rebekka Posted October 8, 2003 Share Posted October 8, 2003 Ever getting married? Hi I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months now and everything seems really perfect. He tells me how much he loves me, I had to meet his family and dearest friends pretty much at the beginning. He asked me to move in with him after three months although he had never lived with a woman before and he says I am the best thing that ever happened to him. He really really makes me happy! Whenever I meet his oldest and dearest friends and he doesn't listen they say they have never seen him like this and that they are really happy for us. Also, I found a letter from a friend of his saying:" the money is on you to crumple next". So far, so good. Then again he has never brought up marriage or kids at all! I assumed it is because he has been very busy but also very successful in his job, is currently building a house and there is just generally happening a lot in his life. So I start wondering whether a successful person like him with lots of great friends, a great job, lots of sports activities can ever see the point in getting married. (Girls adore him, which sucks!) I mean yes, he may enjoy hanging out with me and I guess his love for me is real, but what would be the signs that he intends to one day ask me to marry him?? My opinion is that if he loved me as much as he and his friends say, shouldn't he know after 15 months that I am the woman of his life? Why has he never brought it up? Do I need to be patient? Of course I would never bring it up as I believe it's a job's guy. Who has got experience in being proposed to? Thanks so much guys! Link to post Share on other sites
Leikela Posted October 8, 2003 Share Posted October 8, 2003 Whoa... You've only been together for 15 months, give the guy a break!! Deep in his heart he might think you're the one to marry but maybe he's just not ready. He does have a lot going on in his life and it sounds to me like it's just not the right time in his life. Why should he have to mention it though? If you're so secure in your relationship with him then why did you even bother posting here? Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 8, 2003 Share Posted October 8, 2003 You've got a couple of options here: One, have your parents ask the boy what his intentions are. Two, casually ask him where your relationship is headed. Three, sit back, relax and give yourself a little more time (several more months, IMHO) before asking him where your relationship is headed, if he has more on his mind than just shacking up. Unless there is a pressing need for you to be married, I say take option three, and enjoy what you've got with him right now. Chances are, he's happy being with you and things will naturally progress to where you guys can discuss future plans (marriage, etc.), so don't worry so much about that right now. You've been together only for a year – it's not uncommon for couples to date two or three years before marrying. Link to post Share on other sites
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