jessy1 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I have a whole bunch of questions for anyone who wants to help me!!! Now I know you dont know me personally but im just hoping someone has had a similar experience and can help me a bit!!! So I was with my ex for only 3ish months. I liked him to start with but after a while he started treating me like dirt! He stopped talking to me and snapped at me constantly. He broke my heart and had me crying almost every day from the things he would say and do etc. Eventually my heart broke so much that I couldnt do it, my friends all egged me to dump him but I couldnt as he was in the middle of exams. The day before my final exam he got in and dumped me. But for some reason instead of feeling relieved like I thought I was so gutted and still am 3 months later. Last night I cried and cried and I just dont know why. I even found out he was with some other girl towards the end of our relationship and they are still together now. It still breaks my heart and I cry almost every day! Whats wrong with me??????????? Why do I still feel this way?????? My next question (I'll finish it up quick I promise ... ) Why do people get cheated on ? Like is their some sort of personality trait that makes a person susceptible to being cheated on (as insane as that sounds) Its just I have been cheated on twice now and dont understand why Both relationships were LD if that helps? Im just so hurt and never want to go thorugh this again Will it happen again????
era Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 my friends all egged me to dump him but I couldnt as he was in the middle of exams Anything that keeps you from growing is never worth defending.
LoveUrselfFirst Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I believe that you are crying because of the way he treated you and how selfish he was. You are not crying over the relationship. Trust me honey, I have been there a few years ago. As far as your question about why people get cheated on...I have no answer for that. It does put fear in me as well as many others that get into a relationship and are faithful and things as such happen (whether we choose to realize it or not). I honestly wish it didn't happen to good people. I think for now that you should take a break from dating and just focus on "you". I don't want you to believe that it will always happen to you. You just have to learn from it and keep your guard up and your heart not as open. If you have intuitions about something or if something doesn't feel right with your bf, than you have a right to ask.
Author jessy1 Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 Hey thanks for those replies!! I dont know why im hurting so much I havent been treated that badly in my life before and I wanted out. I guess the bug hurt comes from him lying to me and seeing him SO happy with this new girl. It hurts so much knowing that hes treating her like an angel but couldnt do so with me Makes me really wonder what was so wrong with me! I am taking a break from dating, but I feel really lonely and sad all the time while my exs are happy and in love with their new gfnds I havent had the best luck with dating and im so scared It will happen again! I just wish I could hurry up and meet the right person! I believe that you are crying because of the way he treated you and how selfish he was. You are not crying over the relationship. Trust me honey, I have been there a few years ago. As far as your question about why people get cheated on...I have no answer for that. It does put fear in me as well as many others that get into a relationship and are faithful and things as such happen (whether we choose to realize it or not). I honestly wish it didn't happen to good people. I think for now that you should take a break from dating and just focus on "you". I don't want you to believe that it will always happen to you. You just have to learn from it and keep your guard up and your heart not as open. If you have intuitions about something or if something doesn't feel right with your bf, than you have a right to ask.
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