LGUSMC Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Ok so il start off by saying i met this girl on line we talked for about two weeks, then decided to meet..by this point it was my understanding we really had interest in each other and when we met it was great so that was on a tuesday about 3 weeks ago and so we decided to see each other again that friday and we did it was great once again but this time and i dont think this should have happened but we sex...so weve hungout several times since then and as far i knew everything was goin good real good actually so its been 3 weeks and we went out last friday night she met some of my friends and we had a good time..after that we went back to her place and just went to bed..when i left the next morning she had somethings to do so we kissed and i said well give me a call later tonight when your done doing whatever it is she had to do to my knowledge everything was going good and now she has stopped calling and answering her phone i am 23 shes 21 and we are both pretty new to the online thing but i dont know whats going on anymore...i now thats not normal so whats the deal?im kind of quietly loosing my mind over this chic and i hate it so can someone help me out here!
Geishawhelk Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Maybe she's a serial dater who likes plenty of BFs at once..... Maybe her 'phone broke or she lost it. Maybe she's gone away to a friends's wedding. Maybe she feels cheap having had sex with you so quickly. Maybe she's just not into you. Who knows.....? One thing's for sure: you definitely need to use punctuation.
prettybaby Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I co-sign the punctuation comment. So when exactly was the last time you saw her? I got lost in that never ending sentence lol
yeex Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Yeah man you are not alone in this disappearing thing. You see this pop up all the time in these forums. It just goes with the territory of dating. Guys and gals have done this. All you can do is leave the ball in her court and do not call again because you do not want to appear too anxious. Do not concentrate too hard on this one because that is what makes you go crazy. Date others. That is how dating works these days until you find somebody that you both eventually agree on being exclusive. She may have other guys she is interested in or she may have changed her mind, etc...
xpaperxcutx Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Your run-on paragraph was a little hard to comprehend, but I think I've got the gist of it. Personally I think you could've started off dating two or three women in the beginning so your dates with this girl wouldn't have set you up for so many expectations. You were seeing and hanging out with her too much, you've attached yourself to her hips. So now you're all crazy about her, wondering what she's doing, why isn't she calling, why isn't she picking up. Basically you're the only one driving yourself crazy. She's only on your mind because you want her to be on your mind. While she could just be off dating around with other people. And you'll never know why.
Author LGUSMC Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 Sorry about the never ending sentence im at work and had to do it kinda quickly. and its not like i dont have other options she just seemed like the best one at the moment, it just happens. Sometimes i guess you can get attached and not realize it to though. The last time i saw her was saturday morning so i guess thats it then! thanks
prettybaby Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Saturday is not that long. Give it a rest until Tuesday or Wednesday evening and then try to call her. If she doesn't answer, leave a nice simple relaxed voice mail. If she doesn't call you back, then move on. But really, Saturday is not that long at all for somebody you have JUST started dating.
yeex Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Oh i was under the impression you have not heard from her in a couple of weeks. Maybe she has not disappeared yet. Yeah, i would agree, contact her one more time and that is it. If she does not respond move on.
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 If it's out of character for her to stop calling or answering her phone- then I would see it as a red flag. 21 ?... Online for the first time... People multi-date a lot in these situations. Whatever you do, don't contact her at all. If you've been trying and she's not answering, that's it- you're done reaching out. If she was merely just the best option at the time- then why bother with her anyway?
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