alwayssme Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 It's beena long time since I wrote a thread asking for advice but thought maybe I'd give it a try.. Well me and my ex have been broken up for awhile...like 7-8 months...Anyway I thought I was doing good, or try to convince myself I was over it but Im really...not. Typical story, reasons for the break-up dont really matter...just we broke up...he tried to contact me but I was doing NC so I didnt respond... I made an attempt to contact him this week....and no answer from him at all...My birthday passed and he didnt wish me anything... I want to be friends with him or at least on speaking terms. He had told me that when Im ready to be friends to let him know and it wasnt just him saying it...we remained in contact and had many serious conversations about this... I feel like he is ignoring me because he is mad at me for ignoring him...We had said to remain in touch and then I just completely went NC without telling him...I don't want to play games, I want to tell him I want to be friends but I dont want to seem desperate...and Im hurt and pissed off he ignored me... So what should I do?? How do I get his friendship without being desperate about it?? and should i tell him i was doing NC to heal?? I dont know... Im so confused because I get mixed replies from people...
anne1707 Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 You did NC and now he is doing NC. That is his choice and maybe that is what is right for him. You cannot really complain about it when you have spent the last few months ignoring any attempt at contact he has made. Respect his decision and move on.
Tryng2Trust08 Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I agree, respect his decision that he is doing NC. Maybe he will contact you next week or month, but since you did NC to him, it may have upset him. I know you did it for yourself and to heal, it was the right decision for you. So, maybe you guys can be friends, but not right now until he responds to you.
gavinus Posted March 9, 2009 Posted March 9, 2009 Maybe what you could do is send him an email saying what you want, and make it very clear that it is up to him to contact you when he is ready, that way you have said your peace and can move on if he does not contact you, but the downside to that is you give him all the power
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