heartoutside Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 So i've been casually dating this girl for about a month and a half. We dated for a little about 6 months ago, but things just didn't work out. But after a period of not seeing or talking to each other we started things up again at the end of Jan. The other night, she and I were texting back and forth while I was out with friends and she brought up our date the next night (last night) and invited herself to stay at my place because she had a meeting to go to this am and didn't want to have to drive back and forth. I said it was more then fine and she called me the next day during her lunch break to confirm our date that evening and how to get to my place (we were meeting at my place). So she gets out of work around 8 (asked if she could get out early) and came over to my place. I gave her the tour and introduced her to my roommate. We then went out to dinner and I took her to a show, both of which she enjoyed. We then head back to my place. She's been up since 7am and worked all day and is on some meds that make her sleepy so naturally she's super tired. So she changes into her PJs, but before she starts to change she says to me she has a little surprise for me....Awesome. She comes out of the bathroom wearing a fleece top which had a logo from my hometown on it (which she picked up when she went there before we met). I suppose she may have thought i was kind of cute, but it sure didn't spell sexy! SO we sit on the couch together for alittle while and talk and then head to the bedroom....where she busts out her glamour mag and starts reading our horoscopes and showing me different fashions she likes...I don't know maybe she was a little nervous or something, but i just went along. I then turn out the lights and we lay there talking for a little and then I make a move, but she just doesn't seem to be reacting that much....so I kind of laugh it off and we keep talking....and we talk for a while until she rolls over and turns her back to me (she can't sleep on her other side because of a past broken shoulder) to go to sleep. At one point she does roll to her other side and puts her leg around me, but it didn't last long again because of her shoulder.... But that's how the nite went....it wasn't bad, I trully enjoy talking with her because we are both super busy and don't get much personally time. I just can't tell what happened, was she nervous, was she tired, does she just want to take it slow......did she come over out of pity and convenience? She called today after she was done with everything and we talked for a good hour, she thanked me at the very beginng of our convo for last night and then again at the end of our conversation, only this time she added that she was glad we got to do something together because a few weeks ago I kind of sent her a text that was alittle bitter sounding because she blew me off due to her busy schedule. And she wanted to make sure that wouldn't happen again (the bitterness or the misunderstanding). It was just an odd night for me because I've never really dated a girl that wasn't at least little aggressive. So I'm having a hard time wrap'n my head around what happened to say the least....
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 and talk and then head to the bedroom....At one point she does roll to her other side and puts her leg around me, but it didn't last long again because of her shoulder.... It was just an odd night for me because I've never really dated a girl that wasn't at least little aggressive. So I'm having a hard time wrap'n my head around what happened to say the least.... Hmm, well clue number one- slept in you bed. I would never sleep over at a guys house and sleep in his bed unless I liked him. As for the not so sexy top- I am sure she is conflicted over coming on too sexy too fast. This means she has some values. She ALSO made an effort to BUY something to wear that she thought would impress you. That shows she thinks about you when you are not around. She slung her leg over you- what did you do? I see that as a missed opportunity. She removed it when you didn't capitalize on her hint. Many girls don't want to be the aggressor- they want to drop you the hints and wait for you to do it. It's possibls she is just as confused and doesn't understand why YOU didn't make any plays.
Author heartoutside Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 I did make a few plays... When she put her leg over me, I put my arm around her and pulled her in closer to me, but she buried her head in her pillow....but yeah i suppose you're right.....
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I tend to agree with D-Lish on this one. I definitely have a freaky side, but my current BF is self-admittedly a little old-fashioned. He hasn't had a "freaky" GF before me. I'm worried to scare him away with my antics...or by coming on "too sexy," as D-Lish put it. I've held back a little at times. She may just be working a little bit more on getting comfortable. Thinking she wanted it, but then a little nervous when it got down to it. Give her time, but still be open to making the moves in the future.
Woof Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I think this girl does like you. She maybe wanted te play a bit hard to get? Or didnt want to make you think that she is easy because shes already sleepingin your bed. And you also said that you sent her a text that sounded bitter, so maybe she was just nervous arouund you. See her again and se how that goes Good luck!
Author heartoutside Posted March 10, 2009 Author Posted March 10, 2009 Everyone seems to agree, but there seems to be lingering doubt in my mind. For example, I sent her a text this afternoon after a crappy day saying I need a vacation...and she replied back. So i figured when I got home and got done what I needed to get done, I would give her a call and vent a little (which she always does with me, she'll call and just go off for 20 mins on the crappy day she had). So i vent and we talk, and all the while she was taking care of other things (balancing her check book and such).....Now granted she may have been trying to do too many things at once, but the conversation just seemed to be ehh...like it was 2 friends chit chat'n...maybe not even that. But she and I are going to a hockey game next week with some of my friends which she has said she's excited about.....but something just doesn't seem to be adding up. I mean there's playing hard to get and then there's just insane.....which I may be going if I continue down this same path with this girl! Then there's the fact that she hasn't really invited me to do anything....it's always me bringing up the ideas or asking her to dinner or hockey...etc etc...I mean how long can that go on for?
Author heartoutside Posted March 11, 2009 Author Posted March 11, 2009 So just to give an example of how facebook is just another mind messer, tonight I log'd to facebook and there was a notice that this girl I've been "seeing" had changed her status. Before she had nothing listed, hasn't had anything listed for sometime.....but tonight for some odd reason she changed it to single...I've never listed my status....so it's never been an issue.... I haven't talked to her today, I figured after calling her yesterday, I'll just let her be..who knows...
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