juliet143 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Hello all, before judging the situation right of bat. Just read my whole story, please, then you can make all the judgments you'd like. I'm 24 years old woman. I'm not your ordinary woman. You has girlfriends, and loves to shop, but I'm definitely NOT a "tomboy." I'm a hopeless romantic and believe in love till the last drop. I believe that you can fall in love more than once. These are just a coiple of things that you can consider while reading my story. I met this one guy when I was about 16 or 17 years old. He instantly fell in love with me. We know each other threw family. I always see him in family events. At first, I thought he was gross, and I would never give him the time of day. But as we got older, he grew more and more persistent. I got into a relationship with another guy when I 19, and I dated this guy for about 2 yrs, but it wasnt serious. It was that painful cruel love. but nonetheless LOVE. I cheated on him with the guy that I met when I was 16. Well then we broke up...and I got with my recent boyfriend.. I LOVE my recent boyfriend. He is everything I want in a man, and I couldnt ask for more....trust me. He is EVERYTHING i want and need in a man. But I find myself still calling and responding to this other guys calls... he is very persistent. and I've grown to love him...he isnt everything I want or need, but when we're together, theres chemistry. A LOT of chemistry. I have chemistry with my boyfriend. but I have a certain somehting with this other man. We had sex once when i first started dating my boyfriend, and we meet at this place every so often and just talk, and kiss. after that i feel so bad...but I will NEVER tell my boyfriend. It will ruin our beautiful relationship. Some things are better left unsaid, and I believe this is one of them... What should I do?
manugeorge Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Simple, put yourself in your recent boyfriend's shoes. Reverse roles and imagine that everything you are doing, he is the one doing them to you. What would you do? what would you want to happen?
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I LOVE my recent boyfriend. He is everything I want in a man, and I couldnt ask for more....trust me. He is EVERYTHING i want and need in a man. But I find myself still calling and responding to this other guys calls... he is very persistent. and I've grown to love him...he isnt everything I want or need, but when we're together, theres chemistry. A LOT of chemistry. I have chemistry with my boyfriend. but I have a certain somehting with this other man. We had sex once when i first started dating my boyfriend, and we meet at this place every so often and just talk, and kiss. after that i feel so bad...but I will NEVER tell my boyfriend. It will ruin our beautiful relationship. Some things are better left unsaid, and I believe this is one of them... What should I do? 1st - your posting in the wrong section. 2nd - If you had to choose one or the other which would you pick?
wanthimbackwithme Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 From past experience I would say you have under-lying low self-esteem/jealousy issues which you need to sort out double quick, before your LT BF does find out exactly what haas been going on n walks! Good luck. x
quankanne Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 as far as your boyfriend being "EVERYTHING i want and need in a man," I think you're fooling yourself. Apparently the lack of chemistry is giving you leeway to be unfaithful to him, because chemistry is much more important than honoring whatever boundaries that come with having a boyfriend. for his sake, break it off. You will always find someone who can be what you want and need in a man, but chemistry isn't as easy to find. And when it is as important to someone as it is to you – otherwise, you wouldn't be sniffing around that particular tree, trying to catch scent – it should be top priority in a relationship. Not settling for some nice schlub you're trying to convince yourself is everything you want and need. you're old enough to know that your boyfriend is not interested in drama, but an honest-to-goodness relationship he believes he has with you. As I said, for his sake, break it off. He needs to be with someone who has the same understanding of what a relationship is, not someone who is looking for "more" with an old flame.
isoleaf Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Hello all, before judging the situation right of bat. Just read my whole story, please, then you can make all the judgments you'd like. I'm 24 years old woman. I'm not your ordinary woman. You has girlfriends, and loves to shop, but I'm definitely NOT a "tomboy." I'm a hopeless romantic and believe in love till the last drop. I believe that you can fall in love more than once. These are just a coiple of things that you can consider while reading my story. I met this one guy when I was about 16 or 17 years old. He instantly fell in love with me. We know each other threw family. I always see him in family events. At first, I thought he was gross, and I would never give him the time of day. But as we got older, he grew more and more persistent. I got into a relationship with another guy when I 19, and I dated this guy for about 2 yrs, but it wasnt serious. It was that painful cruel love. but nonetheless LOVE. I cheated on him with the guy that I met when I was 16. Well then we broke up...and I got with my recent boyfriend.. I LOVE my recent boyfriend. He is everything I want in a man, and I couldnt ask for more....trust me. He is EVERYTHING i want and need in a man. But I find myself still calling and responding to this other guys calls... he is very persistent. and I've grown to love him...he isnt everything I want or need, but when we're together, theres chemistry. A LOT of chemistry. I have chemistry with my boyfriend. but I have a certain somehting with this other man. We had sex once when i first started dating my boyfriend, and we meet at this place every so often and just talk, and kiss. after that i feel so bad...but I will NEVER tell my boyfriend. It will ruin our beautiful relationship. Some things are better left unsaid, and I believe this is one of them... What should I do? obvious troll is obvious.
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