Ilovehim Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Like break NC and tell him how I feel... For some reason i think it will make me feel better even if he doesnt respond...knowing I just got it out there... OR maybe im just dillusional....but I honestly cant take ths any longer....I was thinking about telling him that I miss him and want to be his friend and everything...I read this story often break NC yes, no? sorry i know its so typical but here is the problem... as many of you i wasnt in touch with him and out of anger or need to move on..or simply I dont know..I ignored his texts because everyone said to do so...wrong! Now Im so confused and miss him and im going crazy..I feel like me opening my heart to him would be a dumb choice but i tried being civil and it sucks...i came here asked for advice and people said just start by asking him how he's doing..i did..but obvoiusly now he wont talk to me...how do i get him tot alk to me?? i feel like calling him private or from ny new number and just taking it from there...explaing that i was doing nc to move on and now i have and would like to be his friend...then try to get him to like me again...while living my life of course...if this wont work then i guess i can completely know there is nothing i can do but i have to at least try because my love for thsi guy is TOO STRONG...i have to try SOMETHING...
Tryng2Trust08 Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I have broke NC...and I can't say when I broke it it was a bad thing. I told him I felt soo bad about what happened and he agreed saying he felt awful. I had no motives of getting back considering I don't think we are the best match. I guess my feelings are neutral, it didnt make me feel any worse than to text with him than I was feeling not being in contact with him. He told me Im a wonderful girl and somehow that stuck with me, that he would tell me such a thing because I have said some pretty awful things to him. Im the kinda person where I need to be honest and get all of my feelings out. So, do what you feel is right, but think about it, don't do it when you're emotional, and do not have any motives of getting back together. And you may not like what he has to say.
Peter_pan Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I have broke NC...and I can't say when I broke it it was a bad thing. I told him I felt soo bad about what happened and he agreed saying he felt awful. I had no motives of getting back considering I don't think we are the best match. I guess my feelings are neutral, it didnt make me feel any worse than to text with him than I was feeling not being in contact with him. He told me Im a wonderful girl and somehow that stuck with me, that he would tell me such a thing because I have said some pretty awful things to him. Im the kinda person where I need to be honest and get all of my feelings out. So, do what you feel is right, but think about it, don't do it when you're emotional, and do not have any motives of getting back together. And you may not like what he has to say. perfect advise right there
D-Lish Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I don't know your history so I don't know how to advise you about what to do... Who broke up with who, how long has it been...those kind of things. I'd go back and read- but I am working on my resume so don't have time to search threads... Generally- Calling someone up and telling them you are still head over heels for them immediately strips you of all your power in the break up and sets you back. But... I don't know your situation.
Tryng2Trust08 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 I wanted to also add, we slipped into a conversation through texts, reminiscing about things we did together. He said he was sad I never made him dinner, because he had made dinner for me, lol. Looking back it wasnt very appropriate given the time frame we have been broken up. In his texts he had questions and seemed hurt and we kinda went around and around. Not a very good thing to do..it's your choice though, but do it when you feel grounded, no emotional. It didnt make me feel any worse being in contact. Also, you want to tell him you want to be his friend? Are you are you just want a friendship because I highly doubt you do. And trust me do NOT try to be his friend having feelings for him, its going to backfire and you are going to feel hurt and u will be kicking yourself!!
northstar1 Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Like break NC and tell him how I feel... For some reason i think it will make me feel better even if he doesnt respond...knowing I just got it out there... OR maybe im just dillusional....but I honestly cant take ths any longer....I was thinking about telling him that I miss him and want to be his friend and everything...I read this story often break NC yes, no? sorry i know its so typical but here is the problem... as many of you i wasnt in touch with him and out of anger or need to move on..or simply I dont know..I ignored his texts because everyone said to do so...wrong! Now Im so confused and miss him and im going crazy..I feel like me opening my heart to him would be a dumb choice but i tried being civil and it sucks...i came here asked for advice and people said just start by asking him how he's doing..i did..but obvoiusly now he wont talk to me...how do i get him tot alk to me?? i feel like calling him private or from ny new number and just taking it from there...explaing that i was doing nc to move on and now i have and would like to be his friend...then try to get him to like me again...while living my life of course...if this wont work then i guess i can completely know there is nothing i can do but i have to at least try because my love for thsi guy is TOO STRONG...i have to try SOMETHING... I'm not sure of your whole story, but sounds like you've been NC for 7 months? NC is hard, but contacting him under the basis of 'friendship' will not work out well, if you are still in love.
miss-jem-bishop Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 i think building it all upside is not helping and as much as you wanna say it maybe you actually should if you feel it will help then i say go for it because people hurt aswell from things unsaid.. and if something happened to him 2moro and he was gone would you regret not telling him???? ( ask your self that ) and then maybe it will help you decide! it isnt gonna be easy and yeah NC is no contact for a reason but when you love someone it is easier for someone else to say it than it is to be done! So hold you head up and dont poor your heart up and bring the past out just say look listen for 2 mins, the least you can do is speare me then say you have tryed the no contact and yeah you do miss him but you would rather be his friend and have memories than him be nothing at all and well take it from there i guess keep smiling tho take the bad with good just remember tear willl dry and smiles will fade but memories last forever ... no one will replace you and trust me no matter how much a man says he dosent think bout you or you think he dosent think bout you ... he does! memories dnt fade! x
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