ruggy Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 So we met at the mall and had dinner. Talked awhile and went to the movie. She was not into the movie so we went for a ride down to the boardwalk. Talked a bit more until late in the night. When we got back to the parking lot we realized it was 4:00 AM. We were holding hands, well one hand each, on the way back to the parking lot. I suggested we'd go to the museum next week and she thought that was a good idea. She said she really enjoyed he date and we hugged and said goodbye. Two questions have popped into my head thinking about this today. One, it bothered me in a way that she did not want to tell me her last name. Does that seem weird to any of you? Two, assuming we do move forward with the next date I was going to suggest that I pick her up at her home. What should I say/do if she says she'd rather meet up somewhere like on the first date? I did not speak to her today. Planning on calling her midweek unless she calls me first.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 It's quite possible that she's been badly burned from online dating - possibly had a stalker situation. And some women are just overly cautious. I know my mom's that way. Maybe she doesn't want you looking up her address because she's not ready for you to have that info yet. I'd give it one more date and if she's still not comfortable enough for you to have that info, I think I'd ask her if something happened to make her not want to tell me. But it sounds like the first date went great! Congrats and I hope it continues to go well.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Wow 4am!!! congrats that's a great sign, but the whole not wanting to tell her last name is a 50/50 thing. I mean it's understandable, but it works both way like how do you know who she is? is she lying about something?
Author ruggy Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 She said she is really new to online dating. I am the second person she dated. On Match, it does say she is new, so it can be true. She told me the first person she went on one date with was a bit aggressive by touching her all over the place and being very sexual. She said she was not used to that. I was a bit the opposite and did not go in for the ending kiss because that was in my mind. She did flip her hair back quite a few times and held constant eye contact. Also touching my playfully on the arms and legs when we were talking after words. Though, not giving me her last name is a bit weird. This is the first time that happened to me. She did say maybe after the second date. This one may take some time...
Squirtal Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 It all sounds wonderful Ruggy..sounds like you had a ball. As the others said...shes probably just wary about giving out her full name. Give it time..its not important yet. I would send her a mail or a text before you call her if you haven't already, just to say you had a great time though. Its always nice to recieve something like that.
Author ruggy Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 I was thinking about calling yesterday or today, but do not want to look too needy. Also, what happens if she again wants to meet somewhere neutral Saturday? Still a deal or now a no deal?
Squirtal Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Morning you. Its not needy at all to send a text just to say I had a great time with you..looking forward to seeing you soon. If she still wants to meet somewhere neutral then don't look on it as negative..you are both still strangers really..in this day and age you really don't know if someone is a weirdo or not..and I'm talking about her too you know..just enjoy it..its nothing to worry about. I would like the fact that she airs on the side of caution.
Author ruggy Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 So we been talking on the phone every day or so for a couple hours each day. We have plans set for both this Saturday and next. This is a positive thing. Right?
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 So we been talking on the phone every day or so for a couple hours each day. We have plans set for both this Saturday and next. This is a positive thing. Right? Sounds fantastic, Ruggy - good for you!
Author ruggy Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Think I should go in for this first kiss this weekend? Seems like a safe bet. No? She says on the phone she feels this connection. Guess its time to roll the dice on this "connection" feel?
prettybaby Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I never give my last name to people I don't know well yet. I have a very unique name, so I don't want weirdos googling me. Especially if she has Facebook, she's probably just being careful. I wouldn't take it personally. As far as I'm concerned, it's something I do with everybody who isn't in my close circle yet. Regardless of whether I like them a lot or not. That being said, it sounds like it went great and will continue that way! Good luck
Author ruggy Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Really. That is new. Never had experienced it before. Guess I should not push it. Not sure if we are going to meet up or she'll give me her address. She did today on the telephone setup plans for next Saturday and this Saturday, which I think shows she likes me. Also, last Friday and this Friday she was said her and her friends were going somewhere, but she said she'd rather be with me. She enjoys my company. So ladies, is this a good progression sign? This is different from the last disaster. Where, assuming it is true on the Friday thing, she's seems to make time for me; and I make time for her.
prettybaby Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 It definitely sounds good! Don't worry about the kiss right now. Just see how it goes on your next date, and do it if it feels right. Third or fourth date kisses are okay too. Heck, I went on well over 20 dates with my man before we kissed. But that of course is another extreme I don't suggest you wait that long!
Author ruggy Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 What's a good sign that she's also thinking about kissing? Tips welcomed here.
IcemanJB Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 What's a good sign that she's also thinking about kissing? Tips welcomed here. You'll know. Just think back to all of your first kisses. You can just tell. One dead giveaway is if she does a lot of talking, but is looking at your mouth. If you feel it's there, just do it! I've never been turned down going by this rule.
Squirtal Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I agree with iceman. Plus if it feels right go for it. Sounds like all the right signs are there. You go lad!!! Whoop!
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