joel Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 all 4 of us talking at work among us. we are all co workers and one of them said he spend like 8k in 3 years on his gf, this is an approx figure. i'm like waoh what are you buying her, diamond rings and talking her to eat out at 5 star places. but do you really believe this. that almost like spending 2500 a yr on his gf. he said it all adds up dinner, movies,.....etc 10 dollar here, and movie there, dinner....etc how about you guys do you spend this amount or even more on your gf or how does it go. i mean you can spend this amount or even more, and she breaks up with you all your money is gone, and what happens if she don;t even give you sex hahah. the thing is hes also a student, and has no car. he works but i'm not totally sure how many hours. he said that the reason he can;t get a car, he spend it eitehr on clothes, his gf, and computers
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Hmm. I hadn't thought about it in this form, but I think your buddy is probably right with that figure. It never really occurred to me to crunch numbers like that, but my BF takes me out to breakfast/lunch/dinners, movies, sometimes we grab something at the grocery store, the gas money to come out and visit me, gifts, etc. Huh. If you count all the times he's taken me snowmobiling (and he calculated that at about $45/trip), then he has spent about $450 just on that in less than two months. But I also spend on him - I've bought meals a handful of times when we've gone out, I've brought groceries over to his place, I spend gas money to go see him, and I've bought him gifts, too. All in all, he has definitely spent more on me, but he told me he's not used to the girl paying for ANYTHING - so I amaze him, or something. LOL I don't think in a good relationship you sit down and keep score as to who has done what for whom. So to expect that your GF should act a certain way because you bought her something - that's not exactly unconditional. If my BF's gifts came with strings, I wouldn't be interested. But because they don't, I am SO willing to do things for him - I think I'm a great GF. I do whatever I can to show my appreciation for him because I love him. Good luck finding a good stable relationship if your thought process is, "I've spent $500 on her so far and she won't suck my ****! WTF is wrong with her?"
Viking Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 There's a Beatle's song with the lyrics, "Money can't buy you love...". A while ago, I was talking with a friend about my break up and he was discussing tradition in the country where he is from. It is considered a slap in the face and insulting when a woman breaks up with a man after taking him "for a ride" and having him spend a lot of money on her. Sometimes, if the break up is really bad, the guy will send a "bill" showing the girl how much he spent on her. Keeping tabs on how much someone spends on their SO is normal IMO. Its all part of budgeting and any guy who doesn't do this is foolish. Money spent on an SO is an "investment" either into a happy future together, or an eventual breakup, in which case, it wasn't such a great investment in the long-run, but the "short term" benefits were nice, while they lasted.
Enema Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 8k over 3 years is about $50 a week. Pretty normal.
boxing123 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 In my opinion that is far below normal. All that accounts for is maybe 1 date a week. Do the math.
prettybaby Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 8K in 3 years is not that much at all! My new man has probably dropped close to $1500 on me since we started dating back in December 2008. I try to keep the bills even and pay half the time, but he generally won't let me, so right now I'm spending one third of our outings. We go out every Saturday (dinner, sometimes extra drinks, sometimes a movie too), and we get takeaway food or order a pizza on Wednesdays when we chill at his place. Add to that: a box of fancy chocolates he gave me for New Year, a big bouquet of roses for Valentine's, and a pricey bottle of perfume for my birthday ... that stuff adds up quick! And don't forget the price of gas when you're driving to places. Also, if your co-worker also vacationed with her (which he most likely did at least once in 3y time) he could easily get to that figure.
boxing123 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I do not think women realize how much money men spend on them. It all adds up. It really is easy to spend a grand a month. Especially if you see them a few times a week, or almost everyday.
Jenny123 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 It works both ways, a woman spends alot of money on the upkeep of her beauty requirements, underwear, the prettiest clothes. I have started dating again and more effort does happen. It depends on the couple, but I enjoy the simple pleasures in life, walks, dvd nights, cooking.
moman Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 There is a direct negative correlation between the amount of money I spend on a woman and the satisfaction I've received from it. Girls who I am nice to, take to expensive dinners and fancy places play games and don't put out or appreciate it, and the girls who I refuse to to take out or spend money on keep coming back and just put out sex on demand. It's easy to drop big cash on women if you're a sucker.
Star Gazer Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 It really is easy to spend a grand a month. Especially if you see them a few times a week, or almost everyday. Agreed. In context, $8,000 over 3 years is only $51.28 a week.
949GuitarDude Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Hmm. I hadn't thought about it in this form, but I think your buddy is probably right with that figure. It never really occurred to me to crunch numbers like that, but my BF takes me out to breakfast/lunch/dinners, movies, sometimes we grab something at the grocery store, the gas money to come out and visit me, gifts, etc. Huh. If you count all the times he's taken me snowmobiling (and he calculated that at about $45/trip), then he has spent about $450 just on that in less than two months. But I also spend on him - I've bought meals a handful of times when we've gone out, I've brought groceries over to his place, I spend gas money to go see him, and I've bought him gifts, too. All in all, he has definitely spent more on me, but he told me he's not used to the girl paying for ANYTHING - so I amaze him, or something. LOL I don't think in a good relationship you sit down and keep score as to who has done what for whom. So to expect that your GF should act a certain way because you bought her something - that's not exactly unconditional. If my BF's gifts came with strings, I wouldn't be interested. But because they don't, I am SO willing to do things for him - I think I'm a great GF. I do whatever I can to show my appreciation for him because I love him. Good luck finding a good stable relationship if your thought process is, "I've spent $500 on her so far and she won't suck my ****! WTF is wrong with her?" Women never want to keep score when the man is paying. If the money was coming out of your pocket, you'd know exactly how much. Women are the cheapest, stingiest creatures.
949GuitarDude Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 It works both ways, a woman spends alot of money on the upkeep of her beauty requirements, underwear, the prettiest clothes. I have started dating again and more effort does happen. It depends on the couple, but I enjoy the simple pleasures in life, walks, dvd nights, cooking. That's not both ways. I could care less what kind of underwear you have on. It's coming off anyway. That's your problem if you're naive enough to spend $50 at Victoria's Secret.
949GuitarDude Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I've actually had my last two dates pay for me. It's time for women to start carrying their own weight. The wanted careers and equal rights. I say we give it to them. There are more women employed in the US than men. Why should men pay for anything???
949GuitarDude Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 There is a direct negative correlation between the amount of money I spend on a woman and the satisfaction I've received from it. Girls who I am nice to, take to expensive dinners and fancy places play games and don't put out or appreciate it, and the girls who I refuse to to take out or spend money on keep coming back and just put out sex on demand. It's easy to drop big cash on women if you're a sucker. Kudos to at least one smart guy here.
949GuitarDude Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 In my opinion that is far below normal. All that accounts for is maybe 1 date a week. Do the math. What the heck is normal to you? I'd say that's way too much. How about zero for the amount you spend on her, and she's with you because she actually likes you?!?
949GuitarDude Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 8K in 3 years is not that much at all! My new man has probably dropped close to $1500 on me since we started dating back in December 2008. I try to keep the bills even and pay half the time, but he generally won't let me, so right now I'm spending one third of our outings. We go out every Saturday (dinner, sometimes extra drinks, sometimes a movie too), and we get takeaway food or order a pizza on Wednesdays when we chill at his place. Add to that: a box of fancy chocolates he gave me for New Year, a big bouquet of roses for Valentine's, and a pricey bottle of perfume for my birthday ... that stuff adds up quick! And don't forget the price of gas when you're driving to places. Also, if your co-worker also vacationed with her (which he most likely did at least once in 3y time) he could easily get to that figure. Can I just take a guess and say that he's probably not been laid much in the last few months.
IcemanJB Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 The last girl I dated refused to let me pay for the first date!!! I went up to pay, and she cut me off and paid the guy before I could get my wallet out. From then on it was about half and half, I never really kept track though. It's never really been an issue for me, money is just money, I don't care that much. I've NEVER had a girl complain that I don't spend enough on her, and I'd say I'm way below average in that spending department. It certainly hasn't hindered any "advancement" if you catch my drift. I've historically never spent a great deal on my girlfriends, but some guys just do. My best friend spends a LOT on his girlfriend. I mean A LOT (plane tickets at least monthly, nice dinners, etc.).
Shygirl15 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I've actually had my last two dates pay for me. It's time for women to start carrying their own weight. The wanted careers and equal rights. I say we give it to them. There are more women employed in the US than men. Why should men pay for anything??? Some men flat out refuse to let a woman pay. The guy I'm dating is so traditional; it appears he likes it that way. It can be a bit uncomfortable sometimes though.
949GuitarDude Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Keeping track of how much you spend anywhere is basic finance 101 to all of you who lack even the slightest bit of fiscal knowledge.
Sam Spade Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I'm impressed that he's been able to keep track. I've given up, but I'm sure it's add up to a similar figure. One cheap (dinner0 date is at least 50$ these days. Do this 4 times a month only, and there you go - 7200 in 3 years. So, your friend is getting off cheap if his figure includes presents, trips, and all that stuff. I wish more women stopped and thought for a second how much it effin costs just to be polite. I pay for everythign wiht my girlfriend, but at least occasionally she acknowledges that it costs a lot.
949GuitarDude Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Some men flat out refuse to let a woman pay. The guy I'm dating is so traditional; it appears he likes it that way. It can be a bit uncomfortable sometimes though. I can't blame you for letting him pay, but he needs to think about it.
IcemanJB Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I can't blame you for letting him pay, but he needs to think about it. I have to agree. If she's really adamant about paying, I'll let her. Not a big deal.
Sam Spade Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 It works both ways, a woman spends alot of money on the upkeep of her beauty requirements, underwear, the prettiest clothes. I have started dating again and more effort does happen. It depends on the couple, but I enjoy the simple pleasures in life, walks, dvd nights, cooking. there are so meny things wrong with this line of reasonins . how about instead taking you to dinner, I spend the money on a nicer shirt for myself instead .
Shygirl15 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I have to agree. If she's really adamant about paying, I'll let her. Not a big deal. I sometimes think some guys use it as a technique to control a woman.
IcemanJB Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I sometimes think some guys use it as a technique to control a woman. Definitely. I mean sure I'll offer, but I don't use it as a means to get something from her - physical or otherwise. I think some guys mix this up.
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