K-chan Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 My best friend broke up with this guy four weeks ago. He's been a good friend of mine for a while. We bond over a lot of things like comics, music and movies. He's intelligent and we can have political debates without hating each other even though he's a staunch democrat and I'm a staunch Republican. He impresses me everyday with his knowledge. I know a lot about him. I see him every day. He knows how to make me laugh and smile. We joke around a lot. After my mother died, he came to the funeral and the next time I saw him he wore a hot pink shirt and shoes because hot pink is my favorite color. He knows how to cheer me up. He even signed up for a class "just so we can have a class together". And he's just as weird and eccentric as I am, if not more. However, my friends cannot forgive him for "using" my best friend. I have to say that he did not treat her right at all. He tried kissing her and saying "I love you" just as experiments to see if she was committed. He openly admitted he liked another one of my friends while he was dating my best friend, but said that he liked my best friend more so they should keep dating. Now, my best friend broke up with him, but only four days after they break up he accidentally kisses my other friend. Then he goes two days later and kisses her for real just to see if he liked her. He's turned my friends against each other. He almost made a girl I've been friends with for five years hate my guts. I think I might like this guy, though. I've been thinking about him a lot. We talk a lot on facebook and myspace. We tried going to see a movie in a group and he couldn't make it because he was attending a family gathering. I was honestly disappointed and he said he was, too. We had planned to coordinate our outfit colors so we both wore baby blue. We made plans to see a movie when he's free. Part of me wants to not like him and part of me wants to pursue a relationship with him. If I did, though, I'm scared my friends would all look down on me. I think he views me different than all my friends. I'm not as dramatic as them. I don't hate him like all of them do. I told him that I didn't care he was an ass, I still valued him as a person and he told me he valued me, too. I'm not like my best friend who is extremely passive and I'm not like my other friend either who is overly aggressive to the point of constant moodiness so he thanked me for trying to understand his side of things. I never would have noticed this if my father hadn't brought it up. He said I acted like I liked this guy. I pondered if I did. I don't want to, but I think I might. Do you guys think I should pursue this further or try to move on? Does it really seem like I like this guy and he might like me?
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I think it'd be wise to keep him as JUST a friend and nothing more unless you'd like to lose all your friends. But also, it doesn't sound like he's very good boyfriend material, anyway. If I were you, I'd be more afraid of losing his friendship - because he does sound like a fun friend. But really, boyfriend doesn't sound like a good idea.
Woof Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Hmmm I think the reason you like him is becasue you have seen himlike your other friends and you are probably wondering "why not me?" and would like to try that. Also you 2 get along sooo well and you tihnk there could be more. There could be! But, dont get ahead of yourself, he's been kissing girls who are friends. I think you should just stay friends with him. When more time passes and he matures and you mature, just see if you still like him. Give it time but dont be too hopeful Hope that helps a bit!
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