Ariadei Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Hello all, I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. I've known since the beginning that he enjoys his porn, and I as well get into it. We both watch it in our own time and sometimes while we're together, to spice things up. I also love going through his porn folder (he knows I do this, sometimes we do it together even) to see what gets him riled up, to see if perhaps I can emulate it in some way (wearing a particular kind of outfit, styling my hair a certain way, etc.) In short, we have a very open relationship when it comes to porn, and I've always seen it not as a threat, but simply something to enjoy. However...I was going through his porn folder tonight, waiting for him to get home from work so I could suprise him with a little something-something, and I stumbled across a folder marked specifically with one girl's name (she's like...one of those online porn stars who takes pictures of themselves and posts it on a website of theirs). And the folder contained over 300 pictures of this girl alone. This number is astonishing to me. Sometimes he'll collect pictures of a certain girl or another, but never more than maybe 50 at most. But 300? I'm stunned, and for the first time ever, a bit jealous of porn. I mean, does the fact that he's so focused on this ONE girl mean anything, or am I just overanalyzing? It just shocked me. Is this normal for men, since I have obviously no clue what's "normal" for them when it comes to their porn or masturbating. Anyway...any replies...thanks.
missdependant Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Oh man.. so many people come on here with the same complaint. You're not alone and yeah. Porn is really frustrating, and I think it can cause a lot of harm to relationships. Especially when your boyfriend is obsessed with it. "I mean, does the fact that he's so focused on this ONE girl......."And yes. That is really weird. Had an ex like that. That is why he is now an ex. Oh, but also... maybe it's a torrent file. When you download torrent files, they can include a lot of stuff. If he downloaded and found all 300 files on his own... then yeah, I think that's pretty weird.
Author Ariadei Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 *sigh* Thanks for the reply, missdependant. I talked with him about it last night, and unfortunately it escalated into a bit of a fight. He says he doesn't understand why I've had no issue with his porn in the past, but suddenly it's a big deal that he has so many pictures of just one girl alone. He said it's nothing to do with her personally, just that she HAS so many pictures on her website to look at, whereas most porn girls only have a handful. Also, I asked him, and he said that he saved each picture individually to his computer (it wasn't a torrent file or anything). He changed his password on the computer so that now I can't get on it any longer and look at his porn, saying that now he's worried I'll just be looking at it to check up on him. He also deleted all of the pictures of the one girl he had, although I said he didn't need to. He said he wanted to to prove that the pictures weren't that important to him. I don't know. Is the issue settled? My feelings are still a bit hurt, but perhaps I should just let this one go.
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