Girlygirl1977 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I broke up with my ex in January and I've moved on and am casually seeing someone else. That new guy is traveling for about 10 days and so he is out of town. My ex's father recently died and so he was out of town for 3 wks. The ex got back today and had mentioned last week that we should meet. I said sure especially as I haven't seen him since his father passed away. It helps to be nice to people at such times I think. I am traveling for work 2 days (wed/thur) and I told him that last week. Now he got back to me and says the only days which work for him are wed/thur/sat. Saturday works for me but isn't that kind of a date night? What do you think about this situation?
Charles1978 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I've lost a parent, and I think all of the unwritten rules should be thrown out for this. Chances are he is trying to connect with a lot of old friends, you included, for support. It is a life changing experience, and one that does make you try to reach out for support, or anything to get your mind off of it. If I were you, I wouldn't worry too much about his motives. If you are actually worried about him trying anything, remember that you control that as much as he does.
Author Girlygirl1977 Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 I've lost a parent, and I think all of the unwritten rules should be thrown out for this. Chances are he is trying to connect with a lot of old friends, you included, for support. It is a life changing experience, and one that does make you try to reach out for support, or anything to get your mind off of it. If I were you, I wouldn't worry too much about his motives. If you are actually worried about him trying anything, remember that you control that as much as he does. Thanks it's good to hear others' perspectives esp. as you have also lost a parent. I assume many things are very different for him now as far as how he is thinking. I have not experienced this before but I'll keep it in mind. I believe I'm being a bit more open to him for this reason. It's an unusual time after all. I think that's human to do so. I mean if I ignored him or said I can't meet him because we broke up, I believe that would be strange. . .would seem a bit harsh.
Chrome Barracuda Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 maybe he just needs a friend right now, why must a female always think there's other reasons?
EYECANDY000 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Why should the day of the week matter? Its not a date unless u specify it as a date
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I don't see how the day of the week matters as long as your intentions are clear (friends only).
Author Girlygirl1977 Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 Yes I see your ponits. Thanks for the thoughts. And of course I do have sympathy.
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