jwi71 Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I do not think, many of those who are posting here understand all the concept of True Love in real .. It is like loving your own baby .. you cant fall out of this ****ing love no matter how much it ****s you really you go on loving you go on loving you go on loving just like you love your own baby this is True Love which never dies .. I again do not think , all so mental posters will realize what my this answer indeed means .. I'll give you an interesting anecdote. I have two kids, both under 5. I did NOT unconditionally love them at birth. I remember thinking I was some psychopathic soulless lump of crap for that. How could I NOT love my own newborn daughter? I went to our pastor. I gingerly told him these things...genuinely worried he would hit me over the head with a cross, douse me in Holy Water and begin some long forgotten ritual to caste out demons or send me to hell. His response...its normal and not unusual. That's because my daughter and I had not bonded yet...those actions and choices of giving and receiving love. The feeding and diaper changes and smiles and cooing and all. The bond formed on its own. Giving love, receiving love. And now, like all parents, I would die to defend her and kill to protect her...my son too. Love is choice. It is giving AND receiving.
Adri Ana Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 I'll give you an interesting anecdote. I have two kids, both under 5. I did NOT unconditionally love them at birth. I remember thinking I was some psychopathic soulless lump of crap for that. How could I NOT love my own newborn daughter? I went to our pastor. I gingerly told him these things...genuinely worried he would hit me over the head with a cross, douse me in Holy Water and begin some long forgotten ritual to caste out demons or send me to hell. His response...its normal and not unusual. That's because my daughter and I had not bonded yet...those actions and choices of giving and receiving love. The feeding and diaper changes and smiles and cooing and all. The bond formed on its own. Giving love, receiving love. And now, like all parents, I would die to defend her and kill to protect her...my son too. Love is choice. It is giving AND receiving. Did I disagree that its a Choice ?
Adri Ana Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 Did I disagree that its a Choice ? and sometimes it may seem as No Choice. Everything depends on the situation .. So I guess,we are all here to say our own opinions without attacking each other . And I respect those who share this thought .
bentnotbroken Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 If you want to vomit by your green face you have shown here, then you are invited to get away to the street ,breathe cold air and only then you are allowed to get back to this site. If you think having posted so much that you are here any authority talking and all others listening to you ,then I have got a pity for you . If you think about my post it is alike t.v. love ,then I have a pity for you again . I always say what I sincerely feel . If you act another way , its your own problem, bent soul . If you had never been in True Love,then actually You have no rights to talk here as you were not asked to come here ,broken poster. Respect people`s feelings . So you will get more respect yourself . Work on yourself more rather than make bitter comments on others` sweet feelings,broken soul ! :confused:?????What are you talking about? I am unclear on what is the problem.
4everloveu Posted March 17, 2009 Posted March 17, 2009 When you like someone so much that you are longing to live with him/her forever, you would be with him/her under any circumstances, you would stand by him/her no matter what happens, you would like them to be with you at your death bed, you would like him/her so much that if the need occurs you would die for him/her. If your feelings are so strong for person (also sexually attracted to him/her) then I think you found your true love. I wish my friend know "what is true love is" he had been OM for the last 12 years and still right now. He stuck with the affair can't move on. He thought true love is when he felt comfortable with the other woman and she felt the same being with him. Which is she can't get her husband to understand her.
Mr. Lucky Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 I do not think, many of those who are posting here understand all the concept of True Love in real .. I again do not think , all so mental posters will realize what my this answer indeed means .. Does "true love" justify any act necessary for the lovers to be together? Mr. Lucky
OWoman Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 I'll just add that any man who has honestly loved me, has been more than happy to shout it out to the world. ditto. My H's xW had no time for PDAs, and was cold and abusive to him and the kids in public. But she considered that to be "love". Just because there was a piece of paper at the time declaring them married. Our love has always been so visible that strangers stop us on the street to comment on how evident our love is - both before and since our marriage. Real love leaps out and shines its light around. It doesn't hide behind walls or documents or excuses or domestic drudgery.
LovieDove24 Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 I'll give you an interesting anecdote. I have two kids, both under 5. I did NOT unconditionally love them at birth. I remember thinking I was some psychopathic soulless lump of crap for that. How could I NOT love my own newborn daughter? I went to our pastor. I gingerly told him these things...genuinely worried he would hit me over the head with a cross, douse me in Holy Water and begin some long forgotten ritual to caste out demons or send me to hell. His response...its normal and not unusual. That's because my daughter and I had not bonded yet...those actions and choices of giving and receiving love. The feeding and diaper changes and smiles and cooing and all. The bond formed on its own. Giving love, receiving love. And now, like all parents, I would die to defend her and kill to protect her...my son too. Love is choice. It is giving AND receiving. Funny the same thing happened for me. And I, like you, felt slimy about not having that immediate loving connection to my daughter. I'm beginning to feel that its more common than we think. Yet still, I wouldn't tell a soul. Luckily enopugh I didn't suffer from any kind of PPD, and the problem fixed itself in a few months time once the bond was intact. I too would now kill for my daughter. But this has me wondering. Since I do truly believe that the parent child relationship is our best human experience of what God meant for true love to be (complete and utter selflessness), could this be an example as to why arranged marriages often work so well? Is it because like the parent child relationship, they do not "choose" the best match but rather give all their love to the one who is chosen for them thus eliminating a sense of entitlement? I could never willingly participate in this type of thing because I am far too gone in my independent western programming, but it does have me wondering...
angie2443 Posted March 18, 2009 Posted March 18, 2009 could this be an example as to why arranged marriages often work so well? Is it because like the parent child relationship, they do not "choose" the best match but rather give all their love to the one who is chosen for them thus eliminating a sense of entitlement? I could never willingly participate in this type of thing because I am far too gone in my independent western programming, but it does have me wondering... Arranged marriages (not the type where uncles marry their nieces) often work well because the people who are put together come from simular religious, cultural, political, etc. backgrounds and so "fit" well together. Love at first sight is nice and chemistry is nice also, but if there are too many differances in the personalities of a couple, it will eventually fall apart.
lostsoulmate Posted March 30, 2009 Posted March 30, 2009 From Conceptions of Modern Psychiatry, Sullivan said, "When the satisfaction or the security of another person becomes as significant to one as is one's own satisfaction or security, then the state of love exists."
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