wanthimbackwithme Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Things all went wrong when I had a breakdown - completely shut him out of my life until he could take no more. He started staying away for a few stays at a time I didn't ask him to come back, all i done was sent a text to ask if he was ok. Anyway 9 days ago he went and has not been back. I've spoken to him, last week he said its over he won't be treated like that. I tried to explain that I was so sorry and never meant to hurt him and that i love him and want him to come home he said no, he was never coming back. I have treated him so disrespectively and could only see what I had been doing to him once he went, it snapped me out of the big black cloud that was making me do this. But all too late. I spoke to him today and he said maybe he would see me later in the week, after speaking for a while he said he wouldn't see me because basically if he see's me we'll be back together and he doesn't want it, although he loves he doesn't know if he loves me enough. I know he's hurting and is angry and upset, I so want to make things right between us. I love him soooooo much and have not treated him the way I should have these last few weeks - I have been disgusting! My kids are missing him too, he said he misses them. We've been together nearly 2 years and just want him back. Male posters - I'd really like a male perspective please! He is a very stubborn man and turkish! Also forgot to add that although he's gone he's only taken a few essentials 1 lot of clothes then came yesterday when i was at work and took a few more t-shirts, but everything else is still here? Thanks for reading and your help is most appreciative. xx
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Author wanthimbackwithme Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 UPDATE: Spoke to him today and asked to meet him on neutrel ground to which he got angry and shouted at me. He said why would I do that - I said we miss each other - He said i never told you i missed u to which i said you did yesterday and he hung up! What is going on??????????????????????????? Is it cos he is still hurting/angry etc Will he ever want me back? What can i DO???????????????????????
AmazingLove Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Have you given him some cool down time yet? (before you asked to meet in a neutral place?)
Author wanthimbackwithme Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Only a few days - I'm so scared that he will think i don't love him/want him if I leave it any longer! This is all my doing and I sooo need to make it right.
Author wanthimbackwithme Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Yeah he is angry - although he did say yesterday he wasn't anymore - I know him and I know he is. Spoke to him again and said look I'm really sorry for p8ssing you off earlier thats not my intentions and you know it. Went on to say that I wouldn't call for a few days as I think he needs time to think. He was ok with all that until I said I have started to write you an e-mail to which he flipped and said no I don't want it - if you send it I'll just block you. I said fine. I don't understand why he's not letting me explain whats happened - I just really don't understand - it's like he's scared of something - can't work it out at all. He won't sit down n talk n now I can't put it in writing?????? PLEASE HELP!!!! Anyway he just asked me to sort some stuff out for him (get it together) for him to collect. Heard from the counsellor this evening and we have our first session on Monday - thank god - didnt have to wait an age! Just need to get through the weekend without picking up the phone!
Author wanthimbackwithme Posted March 13, 2009 Author Posted March 13, 2009 I saw him today when he came and picked some stuff up and he gave me a big cuddle - which felt soooo good! He didn't really say much about us - again! But I did say to him (and I know I should have kept my big mouth shut!) perhaps in time once I start counselling and you know that things will never be like that again, we can get back to which he said I dont think so!!! OUCH! But he is still hurting from what i done! Have I got blinkers on - thinking like that??????????????? I said I'm not going to call you over the weekend, and he said I dont mind you calling I just don't want you going over it all again. What does this mean? Obviously he does want me to call, so he still wants to hear from me? What - confused, again!!!!
Author wanthimbackwithme Posted March 14, 2009 Author Posted March 14, 2009 Getting jittery, got at least 2 reasons 2 call but know i need to give him space!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is soooooo hard. I love him he loves me but I've destroyed that great thing we had! What a stupid bitch i am. I hope I haven't lost him 4ever.
Author wanthimbackwithme Posted March 15, 2009 Author Posted March 15, 2009 Well I didn't get a response from the text last night. I text today just to see if he was coming over to pick up his mini-bus and he answered 3hours later saying wasn't feeling too good would get it next weekend! I've been sitting and thinking, as you do in these situations! Yes I lost the plot and shut him out for which I am seeking help, straight away, admitted my fault, not his straight away. This is the first incident in the 2 years we have been together. Surely our first major 'situation' (for want of a better word) should not have him running for the hills - but surely if his love was true he would want to help me get things right? I'm sooooo confused, I so don't want to doubt his love for me, as i genuinely beleive its true - but I just don't understand? We have never really argued or anything, bickered yes - full on blow out no, except for these 7 weeks. Then was only 2 big rows, rest was silence really! Do you think mayb he just doesn't want to be with me - although he still telling me he loves and misses me??????????????? Please give me your thoughts on this. Am also lousy at NC couldnt even go a day! After him saying he doesn't mind me calling I'm scared he's thinking I don't want to be with him - all this so confusing!
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