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I'm 22 years old. Me and my husband got married in aug of 08. Many people believe that we are trying too soon, but that's their opinion, I want a baby. And me and my husband are very ready. I never was the 'party girl'. I never go out, I don't drink, I've never used drugs. I'm a very 'home person'. We are finaccially able to have one, and I'm ready. (I just want to clear that up, I do not need any more lectures)

 

I was on the Depo Provera shot for a year, and went off of it six months ago. The whole time I was on the shot I never had my cycle. And even before getting on the shot I sometimes would go two months without a cycle. So I know that between the depo and my other problems I am going to have huge problems getting pregnant.

 

We have been trying for the last two months (I didn't want to try too soon after getting off of the Depo) We have had no luck.

 

I haven't gotten my cycle back, which is of course the main, and probably only reason why we are not having any luck.

 

These are some suggestions I have heard-

To go on the 'patch' to regulate my cycle

To take 'Folic' intakes

Drink lots of water to get the Depo out of my system

And a few more, which I cannot remember

 

I am not sure about the patch, it seems like it would only prolong me getting pregnant, and as far as folic I don't even know how I would get my hands on that. I have been drinking lots of water.

 

I knew when I got pregnant I would have to stop smoking, however I read that smoking while you're trying to get pregnant can cause a delay so I have quit, cold turkey. I am doing fine. It was very hard, and I do 'crave' but if it helps, it will be worth it.

 

 

Anyways, my point is that if you could suggest anything that would help, it would be really appretiated. If you had any problems conviecing, and tried something that helped... please let me in on it.

 

And also your input on what others have suggested me (the short list above) would be awesome too.

 

I will do anything to have a baby... please help me.

 

And if you need any more info, please ask!!!

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I know it's early, too, but have y'all consulted a fertility specialist in light of your cycle history?

 

my nephew and his wife went to one after miscarrying a second time, and basically, she needed to beef up her vitamins and start taking folic acid to provide a good "environment" for conception. (She later found out she had a lazy uterus or whatever it's called when it won't allow you to carry for long, but tricks a woman's body into starting contractions ... bedrest for almost the last 1/3 of her pregnancy, but little stinker came out BIG and has only gotten bigger in the past 15 months)

 

it's always best to get your doctors on board so that you know what needs to be done and they all know you know. You know? ;)

 

meanwhile, the best thing you can do is to just relax. Stress (even from plain old desire for a babe) works against you when it comes to conceiving.

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I think, believe it or not, you also need to not "try so hard, and hope so long".... it increases your stress levels, and can affect your cycle and fertility.

 

Try to relax.

And please know, even without contraception of any kind, 2 months is not a long time to not get pregnant. It can take anything up to a year or so.....

 

Infertility is usually defined as failure to conceive after a full year of having unprotected intercourse.

 

Keep calm, and try to put it out of your mind.

Look after your health, keep fit, and enjoy your youth.

 

And consider this:

A good number of failures to conceive, are down to the male infertility problems, not the woman's fertility.

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manda – start monitoring your cycle so that you know when your fertile times are. Because you always will ovulate even if you don't have a period and you're not already pregnant.

 

natural family planning is one method that helps you do this, and I think if you get into a class, the only cost is for materials and a thermometer. Otherwise, you don't have to pay for anything.

 

or, the drugstores usually carry a prediction ovulator kit, but they're kind of pricey.

 

good luck!

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I think, believe it or not, you also need to not "try so hard, and hope so long".... it increases your stress levels, and can affect your cycle and fertility.

 

Try to relax.

And please know, even without contraception of any kind, 2 months is not a long time to not get pregnant. It can take anything up to a year or so.....

 

 

 

Keep calm, and try to put it out of your mind.

Look after your health, keep fit, and enjoy your youth.

 

And consider this:

A good number of failures to conceive, are down to the male infertility problems, not the woman's fertility.

 

 

I agree 100%. I would give your body a chance to recoup from the birth control; iwait until your body regulates itself and are having normal periods. IN the meantime, drink water, and start taking prenatal vitamins. It will happen when the time is right. Do not put extra pressure on yourself, it could only mess with your cycle more.

  • 5 weeks later...
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It took me two and a half years to get pregnant with my daughter.I also was worried and it made me depressed thinking about not being able to have a baby with the person I love.Usually it is advise to try a year before going to a fertility clinic and two moths is still a rather short time.Have you tried before to get pregnant with no progress?

Have you though about purchasing an ovulation kit.I have no idea if these actually work or not as i have never used one but it pretty much lets you know which are the best days for you to try and get pregnant.Also there are ovulation calendars that i think you can even find online where you put in the date you got your period and then when it ended and it also lets you know the best times for you to get intimate so that you can enhance your chances of getting pregnant.Also you should start taking folic acid before your even pregnant and taking care of yourself to increase your chances of getting pregnant and having a healthy baby(fyi you can go to your doctor and explain that you are trying to get pregnant she will probably prescribe you folic acid also i think they sell vitamins that have folic acid in them but not sure).Let this be a natural process enjoy the baby making process ;) it will happen.A lot of times is not as easy as it seems even though some may happen to get pregnant after one time of intimacy in most that is not the case it takes some time.If visiting a doctor will ease your mind then go for it.I wish you all the luck in the world!

 

P.s:I didnt do anything different after almost three years of trying i worried about it almost every single day but one day i told myself look i am going to try for the rest of this year and if it doesnt happen for me i am going to see a specialist the first day of the next year(it was only 6 months away)until then i am going to just not even think about it and take care of me.No lie after i said that to myself and i started relaxing a month and a half later i got pregnant.I had to take three pregnancy test as i didnt believe it because i really thought it wasnt going to happen.

  • 1 month later...
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At your age, the doctors don't consider it a problem until you have had difficulties for a year (I know that seems like an eternity). It took my a full 12 months to get pregnant with my daughter.

 

The one thing I found helpful was getting an ovulator predictor kit. It helped me know my body and when I was ovulating (it got to the point that I actually know when I'm ovulating without even using the kit).

 

The kit will give you an idea of what cycle you are on (ie 28 days, 30 days)...and what are the best days to have sex during the month.

 

Take your time...it is worth it, and make sure you are taking prenatal vitamins now.

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Don't let the reports on teen pregnancy and other "oopsies" fool you, it can take a long time to actually get pregnant :eek:

 

The Depo shot is pretty nasty to your body, I can imagine that even though you have been off it for 6 months, it could be up to a year before it truly wears off.

 

Keep trying and have fun trying! :love:

  • 2 weeks later...
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22 isn't too young. :rolleyes:

 

I'm 22 and pregs. Yeah, I've heard the lectures. But it doesn't get me down; I'm more ready than I've ever been. Whether or not you're financially stable is no one's business. When the clock goes off, it goes off. You can never be "ready" for a baby, because there are just too many variables... unfortunately problems conceiving is becoming more and more common. And is definitely an example of how you can never be "ready". If you know you will be a loving, dedicated parent then you can try for it. But it's really hard to plan anything.

 

I'm no expert, but I do hear that birth control can effect you up to a year after you get off it (even more in some cases); especially things like Depo or IUDs. Not for everyone, obviously.. but you might have to give it a bit more time.

 

I do have to agree with Geishawhelk. Relax.. enjoy the lovemaking, and try not to feel like it's a chore. Stress can be devastating to conception.

 

Are you absolutely positive that there's nothing going on with your husband? There are ways for men to increase fertility as well.

 

I wouldn't say just intake of additional Folate will help you... a healthy diet in general will be beneficial; as well as some sort of multi-vitamin (pre-natals are good even when you're not pregnant). A healthy diet includes LOTS of water. Sounds like you're living a rather sober life.. keep it up and if you smoke cigarettes, STOP. As everyone else has suggested.. know your cycle.

 

If it is becoming a very serious concern, you MUST see a doc about it. The longer you wait, the more you risk.

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I haven't gotten my cycle back, which is of course the main, and probably only reason why we are not having any luck.

 

 

Exactly. You have to wait until you get your cycle before you can begin trying.

 

Right now you are just stressing yourself out for no good reason.

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As the others have said, sounds like you're not back to normal since going off depo.

 

Might help to lose some weight too. My sister had to get IVF treatments for her first two kids, then when she wanted the third kid, she instead tried losing weight and natural pregnancy was much easier.

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Hey enema this is kind of old. She's probably pregnant by now. :o:laugh:

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Ahh damnit... someone necro'd the thread.

 

Noobs!

  • 3 weeks later...
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Have fun and don't worry about it. Keep a healthy diet, exercise and definitely don't smoke. Ever.

  • 2 weeks later...
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Sometimes it takes awhile especially for the first time to get pregnant..My husband and I were sexually active more than 5 years with no birth control at all before I got pregnant then we ended up with 4 kids..It will happen when the time is right..Just relax and dont worry about it for right now..Give your body time to get itself ready and it will happen in time...

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