Woggle Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I have noticed lately that many women I know are cheating on their husbands and boyfriends with their best friends. I also have heard some men almost bragging about taking another man's woman and this sickens me. What happend to brotherhood and not stabbing your friend's in the back? No matter what I would never in a million years mess around with a friend's woman. It used to be one of the biggest acts of betrayal a man could commit. I guess nothing is sacred anymore.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 That's pretty bad. It's astonishing what people will do to satisfy their own desires. I think some people really like having secrets.
burningashes Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Unfortunately, what you've said is true. I hope I never find out one day that my boyfriend/husband's been cheating on me with my best friend. Short of death, nothing else would hurt more than that. People don't respect boundaries or stick to their own boundaries these days. That's what is happening, there are no longer serious consequences when those boundaries are broken. Back in the days, it would be suicide to do any of that, and nowadays, people get away with everything now. Sad.
Sam Spade Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 If your best friend is Joe Pesci and your wife is Sharon Stone, it kinda makes sense. But, I don't think it makes such a huge difference. Anybody who knowingly engagers with a person in a relationship is a scumbag anyway, so the added layer of scum for being a 'friend' doesn't change things that much. Long time ago, my best friend's girlfriend (ex, thank god) repeatedly made freakin explicit moves on me. I wish i didn't show the restraint I did and busted her freaking teeth out instead.
IcemanJB Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 It does happen, sadly. If my "friend" ever did that to me, he can be sure I'd no longer have his back in anything.
isoleaf Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 this is sad for me to hear. i'm a straight male and all my friends are either women or gay men, so i never have this problem. i have a handful of straight male friends, but any woman i date would never cheat on me with any of them as they are completely different people from me. if they did cheat on me with them, i can't see it hurting me a TON (not to say it wouldn't hurt) as that'd mean there was very little compatibility to start with and i date a ton more than any of my straight male friends so i'd almost feel like i'd be okay with it as i'm always confident in my ability to find a better woman. i am not as confident in my friends' ability to do this... lastly, i imagine the amount of compatibility it'd require for my friend to "betray" me in this manner would mean that they're probably a better match for each other than i would be with them, which is another reason why i should be moving on and finding a better woman. all in all, i can't see this ever happening to me as when a friend is interested in a woman i am also interested in, i'll let him have her. i'll actually prolly wing for him too as sometimes the girl still wants me even though i'm giving him the chance. actually, now that i think about it... if there was a friend that a wife would cheat with, i probably am that friend. this is probably for the best as i have strong morals and am, as stated, always confident i can find a better woman. why pick around your friends? this is for lesser men who can't get out there and find those "plenty of other fish" that everyone keeps goin on and on about...
Dexter Morgan Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I have noticed lately that many women I know are cheating on their husbands and boyfriends with their best friends. Thats the beauty of breaking up and divorce....it can be done;) I also have heard some men almost bragging about taking another man's woman and this sickens me. I knew a guy like that once. he got the s##t beat out of him. I saw it when it happened. I knew the story, and although I am a fairly passive guy, I thought he got what he deserved. I didn't even have to say it, when it was over, a buddy of mine that was out with us there for a drink turned around and said to all of us, "thats what you get for f#####g someone elses wife". We all toasted to that one:D What happend to brotherhood and not stabbing your friend's in the back? No matter what I would never in a million years mess around with a friend's woman. It used to be one of the biggest acts of betrayal a man could commit. I guess nothing is sacred anymore. The good thing is you can weed out those guys who aren't worthy to be your friends. And it doesn't have to be your woman a guy does it to, I wouldn't befriend a guy that is known to screwing someone elses gf or wife. Those types of guys sicken me and I hang out with a better class of people than that.
Stockalone Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I knew a guy like that once. he got the s##t beat out of him. I saw it when it happened. I knew the story, and although I am a fairly passive guy, I thought he got what he deserved. I didn't even have to say it, when it was over, a buddy of mine that was out with us there for a drink turned around and said to all of us, "thats what you get for f#####g someone elses wife". We all toasted to that one:D Unfortunately, most of them will not be man enough to take the beating they so richly deserve, and let it go. They will run to their lawyer like cowards and have the husband or bf sued over it. The good thing is you can weed out those guys who aren't worthy to be your friends. And it doesn't have to be your woman a guy does it to, I wouldn't befriend a guy that is known to screwing someone elses gf or wife. Those types of guys sicken me and I hang out with a better class of people than that. I agree.
Dexter Morgan Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Unfortunately, most of them will not be man enough to take the beating they so richly deserve, and let it go. They will run to their lawyer like cowards and have the husband or bf sued over it. This guy prided himself on being a tough guy, so he wasn't about to bring a lawsuit because then his tough guy status would be in question. but then again, his tough guy status is definitely in question because the husband that beat the crap out of him is not considered a tough guy at all. I actually was surprised at the beating the other guy took and he did try to fight back. But the fury of a man whose wife was screwing another guy was just too powerful. I could just see the adrenaline rush in him. I hate to say it, I enjoyed watching it thoroughly.
isoleaf Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 This guy prided himself on being a tough guy, so he wasn't about to bring a lawsuit because then his tough guy status would be in question. but then again, his tough guy status is definitely in question because the husband that beat the crap out of him is not considered a tough guy at all. I actually was surprised at the beating the other guy took and he did try to fight back. But the fury of a man whose wife was screwing another guy was just too powerful. I could just see the adrenaline rush in him. I hate to say it, I enjoyed watching it thoroughly. pretty sweet. i'd have liked to have seen that. although the guy getting beat up prolly wasn't trying to murder the guy as much as defend himself which is prolly why he lost. if someone's out to get you and ur just trying to not get hurt, then they'll always win. i find the absence of female posts in this thread odd. i noticed that in the thread where the woman is complaining about the ex-wife trying to squeeze her nice bf out of more money over nothing, the women posters were also strangely absent. i guess they have nothing to say about this or that matter, although i'd appreciate the appeal of the best friend and why women do it or what they think of it. guess we'll never know.
Lizzie60 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I agree.. it's the worst form of betrayal.. My friendships are sacred.. I would never EVER fool around with my friends' bf/H... and they know that... I don't call these guys 'friends' a true friend would never do something like that.
bean1 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Once a man is attached in some way, I instantly lose an attraction to him, so this has never been an issue for me!
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 This happened to a friend of mine. Her husband slept with her best friend, then he left m friend, now he is married to her ex-best friend. Good luck to them, they deserve each other. As for my friend, 5 years later, she still has so many issues with getting close to anyone. She is beautiful on the inside and out, and endlessly interesting. It is so sad.
MN randomguy Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 This happened to a friend of mine. Her husband slept with her best friend, then he left m friend, now he is married to her ex-best friend. Good luck to them, they deserve each other. As for my friend, 5 years later, she still has so many issues with getting close to anyone. She is beautiful on the inside and out, and endlessly interesting. It is so sad. Very true, This is why such behavior is unacceptable. It hurts good people. Knew a good guy who got married young. His wife decided that it was important to go out and party all of the time. Hung-out with his friends and started sleeping around with them. When she told him he told her he wanted a divorce. Not only lost his wife, but found-out that he didn't have any real friends either.
MN randomguy Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I have noticed lately that many women I know are cheating on their husbands and boyfriends with their best friends. I also have heard some men almost bragging about taking another man's woman and this sickens me. What happend to brotherhood and not stabbing your friend's in the back? No matter what I would never in a million years mess around with a friend's woman. It used to be one of the biggest acts of betrayal a man could commit. I guess nothing is sacred anymore. I think this is the reasoning behind the rise in occurrence. Gotta find the next high. Gotta break that next taboo.
Author Woggle Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 I guess so but there are some lines you just don't cross and betrayel is one of them. I am far from an angel and I feel like a person's personal life is their business but stabbing your friends in the back is just low. The other day at the barbershop I heard two men bragging about taking other men's women and it made me sick. I thought that in a mainly male enviroment I wouldn't have to be around this crap but I guess I was wrong. I hope one of these men have their wife cheat on them with a friend in the future.
MN randomguy Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 I guess so but there are some lines you just don't cross and betrayel is one of them. I am far from an angel and I feel like a person's personal life is their business but stabbing your friends in the back is just low. The other day at the barbershop I heard two men bragging about taking other men's women and it made me sick. I thought that in a mainly male enviroment I wouldn't have to be around this crap but I guess I was wrong. I hope one of these men have their wife cheat on them with a friend in the future. Good possibility of that. They're both friends and they both don't respect that line. They will probably both try to bed each other's wives. And be successful, and get herpa-gonna-syphilis from it.
Trialbyfire Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 This happened to a friend of mine. Her husband slept with her best friend, then he left m friend, now he is married to her ex-best friend. Good luck to them, they deserve each other. As for my friend, 5 years later, she still has so many issues with getting close to anyone. She is beautiful on the inside and out, and endlessly interesting. It is so sad.It's bad enough to be cheated on the first place but to have the double-whammy with it being your best friend is horrendous. It's no wonder you hear about crimes of passion. I feel for your friend. How can people be so low?
Dexter Morgan Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 pretty sweet. i'd have liked to have seen that. although the guy getting beat up prolly wasn't trying to murder the guy as much as defend himself which is prolly why he lost. if someone's out to get you and ur just trying to not get hurt, then they'll always win. True, but still sweet nonetheless. I think if the guy that got the crap beat out of him tried to beat the crap out of the guy whose wife he f####d, it wouldn't have mattered...the betrayed husband was too hopped up on adrenaline and in this case I don't think it would have mattered. A lesson to the guy who is partial to sleeping with other guy's wives? probably not. He'll be on the next worthless wife in no time. But he still got what was coming to him.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 10, 2009 Posted March 10, 2009 It's bad enough to be cheated on the first place but to have the double-whammy with it being your best friend is horrendous. It's no wonder you hear about crimes of passion. I feel for your friend. How can people be so low? Predictably, she also has trust issues with friends. She has a hard time getting close to women, for good reason.
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