fral945 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I figure that to be around $50-60/week. Relatively speaking, that doesn't sound too bad.
Viking Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Keeping track of how much you spend anywhere is basic finance 101 to all of you who lack even the slightest bit of fiscal knowledge. Is it any wonder why so many people are in such financial woes...or California for that matter. That much on a woman when he has no car is stupid. He's a tool.
boxing123 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I do agree that typically the more you spend, the lower the quality of your relationship. I spent the most with one of my South American girlfriends as we went out often. Drinking, trips,vacations etc. But at least she cooked for me at least twice a day. I enjoy going out and traveling, so i don't really spend money to impress. If I am with a woman whom does not have much money, I don't mind paying. I would NOT pay for a career woman whom does not cook. That would be 50/50.
prettybaby Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Can I just take a guess and say that he's probably not been laid much in the last few months. What do you mean? With me?
mr.dream merchant Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 It works both ways, a woman spends alot of money on the upkeep of her beauty requirements, underwear, the prettiest clothes. I have started dating again and more effort does happen. It depends on the couple, but I enjoy the simple pleasures in life, walks, dvd nights, cooking. That's stupid. That's like me saying you should pay for your guy's dinners all the time because he spends money on shaving creams, razors, clothing, cologne. That's the dumbest **** I've ever heard, you're just reaching for an excuse to be pampered. Females need to come up off of it today, this isn't the 1900's and every guy you date isn't Frank Sinatra. **** that, males have bills and upkeep to finance to, the **** we look like?
boxing123 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Yeah, that really is lame...Women have to pay for clothes and make up, lol.. Us men have no bills. Our cars, homes, clothes, food, shoes, all free..
949GuitarDude Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 What do you mean? With me? Well, with anyone.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 he spend like 8k in 3 years on his gf, Dude, that's like $7 a day! He takes her to McDonald's five days a week, and then they do the 2-for-$20 special once on the weekend. He's a great guy! (and you're looking up to him)
PinkKittyKat Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 It varies guy to guy I think. Some guys spend a lot on extravagant dinners/gifts to impress you, and some guys drive you to a beach to give you as necklace made of seashells. Both are nice, it's just a nice "gesture". If you don't want to spend a lot, then don't get stuck with a woman who demands it. My bf's probably evens out since I pay all the rent! LOL And my favourite "date restaurant" is the cheap sushi place by our house!
Trialbyfire Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Any guy who's spending above his means for anything, isn't fiscally responsible. As for $8K for three years, that's not much at all. If you can't afford to date, best not to do it, or to find yourself someone who understands a very limited budget. I suggest this for both men and women.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Women never want to keep score when the man is paying. If the money was coming out of your pocket, you'd know exactly how much. Women are the cheapest, stingiest creatures. Wow - thanks a lot. I appreciate your generalization. I am one of the most giving and considerate people I know in relationships - sometimes I give TOO MUCH. I actually talked to my BF about this very topic on the phone tonight. He feels we are equal because of what I give him in return - he doesn't feel gypped at all and he says he hasn't sat down and "done the math" on how much he has spent on me so far. We both agreed that culturally it's just accepted that the man spends more. I have offered to pay several times and he has turned me down. Other times I have INSISTED I was paying even though he tried to grab the check. And as far as GIFTS are concerned - with what I'm giving him for his birthday, I will have spent more. Who gives a crap? The money is not important to me and he has made it clear that it is not important to him. What matters is how you two relate to each other. I'm really glad I'm not dating a materialistic, penny-pinching, score-keeping jerk.
PinkKittyKat Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Wow - thanks a lot. I appreciate your generalization. I am one of the most giving and considerate people I know in relationships - sometimes I give TOO MUCH. I actually talked to my BF about this very topic on the phone tonight. He feels we are equal because of what I give him in return - he doesn't feel gypped at all and he says he hasn't sat down and "done the math" on how much he has spent on me so far. We both agreed that culturally it's just accepted that the man spends more. I have offered to pay several times and he has turned me down. Other times I have INSISTED I was paying even though he tried to grab the check. And as far as GIFTS are concerned - with what I'm giving him for his birthday, I will have spent more. Who gives a crap? The money is not important to me and he has made it clear that it is not important to him. What matters is how you two relate to each other. I'm really glad I'm not dating a materialistic, penny-pinching, score-keeping jerk. Yeah, same here. For my bf's first birthday with me I got him a ridiculously expensive Spawn comic book sculpture. For Xmas I got him a ridiculously expensive specialty LEGO set. (Yes, he is a geek!) I just like doing things like that. I enjoy buying pricy nice presents for my dude. We're both pretty generous. If we were to add up I'd say our money we spend on eachother as being fairly even.
Trialbyfire Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 There's fiscally responsible and then there's cheap. No one wants a cheap partner. You'll find that cheap partners are also selfish individuals, in far more ways than fiscally.
Chicago_Guy Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 There is a direct negative correlation between the amount of money I spend on a woman and the satisfaction I've received from it. Girls who I am nice to, take to expensive dinners and fancy places play games and don't put out or appreciate it, I totally agree. If a girl really likes you, you don't need to take her out to expensive restaurants. There are women who "expect" a guy to drop a lot of money on them (with little appreciation), and those are the women to avoid!
prettybaby Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Well, with anyone. Why would you say that? Please elaborate your logic; I'm actually quite curious lol
prettybaby Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Women never want to keep score when the man is paying. If the money was coming out of your pocket, you'd know exactly how much. Women are the cheapest, stingiest creatures. I assume you are single?
wezol Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 When me and my fiancee first got together, I usually paid for all of our dates, especially the first months worth. After that she started offering here and there for little things (movie rental, pizza). Sometimes I wouldn't let her, sometimes I would. Three and a half years later, we both watch our finances together and don't spend outside our means. I still pay for dates 80% of the time, but she has paid me back in so many other ways. Don't get stuck on it, but don't let it get out of hand either. My fiancee is more attracted to the fact that I do my best to financially responsible than going on spending sprees.
mental_traveller Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 There's a website which calculated it would be cheaper to hire 2 top-class hookers per week than to be married or in a serious relationship. They also pointed out you would probably get more sex too, lol. Basically you should not spend any more on a woman than you would when going out with friends, or by yourself. Unless you are loaded and she's a broke student or something.
Jenny123 Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Guys your making me laugh! Ok I have dated guy's where they have paid for most things, not everything, I also have been the one that paid more. Personally, call me old fashioned but I do like a guy to contribute the most but I also can do 50/50. My pockets are not stiched together. It's not about the money, it's a feeling your the girl and being taken out, by your man. I see it as him thinking alot of me, although I will also pay sometimes, always offer and cook for him, give small gifts etc. It's not an issue, but what I prefer. My guy and I are both poor, we are doing it cheap at mo, I personally don't do anything extravagent when my finances aren't great. I'm enjoying our dinners at home, doing things on the cheap and to be bought a chocolate bar. It's the thought. Guy's, not all women give a damn whats in u your wallet.
boxing123 Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 In this day and age, in the USA, for what men get in return, women should pay half. No question about it. If they do not, then they are the CHEAP ones.
Lizzie60 Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 the thing is hes also a student, and has no car. he works but i'm not totally sure how many hours. he said that the reason he can;t get a car, he spend it eitehr on clothes, his gf, and computers If he's a student.. this could be all 'showing off'.. maybe she's the one spending her money on him.. And if this is true.. well he's the sucker! too bad so sad..
rod_in_gtown Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 $50 a week is not that much actually, I think I spent twice that on my last relationship which lasted about 8 months. about $100 a week on different things, trips dinners, theatre, concerts, etc. Dating is expensive, specially when your gf doesn't make that much money.
Trialbyfire Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Don't forget special occasions like Birthdays, Anniversaries, V-Day, Christmas, etc. I'm guessing your friend didn't factor in what his g/f might have spent on him in three years time. I wonder how many single men go out to the pub or bar every weekend and spend equal, if not greater amounts on self. The last point to make is...let's say dinner came to $50 for the two of them. Did your friend deduct what he ate and drank? Most men eat and drink way more than women do. While I don't do this anymore, as a younger woman, I tended to give half my meal to my dates, since they were walking vacuum cleaners in their teens and twenties. As men hit their thirties, it's not so bad although I sometimes wonder if it's just to look suave, where inside, they think...jeez, I wouldn't mind finishing your dinner! Guaranteed, most women can relate to this!
Art_Critic Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 I wonder how much she has spent on him in those 3 years... The guy is shooting off his mouth bragging about money spent on a girl.. Look at it for what it's worth.. nothing.. 8k isn't that much in 3 years.. consider also that in those 3 years that 3 Birthdays have passed as well as 3 Christmas's and 3 Valentine's Days.. Those 3 holidays alone can add up to more than 8k in 3 years of a good relationship where the guy is generous with his gifts... He actually sounds kinda cheap if you ask me...
949GuitarDude Posted March 11, 2009 Posted March 11, 2009 Wow - thanks a lot. I appreciate your generalization. I am one of the most giving and considerate people I know in relationships - sometimes I give TOO MUCH. I actually talked to my BF about this very topic on the phone tonight. He feels we are equal because of what I give him in return - he doesn't feel gypped at all and he says he hasn't sat down and "done the math" on how much he has spent on me so far. We both agreed that culturally it's just accepted that the man spends more. I have offered to pay several times and he has turned me down. Other times I have INSISTED I was paying even though he tried to grab the check. And as far as GIFTS are concerned - with what I'm giving him for his birthday, I will have spent more. Who gives a crap? The money is not important to me and he has made it clear that it is not important to him. What matters is how you two relate to each other. I'm really glad I'm not dating a materialistic, penny-pinching, score-keeping jerk. It's also culturally accepted for the government to steal 40% of my income every year. So what. It has nothing to do with being materialistic. That's the point is that I'm not materialistic. I don't PAY for women's attention or sex. I can enjoy a womans company by simply taking a walk on the beach. Since he hasn't "done the math", he doesn't sound very fiscally savvy. I wouldn't expect you to know this, but the economy is in a severe recession and heading for a depression because of this type of attitude. The country is broke and further escalating the crisis by the policies employed by Washington. So what happens when America looks a lot poorer 10 years from now. Will you dump him for someone else who can buy you expensive jewelry? I've actually turned to foreign girls because they are not so materialistic. They don't demand to be taken out to expensive dinners, or demand expensive gifts for the holidays.
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