entityzero Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 For me i think it would be easier to deal with if her new guy was better than me, and s**t maybe in her eyes he is.. If I thought he was superior then I could understand but the fact she's with such a jerk-off its really hard for me to understand why she would drop me then start something up with someone who can do no good for her whatsoever... The thought of his STD infected d**k inside her makes me feel sick.
Trialbyfire Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 It probably is best to not care at all but would you feel better or worse about yourself if your partner left you for someone far worse than yourself; i.e., financially, intellectually, maturity inferior? Turn it around. It's impossible to take it seriously, to worry about an ex, particularly if the person is perceived as worse than me. An ex is an ex for a reason(s). If an ex can't find someone to trump me, that's his problem, not mine. If an ex can find someone to trump me, then it's best that we split, if pastures are greener elsewhere.
wheresmysunshine Posted April 6, 2009 Posted April 6, 2009 It comforts me to think she could be more beautiful, more sexually fulfilling, more whatever but she can't love you the way I did. And sure you decided you could do without my love, but that doesn't change the fact that I loved you in a way no-one else will, because I know I loved him unconditionally (not in terms of if he cheated etc) but that I would love him irreguardless of whether he got fat or lost all his hair or if he couldn't walk or became seriously ill. I would be there FOREVER, I know it inside. So I comfort myself with the notion that no-one can love you like that...not the way I did, because every persons capacity for love is unique. I did a lot for him, in small ways that I think not everyone would do...maybe they do I don't know...but every persons love is unique, so I think you are losing the unique way I would have loved you...and I would have loved you a helluva lot! This is an interesting thread and I have to comment. I was left for a co-worker by my fiance. He basically told me for 7 months that he wasn't attracted to this chick in anyway. That was while I was living with him, yet when he dumped me for her (a week ago today) he told me that he enjoys the attention she gives him and might like her. He is a douchebag, plain and simple. I saw her photo which I only found 1 on FB of her and she is nothing at all special. Well I'm white and he went to black, which is fine, I'm not racist or anything but just a total shock to me. And he's always loved my long straight hair. She has a very short, tight mens cut? Anyways here's my list: Things she has on me- -Better income -Personality, well he's told me she is really nice and they have a lot in common.. um yeah talk to me in 8 years buddy! -She may be a little kinkier in the bedroom.. I only say this because he admitted to me that they were talking about things they shouldn't have been when he was engaged to me. - She may be thinnner but has the big booty, lips and boobs still Things I have on her- -8 long years of emotional baggage -I'm a massage therapist so F him every getting that again! -Only been with 1 person (him) sexually- I'm sure she's either had her share of "big" black men or at least will be comparing his package to bigger she's seen. You know what they say.. once u go black u don't go back! -I think i'm better looking period - I had unconditional love just like Nikki was saying- I would have been there through thick and thin! I never not once thought about cheating on him.. ever! Well thats my quick list...just to make myself feel better i guess
RecordProducer Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 It probably is best to not care at all but would you feel better or worse about yourself if your partner left you for someone far worse than yourself; i.e., financially, intellectually, maturity inferior?Financially and intellectually - most men don't care about these things unless they actually become a problem. Maturity - does that mean she's younger? Or are you a man?
EmperorR Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 This latest ex, I can't really say anything bad she was there for me when I needed someone, but I know she will never find someone like me, every bf she has had treated her like dirt adn not respect her, she's even been physical abused, cheated on her and laughed about her weight. I loved her, yes even though she was obese for the first time in my life I looked beyond that, ah well:)
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