12ape Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Well, I have been talking to this girl for about 2 weeks now. On MSN/Face book/Text messages etc, and we get on reasonably well we are both quite flirty. Well, I met up with her Friday night and she was with her friends at a GIG.. She was very "shy" around me when she saw me/came over and said "Hi" and everything. I'm a little shy myself, and I get a little bit "gutty and quite" when her friends are around her etc. It seems like I can only really talk to her 1on1 for now, and she is like she wants to be around her friends and talk. So literally we Said "hi" on friday, had a little talk about things. Hugged her once, said goodnight. He friends told me that she talks about me "alot" at school/college. And that she likes me, but she is very shy around me.... But when we talk on msn/face book/txt she seems fine. She even said that she misses talking to me, and was sorry for leaving early on Friday night. So we text's the morning after, the usual how are you etc.. Asking questions out of randomness. She said she was in the city today, and that after she wanted to meet up with me for a "walk/stroll" and talk. She knows she is shy around me, and I get a little shy because she is shy... You see the problem? Well, I met up with her at around 7 today up the town Centre and I met her friends, I said "hi" how you doing, what you been up too ?, get anything nice.. You know being the casual type of person.. Her friends are talkative, once spoken too. So I tried to spark up a conversation with the "shy girl" I like and she just seems to feel awkward around me, and im finding it really tough to say something/interact with her so I can gain her trust.. So one of her friends had to go, so we walked her back to the taxi drop off point until she went. Then we decided to go to the Park, so we walked to the park, gently talking/confronting her about what to talk about. Once we got to the park, we went to the swings.. Sat down and started to talk about things. So there is us talking about random things like, what is the most cringest thing I have done etc... blah blah blah, garbage talking nonsense.. Me looking like a complete *** of myself as I usually do - ha ha! and the shy girl literally said that she wanted me to "sell it to her". But I am not sure how or what to do, as I am kind of in a awkward position.. That she is shy, doesn't look/talk to me that much but knows im there... This is doing my head in.. Her other friend, had to use the phone so she wondered off leaving us 2 on the swings, awkward I know! But I really want to get to know this girl and become more than a friend to her. So I said, like " how you doing, bought anything nice today? " Her replying blankly and dull like "yeah, I got this and that". Being shy. After a bit of talking, I asked her.. How Do I get to know you more, how can I gain your trust so we can talk... She didn't really know, and kept being shy... Anyway, her friend came back and she needed to go home. So we walked back to the "shy girls(who i like)" house and we went in to be picked up / talk. After her friend went, it was just me and her.. In literally, utter silence. *So I kind of gestured if she wanted to come sit with me, being kind and caring whilst patting the seat* and she was like "I'm ok, I can sit here* ( She was on the laptop sorting her younger brothers laptop out (MSN). So I said " Would you like to go upstairs, and talk a bit" because her brother was in the room at the time. And she was like " You have seen what my room is like, a complete mess " Let's talk out in the kitchen. So we walked to the kitchen and I said something like, " You are quite shy I can see, would you like a hug " and she literally walked into my arms and had a little hug.. So I said I should be moving on home as it is getting late, so I got my stuff and said goodbye, and hugged her again to say good-bye. She was still being shy.. I wasn't quite sure at the time, and I said " Could I do something else" and she was like " no" I was like ok (Smiled) and said talk to you later ill let you know when I'm home. So I started to walk home, and she text me saying "what did you want to do" I replied " I wanted to peck you on the cheek x", no response... When I got home I told her I was home, logged onto msn and said Me: Hey, did you get my text's Her: yup Me : Alright Me: Sorry if I, confronted you a bit.. I don't want you to feel iffy around me x I thank you for letting me come out tonight .. x Her: loooooooooooool Me: ?? Her: Just funny Me:Ok, im heading for the shower.. talk to you later x Her: i wont be on so bye Me: :] bye bye x Her: Bye *after shower* Text: Me: You okay? NO RESPONSE Me: Night, talk to you later x NO RESPONSE Have I blown it? I really like this shy girl, and I don't want her to be off with me already... She isn't in the richest of families neither herself, and she knows im up-spoken, polite and everything. And I think that is scaring her too, But her friend said, at least your not a "dick" like others we know. I really like her, should I text her in the morning? or wait it out? Well I waited until the next morning and text her " Hey, how are you ". She replied and we had a generic chit-chat about things like going to work, being tired, being cold and bored ha-ha. How can I "MAN-UP" and make her un-shy, she said to me that when she’s around someone "new" she gets all shy, how can I gain THAT TRUST in her? I don't want to force her to do anything, or anything she feels uncomfortable. But just meeting up in real life, talking seems to be a problem with her. And it is really, upsetting and makes me feel "sick"! I went on MSN after work, had a little chat with her then she had to go. Then she came back around 30 minutes later, and I said that I needed to have a lay down because I didn’t feel well. (Because of what is happening). So I said something like, Could I text you when I have had a lay down, and she was like “ok”. So I had a lay down, rested myself and told her direct feelings I had for her. Then she replied “ I don’t know what I have to say ”. Then I replied something like “Do you like me in that way? ” ( NO RESPONSE) – 30 minutes had past. I then wrote “I understand, I will leave you alone now”. She replied “Don’t be moody ”. What does this mean? Is she stringing me along? Something doesn’t feel right… So I replied something along the lines of Me: “You smell”. She replied : “ Very nice, thank you”. Me : “ I know x” She replied : Talk later Me: Drop me a line when you want to talk x [FONT=Wingdings]J[/FONT] 2 hours later, and a little sleep. She replied : Y? Me: What do you mean? She: You said drop me a line when I can? Me: So we can talk xx? She: About? Me: Anything, what are you up too xx She: Watching a film x you? Me: Sleeping xx ( NO response) And here I am writing this out, as I feel unsure what’s going on…? I must admit, I have come out of a 4 year relationship about a month ago now, and when I met this girl, I actually felt happy… Like something new, interesting a new light in my life, something to work on! It just feels like it has been switched off and the door closed on my face. What should I do? Continue to text her? Talk to her? Or wait until she comes back to me, if she actually does give a rats ARSE….? Thanks for reading, Sam M 19/M/Kent
Toodle Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Based on the text exchanges, you're coming aross as a bit... "nice" and needy tbh. I'm not being horrible, but it's not exactely alluring. If you want ot man up, figure out something you know she'd be probably interested in (bowling, film, whatever), phone her up or next time you get some 1-on-1 time, and just say hey do you fancy doing x with me on [day of week]? If she says dunn, walk away. Stop initiating texts, stp with the double kisses, and even single ones, you're not a woman. Stop sending two texts in a row. Stop asking if she got your texts. If she is interested, which gota say doesn't read that way, she might be enjoying the attention and playing games. DON'T PLAY GMAES WITH A WOMAN, you'll lose. The only way to avoid playing games is to ask her out on a precise day for a precise activity, and if she says anything other than yes, walk.
Author 12ape Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 ADD ON: Not long ago she text me saying, The reason I am off with you right now is because you are so similar to her EX. ??????
mikesierra Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 wow I would have never guessed that you are 19... you sound younger from all that. but toodle is completely right. the girl said you are just like her ex? I would say she likes you but not your needy personality. back off, and if you score another chance to hang out with her, don't pay all of your attention to her! engage her friends, flirt with them. I know it might sound stupid, but if you make yourself out to look like a shy little boy in front of a girls' friends, God have mercy.
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