Lizzie60 Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Maybe she said.. I love you-r shlong.. and you heard John... Maybe she's fantasizing about John Wayne.. Maybe she's fantasizing about a guy name John..
White Flower Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Maybe she said.. I love you-r shlong.. and you heard John... Maybe she's fantasizing about John Wayne.. Maybe she's fantasizing about a guy name John.. Maybe she had to go to the John? Any updates? Did you talk to your W OP?
Author BobTheMainiac Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 I think tonight I have to say something. It has been bothering me.
White Flower Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Well lets see. I won't jump the gun. There are several other issues that have appeared in the last 2 or 3 years. She is now a binge drinker and blacks out most of the time when she does drink, 3 times a week. She is always biting her nails, anxious? Is now on anti depresants and sleeping pills. We finally have an empty nest. She has always said she has had only three lovers until a month ago she has had four, but quickly changed it to three. It's not that I am afraid to confront, it's a one shot deal. If I ask, she will deny. I think some one was right in telling her John called and told me everything. That is the route that will open something up or clear something up. I do appreciate everyones input. This may very well work as I know someone who did this. Only problem is there really has to be a John. If not, you will have lied to her. You need to way the pros and cons on her reaction to that. Sounds like she needs counseling and to read up on how to deal with the new 'empty nester' syndrome. Good luck.
Heroic Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 For all she knows John could be the guy who runs their 401K. John could be anybody. Better yet, John called and told me everything......<LONG PAUSE> I'm pretty angry about this.......<LONG PAUSE> What the hell should I do about this? If she squirms keep it up.....If she looks at you and says, "Say what" then you say...Oh it's our 401K guy we lost 500 bux in the market.
Reggie Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 For all she knows John could be the guy who runs their 401K. John could be anybody. Better yet, John called and told me everything......<LONG PAUSE> I'm pretty angry about this.......<LONG PAUSE> What the hell should I do about this? If she squirms keep it up.....If she looks at you and says, "Say what" then you say...Oh it's our 401K guy we lost 500 bux in the market. This might work> But, keep snooping, as well.
OWoman Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 For all she knows John could be the guy who runs their 401K. Apols for the t/j, but what's a 401K? Bob - it seems to me that the "other issues" are significant enough in themselves for you to call her aside and have A Serious Chat about where things are going with the two of you, and to suggest some kind of counselling (for herself, and for yourselves as a couple). The "John" isssue may or may not be real, but all is not well in the state of your R, it seems...
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 who would admit this if it is in fact true? An honest women but then again an honest one wouldn't cheat in the 1st place.. Well if she didn't yet then you bet Johns on her mind allot and its not day dreams about baking cookies together thats for sure lol..
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Sit her down and utter these exact words..... John, called me today and he told me everything. You would have to have ice water in your veins not to show a reaction. Woha b*lls 2 the wall I LIKE the way you think! lol..
carhill Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Apols for the t/j, but what's a 401K? It's a retirement program managed for the benefit of company employees and principals. Right now, generally, the manager of such a program likely wouldn't be on the top of most people's list of positive vibes, considering the mess the financial industry is in here in the U.S.. I'll presume the reference was a bit sarcastic
Heroic Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 Woha b*lls 2 the wall I LIKE the way you think! lol.. Fast talk is an awsome life skill to have. I have stopped 4 robberies with not having to lift a finger with my fast talk skills.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 She has always said she has had only three lovers until a month ago she has had four, but quickly changed it to three. HOLY SH*T tell me you didnt just write that about your wife? Why are you still with this woman? She cant keep her legs clossed!!!!! Divorce man, you'll be better off. just come hime and tell her you want a divorce, you a serial cheater and cant deal with it anymore, she could be lining up the next man and clearly being married to you aint stopping her from sleeping with others, man the F up and drop the chick!!!
Heroic Posted March 23, 2009 Posted March 23, 2009 She has always said she has had only three lovers until a month ago she has had four, but quickly changed it to three. HOLY SH*T tell me you didnt just write that about your wife? Why are you still with this woman? She cant keep her legs clossed!!!!! I'm pretty sure the wife in this situation was talking about people before they got married...at least 3 of them....
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 24, 2009 Posted March 24, 2009 I'm pretty sure the wife in this situation was talking about people before they got married...at least 3 of them.... Does that honestly make a difference!? if she cheated on him before the wedding she probably did it in the marriage as well. I would get proof and then bounce.
Darth Vader Posted March 28, 2009 Posted March 28, 2009 It's a retirement program managed for the benefit of company employees and principals. Right now, generally, the manager of such a program likely wouldn't be on the top of most people's list of positive vibes, considering the mess the financial industry is in here in the U.S.. I'll presume the reference was a bit sarcastic It's more like a 101k, if even that! Anyway, the fact that she said she had only 3 lovers, then switched it to 4 then backpeddled to 3 really raises suspisions to me, sounds like she's been taking riding lessons with someone else, and I'm not talking about horseback riding either........ I'd look into things, but know this, if you confront her without proof and she's been up to no good, she'll just cover her tracks even better and go underground with the affair, if there is one going on.
KismetGirl Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 Apols for the t/j, but what's a 401K? Bob - it seems to me that the "other issues" are significant enough in themselves for you to call her aside and have A Serious Chat about where things are going with the two of you, and to suggest some kind of counselling (for herself, and for yourselves as a couple). The "John" isssue may or may not be real, but all is not well in the state of your R, it seems... 401K is a type of retirement fund.
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