climbergirl Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 So the guy finally asks me out. Emails me at 5 am to ask me this. The day of. Ok, I'm not going to abide by this "short notice and don't go out" crap. I know he is really busy and has a lot going on. If I could have, I would have. But he just happened to ask me on a day that I couldn't. So, I tell him to give me a call when he has another day off. He says he knows I'm busy with kids and school. Nope! I say. I can usually make time-he's the one with 3 jobs, and new house thing. He says, "No I will make time". But, still, no future plans made. It was like running in circles with this guy. I feel like being bold and just saying "look, *date and time* just show up!" But in a nicer way, of course. Wrong way to go with this? Yes, I realize this all sounds juvenile. I guess that's why I feel like pulling the bull by the horns, so to speak. I feel like we would have a great time if we get passed whatever the hell we need to get passed. I hate having the ball in my court. I'd like to give it a chance, but feeling it's a bit flakey ATM. I'm so unversed in this dating thing.
mikesierra Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 So the guy finally asks me out. Emails me at 5 am to ask me this. The day of. Ok, I'm not going to abide by this "short notice and don't go out" crap. I know he is really busy and has a lot going on. If I could have, I would have. But he just happened to ask me on a day that I couldn't. So, I tell him to give me a call when he has another day off. He says he knows I'm busy with kids and school. Nope! I say. I can usually make time-he's the one with 3 jobs, and new house thing. He says, "No I will make time". But, still, no future plans made. It was like running in circles with this guy. I feel like being bold and just saying "look, *date and time* just show up!" But in a nicer way, of course. Wrong way to go with this? Yes, I realize this all sounds juvenile. I guess that's why I feel like pulling the bull by the horns, so to speak. I feel like we would have a great time if we get passed whatever the hell we need to get passed. I hate having the ball in my court. I'd like to give it a chance, but feeling it's a bit flakey ATM. I'm so unversed in this dating thing. I don't know. it sounds like he has 3 jobs or something.
MindoverMatter Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I feel like being bold and just saying "look, *date and time* just show up!" But in a nicer way, of course. Wrong way to go with this? No, it's fine. I'd suggest giving him the choice between two dates that are okay for you. Then, he either can make time for you or he can't. It doesn't really matter if he cares for you or not, he could love you to the moon and back, it won't do either of you any good if he can is not able to make time for you.
Author climbergirl Posted March 9, 2009 Author Posted March 9, 2009 Thank you!! I did just that...told him that Mon or Tues. that I'm open to going out. I know that those are the days he's most open. I hope that my move wasn't 'too' bold. I just don't believe in f*cking around. Either do it or don't. Wrong move?
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