Zorie Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 So I've decided to be more proactive and start initiating more contact with men on a particular dating site instead of just having to choose from the ones that write me... I know everyone has thier preferences, but for those men that are on dating sites what are the most memorable introductions you've received from women? Short and sweet? lengthy and full of details? humorous? sarcastic? Since its a numbers game and you don't get a second chance at a first impression, I would like improve my approach and see what I can do to stand out a little. I'm still a little out of practice with online dating and etiquitte etc...
fral945 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Short and to the point. Long winded cries of desperation to me. And if you want to stand out, have a full body picture (doesn’t have to be provocative or sexy, just give guys an accurate representation of what you look like). IME women with only a head shot usually signals a weight problem to me. The reality is most guys are going to judge you on your looks first before deciding to contact you. Good for you choosing to be proactive rather than sitting back and complaining about the losers you attract.
Sam Spade Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Why don't you just wink at first? That's usually enough to get a guy's attention. If you do write, make is extra-short and funny. Don't write a massive email. I've had a couple of women write me short like this, and for all intents and purposes, that's exactly the same as the wink. if he's intereseted - he'll respond. That's when you write a real email, in response. Don't get me wrong - if would be nice to receive proactive thoughtful emails from interested girls, but guys have been had their balls busted for so long that they're conditioned to interpret any unprovoked sigh of thoughtfulness from a woman as a "psycho red flag" . Oh, and you've got nobody to blame for this but other women .
Stitch Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 When I sent of my first message on a Dating website I was so nervous and shy I pretty much just said Hiya and hit enter. Certainly got the guy interested as he is now my wonderful boyfriend and we've been together 7 months. Just initiate contact and see where it goes from there.
BobSacamento Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Short and with questions usually works. But always send one out even if you think you won't get a response back. Don't not do something out of fear because you might miss something special. I almost didn't send one to this one woman because she looked way out of my league. Long story short, I'm meeting her next week for coffee Hopefully I won't blow it! lol
Author Zorie Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Thanks for the advice! Well I sent out a few short and sweet messages tonight, basically just saying " I'm ***** and I just wanted to say hello, hope you're having a great day! (Hope it works lol) I guess I'll just wait and see now
Lost_2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I tell you what. The guys you would be sending your initial email to has probably done a real good job at making a good profile and is getting a lot of emails (unlike most other guys who never get a single email). So make it in tune with the way his profile goes. Say if he appears to be sarcastic be sarcastic. lol. Oh btw, if you can answer to the thread I started that would be great.
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