Fatty21 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 My ex and I have been split up for a little over a year and have a 3 year old son. We had been best friends for almost 8 years before we got involved and were together for about 4 years. We were engaged, bought a house together and had a kid.....then the arguing started and after months of trying to get along and resolve the issues we called it quits so our son wouldn't grow up in that kind of environment. I am still madly in love with her and am having a hard time getting over her. I know in the other posts I've read it says to just avoid contact but having a kid with her makes this impossible. Does anyone have any helpful hints or advise on how to get over her? Thanks.
gypsywoman Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 what I do when I start thinking about something/someone that makes me upset, I start to focus on breathing from the stomach (not the chest like most people have learned to do, caused by stress and media). once you are focused on your breath, you are in the moment.. that present moment. not the past. not the future. another thing you can do is when she comes to mind, think about something that is in complete non-relation to her... a happy childhood memory.. sitting on an imaginary beach or just a beautiful place.. you eating your favorite food... habits are learned in 21 days. try practicing whatever you choose everyday, for 21 days... and slowly, little by little.. she will slip away from memory and you will be 10x happier with a huge boost of self confidence (which will shine and attract others!) also, don't listen to sad songs. listen to empowering songs or songs that makes you wanna dance and that don't remind you of her. FIND NEW MUSIC! GO FOR WALKS IN NATURE! take a bath. water and sleep are the two best ways to help dissipate negative energy (sadness, distraught). good luck!
Recommended Posts