Dollie Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I feel really sad today! Why did he cheat on me? Why did he fight to get me back when he had met someone new? Why did he not just stay broken up with me and tell me he had met someone new? We could have been friends but instead he lied and cheated and all for what? I have done some crazy sh*t lately because of how bad he has made me feel and I am not proud of myself and it is all because he could not be honest! I really want to text him and tell him that, but I won't do it as I will not let the lying cheat know that I am even thinking about him I am just so sad about it and wonder if I will ever get over this?
donnamaybe Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 You'll get over it, but you've got to stop dwelling on it or it'll never happen. He's a jackass, and that's why he cheats.
Author Dollie Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 Donna, I really did not see him as a cheat, it was one area I trusted him 100% I am trying everything possible not to dwell but surely I am allowed to feel the pain of this? Why did he come crawling back and trying every trick in the book to get back with me? It does not make sense at all
donnamaybe Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you the poster who outed his cheating by making a fake Myspace page, etc. etc. etc.?
Author Dollie Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 Donna, maybe you should not be on an advice forum? Telling someone in pain to stop dwelling is not exactly great advice is it?
The Blue Pill Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Why did he cheat on me? Why did he fight to get me back when he had met someone new? Why did he not just stay broken up with me and tell me he had met someone new? He sounds like a shady character who wanted 2 when he should have been happy with 1. Is this the type of person you think you deserve anyhow? We could have been friends but instead he lied and cheated and all for what? I have done some crazy sh*t lately because of how bad he has made me feel and I am not proud of myself and it is all because he could not be honest! Again, do you deserve friends like that? However, do not blame your actions on someone else. You and only you have control over your emotions and actions. Outside sources can influence you, but it is up to YOU to decide if you let it affect you or not. Your ex did not "make" you do anything. I really want to text him and tell him that, but I won't do it as I will not let the lying cheat know that I am even thinking about him' Good plan. You need to appear as if you aren't torn up to show him he didn't win. That's the psychology of a break up, you need to think mind games and try not to look vulnerable, otherwise you look weak. I am just so sad about it and wonder if I will ever get over this? You will, we all will. You will reach a point to where thinking about it won't even bother you anymore, you'll laugh at yourself for being so sad over it in the first place, and you'll laugh at him for being a pathetic cheater. Donna, I really did not see him as a cheat, it was one area I trusted him 100% Nobody is thought of as a cheat until someone else knows about it you know... Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you the poster who outed his cheating by making a fake Myspace page, etc. etc. etc.? I really hope you didn't use some form of entrapment. Then you're going down to his level.
blondesmiler Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 So all you did to the new women didn't provide closure for you after all? The best thing is to rid her and him from your FB. Next, I know its easier said than done, but too stop the overthinking as you'll just go round and round in circles and still come out with zero answers. Its hard but try and do something to take your mind off of it, get down the gym, read a book and just lose yourself in the words. Whatever you can to get through today and hopefully tomorrow you'll be feeling a little better. There are no magic wands and no answers, just take one day at a time and do what ever you need to do to get through each day. As I said to you before getting busy is what helped me the most but time is what is going to be the major healer here as with all break ups.
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