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Going no contact has been a struggle for me. I've spent many days curled up in my bed crying myself to sleep, avoiding responsibilities and pining over the lost of my ex.

 

I think about him constantly...throughout the day and dream about him most nights, but have pulled myself together and decided to move on with my life and take care of business.

 

Now that I have gone complete nc for almost 4 weeks, what happens...he text me. After avoiding me, screening my calls, not responding to messages, or replying to any texts...he contacts me today out of the blue.

 

I have mixed emotions. Glad that I crossed his mind enough to text me, but still angry at the way he treated me during our split.

 

So not to relinquish control to him again, I will not respond...not so quickly and not this time. If he cares enough he will try to contact me again, and if not, I would have not derailed my journey of self healing. It was so painful to arrive at this point and I don't want to travel down that road again.

 

If anyone has seen my other posts, you know how deep in despair I was. I was afraid of what I might do, paralyzed by my heartbreak. I only write this now to give others hope that as dark as things may appear now, the sun will shine again, you will be happy once more, and find love...with or without your ex.

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Good for you for not responding, and giving yourself some power again. Guys think they can come back when they want, expect us to be ok with everything and their actions. His txt should've been an apology to you.

I have this fear that my ex will text me out of the blue weeks from now, I think at that point I will feel the same, no response. :)

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Guys think they can come back when they want, expect us to be ok with everything and their actions

 

Just a heads up, women do the EXACT same thing all the time. Its not a gender specific thing, m/f are both equally guilty. Women have done that to me several times, actually.

 

Dont respond. Unless he wants to apologize and tell you what a fool he is, nothing he has to say is really that important.

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O, I know BCCA...I guesss I was being specific cuz shes a female and I was saying guys do that. I know girls do it to, I think I am guilty of it! And I agree unless he has a huge apology, hes not worth it!

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I know I should not respond. Part of me so want to open up the lines of communications again. I can't. He knows all to well the emotional hold he has on me. I'm like a puppet on a string with him. I have done almost everything he has wanted in our relationship and when I can not comply he treats me like crap. He discards people, friendships, relationships so easily at the slightest disagreement.

 

I want to be with him....forever, but he will have to approach me with more than just a text msg.

 

So for now, he can just wonder why his charm has not worked and I have not jumped at the chance to communicate with him.

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