and untagged herself from the photo. So, I have a couple questions...What should I take from her removing herself from the photo? Do girls normally untag themselves? It's been a week since I last heard from her. I don't want to ask her again if she want to go out again, considering we already made tentative plans. Instead of asking again, should I comment on the photo she removed herself from and say something like "chipmunk? more like a squirrel if you ask me?" I dunno, something teasing and casual like that. She's a very sweet girl and I really want to take her out on an official date so we can have a more intimate conversations. Any suggestions/advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks.
redant Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Something funny to get her attention and make her laugh might be good. I thought since she untagged her photo that maybe she does not want anyone to see her with you or she just didn't like the wayshe looked. Maybe instead of saying she looks like squirrel you could flatter her somehow? A cute, hot chipmunk? Just to see how or if she responds. Then you will know if she has an interest. good luck!
P ness Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Hey there MashedPotatoes. Its my first time around here also. I'm going to do my best to tell you what I would do. What should I take from her removing herself from the photo? Do girls normally untag themselves?I would worry more about your macronutrient ratios than her untagging herself. Girls are very self-conscious of their appearance. I mean how long does it take you to get ready to go out to the bars compared to women? Don't get me wrong, I appreciate when women get prettied up. But my point is women are very picky about which pictures they want online. The smallest imperfections they spot right away. Take for example the SI swimsuit edition. It is loaded with beautiful women who are all airbrushed. Normal girls have a lot to live up to in their minds. She was sick, maybe not looking her best (in her mind) = untag. I can say with certainty it has nothing to do with you. It's been a week since I last heard from her. I don't want to ask her again if she want to go out again, considering we already made tentative plans.It's been a week. Give her all call, ask how she is feeling and tell her that you really had a great time with her. Let her know that you want to get to know her better. The deal here is that women love confident men. You have to believe in yourself and believe in the fact that she is interested in you. If you truly believe this, your whole attitude will be different. This includes body language etc. She will notice in a positive way. The other thing is, put yourself in her shoes. Lets say she wasn't into you, even though she is, she isn't going to be upset with a phone call. By the way, call don't send a message on facebook or myspace. No need to hide behind a social networking site. Again be confident about yourself and ability. So yes, call her and if she isn't into you, fine, what is the worst that can happen? Like I said let her know that you had fun, ask how she is feeling, and then say you wanted to make sure that your plans are still on. should I comment on the photo she removed herself from and say something like "chipmunk? more like a squirrel if you ask me?" I dunno, something teasing and casual like that.No. I like the idea with a few changes but not online. You don't want to bring down a girl in that since. While it can be beneficial to bring her confidence down some, you need to be careful. Try this, when you see her bring up the picture. Don't tell her she looks like a chipmunk! Instead say, I thought your comment about looking like a squirrel was funny. I don't think you look like a squirrel, but when you talk sometimes your nose wiggles, its cute. Hope these tips help. Take em or leave em. Not sure if that is your style but its what I would do given the info. Good luck man, and I expect a report back!
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I'm going to say "Nooooooooooo..." on the squirrel comment. She may be self-conscious about something - maybe she was teased when she was younger and called a chipmunk. You really don't want to be bringing that up. If anything, you could say "...more like a fox" instead of the squirrel thing. If you're going to call her an animal, choose a "sexy" animal. But yeah, I've untagged myself in photos if I felt I looked stupid. I take great care in choosing which photos go on my FB or MS - I really don't want one severely unflattering picture to gum up the works. Yeah, I know it might sound overly self-conscious, but I think a lot of pressure is put on girls to look "perfect." Just take a look at the media - they get a big kick out of catching celebrities without makeup and hair done. You say you asked her if she was available Thursday and haven't heard back. Well, obviously this was not over the phone - are you texting? How about calling her instead? Text can be so impersonal. I'd find it a little strange to be asked out for a date over text. Then at least you get your answer right then. If she says no, you can suggest a different day.
Prodigal Princess Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I asked if she was available on Thursday and haven't heard back from her since. This is all you need to know. Do not chase her, please. Have some self respect. The only reason she told your mutual friend that she might have wanted to get to know you better was because your friend went to the trouble of trying to set you up and she didn't want to be a b*tch about it. And "take it slow"? - seriously, that is just the nail in the coffin. Sorry to be harsh but I've been this girl and believe me, if she was at all interested: 1. she would have stayed longer (I don't care if she was sick - she was well enough to drive that far); and 2. she would have responded to your request for a date - DUH! Don't be "that guy" that we all snicker about. Find someone who is actually interested.
Scum Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I'm sorry but I feel Prodigal Princess's reply may be misleading. While I do agree with some points I have to disagree others. Correct, you don't want to chase her around bagging her to date you. You have only been on one "date" if you can call that a date. And if I am reading this right, you only have sent her one message which was asking about thursday night? You are definitely not chasing at this point. I also agree that she may have been just being nice by saying she wanted to get to know you. But does she expect you to quit pursuing her with the line "I want to take it slow"? I don't see a clear indication here of don't try. Now I'm not telling you to call or message her over and over. I would call one more time and see whats up. Make sure you have some ideas for a date on hand. You don't want to call and sound dumb... "Umm wanna like do something thursday still?" After that call things should be clearer. You don't want to be "that guy" but you also don't want to let a possible girl go because you are afraid she doesn't like you. Prodigal Princess may very well be right though. But personally I wouldn't want to give up after one message not replied to. My vote is to call her.
prettybaby Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 She doesn't sound very interested. I mean, don't get me wrong, if you two manage to hang out a few times, her interest *could* grow. But let's face it: it's no love at first sight as far as she's concerned, and she seems lukewarm about it all from what I can tell.
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