higherground5 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Hi, Hope everyone is well out there. I just wanted to vent as I've been in yet another "rebound relationship" with someone who I thought loved me as much as I loved them. I've been in about 5-7 rebound relationships, 3-4 of the girls I've been with , or at least I thought, I was in love with. Two of the girls that I was in a relationship with and I sincerely thought was "the one" ended in a disaster; both occurred in the past 3 years, and I'm going through a serious state of depression with the one I was most recently with. Foolish, I should say, is probably my middle name by now - but in retrospect I'm a risk taker at the end of the day. My conclusion? There is no way, or at least the chances are sincerely small, for a relationship to work when your other has not mended ties with their past. Unfortunately for me, I give the other the benefit of the doubt, partially because there has been a great deal of the girl convincing me it's over and that "I'm the one". With that said, women will lie and cheat and completely reject being honest with you, even if they say they are, just to get you into a relationship. I word of advice for those that have been there or think they might be there - do yourself a favor and before you move forward with a relationship, please make sure you are both on the same playing field. What that means is make sure there is no one in the picture, or has been in the picture, on a serious level for quite some time. The last relationship I was in this exact thing happened to me. I was with a young girl who, what turned out to be, was in a 3 1/2 year relationship with a guy. Well, at the beginning, it was just this: *I don't love him anymore, I dumped him. *It was waste of three years. *I don't even think about him anymore, or the thought has never crossed my mind to think about it. *You are an amazing person and I want a future with you and I'd never leave you. *Blah, blah, blah...I think you get the point. At the end, she ended up leading me on big time. Every week I got "I love yous", "I miss you so much", "are you committed to me as much as I am to you?" She even went to the extreme to get my initials tattooed on her. Well, one would think you would have quite the stable relationship and feel secure in it, right? WRONG. At the end, she ended up running back to her ex, and then I found out a slew of BS on how she's been missing him for months. Immature? Yes - one would think so. Regardless, both are to blame for the relationship not working out. The hard part is that I work with this girl and I have to see her everyday. She doesn't care that I live or not, and is completely all about her. Ladies and Gents, the truth of the matter is this: a rebounder ALWAYS looks out for themselves. They are selfish beings that work off of short term infatuated feelings, and could care less about your well being. Do all of yourselves a favor and stay away from these people because the majority of the time, they are out to feel better about themselves, not making someone else feel good - no matter what they say. Which reminds me, it's a matter of ACTIONS instead of WORDS that really make a difference at the end. So pay attention to my story and don't ever put yourself in a situation I've been in and I'm in right now. As for me, there is happiness out there somewhere. I've been in so many, and crazy coincidental, rebound relationships. Right now I'm super angry, depressed, and helpless at the same time. I seek outlets in talking to people about my situation, especially my psychiatrist, but it's a long healing process for me because I've been in so many, and the aggregate of all these relationships really hurt your self-esteem and confidence at the end of the day, not to mention the ability to really give yourself, trust included, to someone else in the future. There is happiness people, and time is the essence that heals wounds. Hope this generates some good feedback - and please, no negative responses about my stupidity with being in so many. No more. Never again. Word up. -Forbin
WiseOne1 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Im still shocked and caught by the part of the Tattoo, you would think if anyone would get your named on them, it would be something veryyyy serious. I guess this just goes to show that anything is possible, and people will lie and go out of there way to be believed.
Alex_M Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I think with these people they mean what they say, but they don't know what they mean. It's like everything is normal and happy until they get bored, or the feelings arn't consistant and they just wander off to something more exciting or should I say new which is always put across as "better" in their eyes in which they soon learn that it's just different. Anyway I feel for you bro.
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