hopethisworks Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Long story short, my ex and I have been broken up for three months now. She rebounded very quickly after our breakup, and blamed me for everything that lead to the split. Mainly my inability to have a future with her. (Which was bogus, because I always did want one, but wanted her to finish school first) I tried the whole pleading and begging ordeal. After I saw this wasnt working I began NC,and a month after she came back and expressed her apologies. She was very sorry for what she had done, and really missed me. But none of that mattered because she was still with her other b/f. I put an end to it because I was getting very emotionally hurt by all of it, and couldnt take it anymore. The next two nights at work she brought her b/f and all of her friends into work with her. Very hurtful, especially since we were just together the previous 7 days attempting to reconcile. Anyway, I was furious, and got off work early. Didnt say a thing to her at all for the whole weekend. Well the past 2 days have beeen very interesting because a lot has been going on. I found out on friday night, that she had been lieing to everyone about being enrolled in school. I also found out several other hurtful things that I was lied to about during our relationship. Today she sends me a few texts, the one that got me the most was the last one she just sent. She said she was sorry for everything, and that she hopes I can find a girlfriend that makes me happy. She said she was sorry she couldnt let herself believe me, and that she was lost. Ok, I know i shouldnt respond and most people on here are gonna say not to, BUT. I am extremely hurt because I have been lied to the whole, time and brainwashed into believing everything is my fault. Would it be wrong to say something back? I mean hell its only been 3 days of my last NC, and I really think i would feel a lot better. Thoughts?
BCCA Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 If you absolutely have to respond, and come on - we all know you shouldnt, but its so tempting, I would just say: lol Seriously, what a joke that crap was, right? Dont indulge her nonsensical ways with a thought out response of any kind, let alone an emotional one.
Author hopethisworks Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 I know. I know. But man, I wanna say something back sooooooo bad. Ive gotten three calls, and a couple more messages since I last posted this thread. (Still havent said anything back) Where did this all the sudden come from? Its not even like I want to respond for any reconciable purposes, I just really want her to know that I know about her lies, and reverse the blame for what it really is. The worst part about it all, is regardless I still have to work with this girl, so us encountering each other is going to be inevtiable. Should I ever bring it up, or just avoid her at all cost?
samspade Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 1. Don't respond, as BCCA already wisely advised. 2. Go and BE happy. Without her. If I had to respond, I'd say "I already AM happy." But that's gilding the lily. Silence is probably better.
Author hopethisworks Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 Yeh, Im not responding. The last message she sent hinted on the fact that she is realizing Im not gonna be there for her anymore if she ever really needs me. Which is tough, cause I really wanna be, but I just cant. Its just crazy how people and things change. So do you think I should ever mention to her that I know about her lies? I just know im gonna get cornered at work this weekend.
seibert253 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 Success is the best revenge. Your success begins with rebuilding your life. You cannot begin by keeping her around. Disappear off the radar. Ignore her calls, and do not call her. This will begin your healing process.
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