Ex_Back Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Great site! I must say, I wish I had known about this site some time ago. never fails. My GF and I went through some pretty rocky times not that long ago. She eventually decided to break it off. needless to say, I was devastated and I found myself asking if I could possibly get her back. It took some time and I don't want to bore you with the details but I'm happy to say that we were able to work things out. Things are also going great now. The process of getting her back was truly unbelievable... and I made a lot of mistakes. I thought this post might give some hope to others. Does anyone else have advise about how to go about getting an ex back after a break-up?
chrissreef Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 What was the story of you getting her back? (if I may ask?) Was it no contact? friends? something else? how long before you started talking again? etc. thanks!
Author Ex_Back Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 well, fortunately we were still talking at the beginning but it was pretty much one sided. Of course I was just trying to get her back. she didn't like that. eventually NC was about the only option. lol I found that at least calmed her down a bit. after some trial and error I was able to put together a few other approaches that actually worked. Just getting her to call me back after some time was one of the biggest tricks. lol
Author Ex_Back Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Was I the exception to the rule in getting back with my ex or has anyone else been successful? If so, How did you do it? Any tips?
Author Ex_Back Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 All, For those interested I can across this compilation or FREE advice articles. thought it was kinda interesting. Nothing mind blowing but a good read. all the best
Author Ex_Back Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Thoughts? Does anyone else have any advice in this area? I know I wish I had some more insight when I was struggling. let's all share.
AmazingLove Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 What finally got her to call you back? & how long did you NC? Personally, I'm doing NC right now. My bestfriend story is interesting.. she only dated her bf for a few months (3 or 4) (both played the game of each other of not wanting anything serious, even though they were only seeing eachother) she got tired of playing that game & he wasn't interested. They do not talk, email, anything for 6 months.. then one night (lonely) she goes there pressures him into sex (she admits he kept saying this isn't a good idea) get this..after sex he actually turns her to go home. She acts tough but of course is devastated & feels stupid. (that part I still say.. I can't believe he did that to you!!) Within a week he calls her & they've been together since (about 7 years) . Married, pregnant with their 3rd child. They've had difficulties mostly in the beginning with his immaturity..(mostly due to his upbringing) But of all the relationships I see... they are the most well rounded now, respectful:love: and loving. That part of him sending her away I still tell him...what a jerk move! But luckily he also believed that too.
playlislay Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Hahaha!! Dude, youre meant to tell your story! I can see that some people are CRYING OUT for you to explain in detail. Good luck!
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 "Does anyone else have advise about how to go about getting an ex back after a break-up?" I would think that talking is the first step in a relationship in regards to trying to work things out, although there are certain situations that you don't want worked out. If it can't be worked out than the whole space, "NC" ordeal should take place.
Author Ex_Back Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Wow.. that's some great input. Amazing... I'm glad to hear thing worked out for your friend. 7 years is a long time when things seemed so doomed in the beginning. Kudos For me it was NC that got things rolling.. of course only after I stopped all the begging. was I really that pathetic? lol Getting her to call me back was the next trick. (and not an easy one either) after that is was trial and error on a few different "tricks" (I hate using that term.. but I guess that's kinda what they are lol)
BCCA Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Wow.. that's some great input. Amazing... I'm glad to hear thing worked out for your friend. 7 years is a long time when things seemed so doomed in the beginning. Kudos For me it was NC that got things rolling.. of course only after I stopped all the begging. was I really that pathetic? lol Getting her to call me back was the next trick. (and not an easy one either) after that is was trial and error on a few different "tricks" (I hate using that term.. but I guess that's kinda what they are lol) I'm going to level with you, out of respect for your well being. Anytime you use tricks or other manipulators to get someone to do something, they may work in the short term, but things usually go back to the way they were eventually. Seriously, unless she has it in her mind that she made a huge mistake and wants you back, and says as much, all youre doing is passing the time for her. I urge you to treat lightly, and keep a close eye on things. Dont let things go for the sake of staying together right now, because sooner or later, the problems will resurface and youll only have wasted time. I say this as someone who wasted another year with a girl who got back with me under the same circumstances. Turns out, I was really just better than nothing at the time. Obviously, it didnt work out.
Author Ex_Back Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 I'm going to level with you, out of respect for your well being. Anytime you use tricks or other manipulators to get someone to do something, they may work in the short term, but things usually go back to the way they were eventually. Seriously, unless she has it in her mind that she made a huge mistake and wants you back, and says as much, all youre doing is passing the time for her. I urge you to treat lightly, and keep a close eye on things. Dont let things go for the sake of staying together right now, because sooner or later, the problems will resurface and youll only have wasted time. I say this as someone who wasted another year with a girl who got back with me under the same circumstances. Turns out, I was really just better than nothing at the time. Obviously, it didnt work out. Thanks BCCA - That's great advice and I agree 100%. I think my last post might have come off wrong. Like I mentioned they're not really ticks exactly. I guess no more than using NC with the full intention of trying to pursue thing later. It's similar to the approach used here.
BCCA Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I guess no more than using NC with the full intention of trying to pursue thing later Anyone doing that is only wasting their time and fooling themselves. NC is meant to heal, NOT, and a big emphatic NOT, to manipulate someone into coming back. Manipulation is NEVER going to work. Its merely putting a bandaid over a bullethole. It's similar to the approach [COLOR=#660000]used here.[/COLOR] WASTE OF MONEY! Those books are a crock. Almost all of them acknowledge the fact that it just might not work. Either someone is going to come back, or they arent. Spending your money on that is so pointless, and agian, WONT WORK long term.
Author Ex_Back Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Yeah - I guess you have a point. Although I suppose unless you have a crystal ball nobody can really say what might help. That's of course if you really want to get back together. You might just want to get over the pain and move on. This one is really just a bunch of of free advice. I know I've checked out a few of these books, back when I was going through "the funk" as I call it. Some were crap... and some were ok. Worst case you get a different point of view and a little help and motivations Every situation is different, and it really just depends on your mindset. Of course... that's easier to digest once it all done... one way or another. :-)
msjules Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Sometimes people get percentages of the profits when these books sell. They're called "affiliates". Just saying.
Author Ex_Back Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 This is true. I've heard the same thing... and you can find these guides everywhere.
BCCA Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 This is true. I've heard the same thing... and you can find these guides everywhere. Stop promoting your waste of money system here, dude.
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