ricebunny86 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 So, im really not sure if i should be the one to contact this guy?? We went out on monday 3/02 i believe..we went to the movies, and then to eat, and then to the mall. He was such a gentlemen, opening my car door and paying for everything- food, tickets, drinks. he even bought me a hat at the mall because he thought i would like it. we spent 6 hours together, which is pretty long for a first date. After the mall, he kept asking me if i wanted to go shoot pool, or go to a bar or something, and i said no cause he had work the next morning so i didn't want to keep him. On the drive home, i kinda fell asleep and i feel bad- i hope i did not give him the impression that i was bored-(oops) he drop me and said "we should do something on sat" however, he never call though. he was such a gentlemen, and he didnt even try to kiss me. Funny thing is we met at the club, and we kiss over there, and we were texting each other 4 2 wks, then met up. So he hasn't contact me since our date, which was monday..did i scare him by falling asleep...or is he just not interested???
Lizzie60 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 He might be confused about you saying you wanted to go home.. then fall asleep .. he probably has the idea that you WERE bored with him. If I were you, and if you're really interested.. I would give him a call.. why not? who said that the guy has to do all the 'work'.. you have nothing to lose.
mortensorchid Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Yes, nothing wrong with giving him a call after the first get together. If he's interested, he will then call YOU next. Tell him you had a good time and hope everything's ok with him. If he's interested, he'll call you sometime afterward. If not? Move on.
Chicago_Guy Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I think that either he isn't interested or he assumes you aren't interested. If he kissed you the first time he met you but didn't kiss you after that first date, that is a bad sign, especially if he suggested going out the following Saturday, but then didn't bother to call you to set anything up. Maybe he didn't follow up because he assumes you were bored? If you want to go out with him again, you probably do need to call him to let him know you are interested.
SoulSearch_CO Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I think that either he isn't interested or he assumes you aren't interested. If he kissed you the first time he met you but didn't kiss you after that first date, that is a bad sign, especially if he suggested going out the following Saturday, but then didn't bother to call you to set anything up. Maybe he didn't follow up because he assumes you were bored? If you want to go out with him again, you probably do need to call him to let him know you are interested. I agree with CG. The guy was getting mixed signals from you. While I can understand being considerate of the other person's time when they have to get up early the next morning, HE was the one making the offer to spend more time together. While you might have felt you were trying to be nice, he may have taken it as a hint that you were sick of hanging out with him.
prettybaby Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Girl, it's been a week and Saturday has come and gone! When you didn't hear from him on Friday, you should have contacted him then. You could have texted him to confirm you had a great time and also keep things rolling for Saturday. My first date went about the same as yours: had a great time with him, spent about 6 hours together, I got tired in the end and almost fell asleep in his car. Then I waited for him to contact me and nothing happened ... I sent him a little text 4 days later saying something like: "Hey, just wanted to say I really had a great time on Friday. I hope I wasn't too boring towards the end; got really tired! We should definitely do this again :-) " .... to which he called and invited me for dinner and movies. Turns out he really wasn't sure whether I had enjoyed myself or not.
jadelil25 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I dont see any harm in calling him. It has been a while since the date and he maybe under the impression that you was not interested so that his is reason for not getting back to you. I would make the call sooner rather than later. Just call him ask how he is and see how things are. Then ask him if he has much planned for the week ahead. If he says no then take that as an opening to ask him to do something/ask if he wants to meet up. Even if he says that he is busy just ask if he would like to do something when he is free. Just go for it. Im sure all will be fine.
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