babbling_enigma Posted October 8, 2003 Posted October 8, 2003 I have noticed this seems to be the trend lately in alot of the posts here and in my life as well. I would like some clarification on this please. What is up with women sayiing " I lost myself and need a break to find myself." or things similar to that. Look around this forum you'll see what I mean. So ladies what is the translation of this? Now to throw a monkey wrench in that question. Let's say the same woman still hangs around, wants "benefits", and acts like nothing has changed except every so often she wigs out gets all pissy and then doesn't talk to you for maybe a week or more and hides behind her best friend when you call her to find out what is wrong? Any insight will be appr3eciated. Thanks!
2SidestoStories Posted October 8, 2003 Posted October 8, 2003 Okay. So I can't give you an exact translation of "I need a break to find myself." I can, however, tell you that when I asked my ex for a break, he freaked out on me even more profusely, which made an already seriously stressful situation that much more difficult. However, in terms of the "monkey wrench" aspect of your question, I have a rather immediate reaction: Get the heck outta dodge! She is the one who asked YOU for the break, correct? So if she wants a break, give it to her. Tell her that you're not there to be a doormat. You do have self respect, correct? She wants a break, GIVE IT TO HER! Pardon my bluntness.
Fancy Posted October 8, 2003 Posted October 8, 2003 Well, in my experience and from what I've witnessed from others, that statements means, "You're okay, but I've met someone else I'd like to be with for now. Don't go too far away, though, and keep in touch, because if things don't work out with the new person I'll be back to have sex with you some more."
emokid Posted October 8, 2003 Posted October 8, 2003 "finding yourself" is an immature way of dropping responsability and shutting people out of your life, I think. If You can't figure out what you want, while you're in a relationship with someone, you got problems. I mean, if it's an abusive(mental or physical) then by all means, get out! But... why is it that people think they need to unload significant people from their lives, like girlfriends, boyfriends, wives, husbands, in order to change something about themselves. It's a bratty manipulation of the other person's feeling and emotions when they say they need to "find themselves" yet sometimes they hang on and send mixed signals at times, confusing and frustrating the other person. I agree, sometimes it means "I'm happy with you, But i want to see what else is out there"....Which i don't think is fair at all. Were just supposed to wait around until you figure out if were good enough for you to be with, were supposed to wait around to be a net for you when you don't find anyone better than us?
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