Men: what is the best present you were ever given? (Ok, I basically need ideas)

[prettybaby]

My man's birthday is coming up soon and I'm not sure what to buy. He's not into sports (although he does run once a week). He flies small planes, plays guitar (although he doesn't read notes). I don't want to get him some silly gadget; I want something (preferably) small, timeless and classy.

 

He's been a perfect gentleman with me so far. My birthday was last week and he bought me some pricey perfume. He's bought me lots of little things since we started dating and I have yet to make my first purchase for him.

 

So, sexual favors and home cooked meals are out of the question (I wouldn't rule it out as an extra though lol).

 

What I'm looking for is a nice gift to buy and I have no ideas at all! He does wear a discrete gold chain under his clothes which has his 2 passions: a little gold plane, and a little gold guitar. I was thinking of getting him a third, something representing love (he's been single for the longest time, and well, I'm pretty sure we're in for a very long term relationship), but I'm thinking I'll hang on to this idea for later on. It's a bit too much for a birthday, right?

[mr.dream merchant]

Birthday gifts tend to be good when its one major gift, and a couple small thoughtful ones. My GF gave me some Timbs, a Watch, a framed picture of her (my favorite one), and a card for my birthday. Out of all my presents though, I have to say my I Am King Cologne by Sean John is straight piffery. I mean, its a damn panty dropper for sure. The bottle is a decent size, and its going to last me awhile.

[mikesierra]

I'm just speaking for myself but I don't think girls buying me jewelry is all that appealing. If you want to buy him something material, why wait for his birthday? Everyone else is doing the same thing. I'd go for an experience, but I'm not very materialistic. My bank account is though.

[prettybaby]

^^ Obviously, I'm still gonna have to do SOMETHING for his actual birthday lol I can't just do something cool next week and then nada on his birthday.

 

I see where you're coming from with the jewelry, and I probably won't end up doing this (not this time anyway). But I still think it would be okay for later on; since it's not a new piece of jewelry. Just an extra little piece for the necklace he already wears daily.

 

We're both pretty down to earth, but he has spoiled me so much. This is going to be the opportunity for me to get him something special. And of course, this is when I run out of inspiration ...

[quankanne]

is there a guitar shop he likes to frequent? Check there for ideas, especially if he knows the shop people and has indicated what he'd like to get there someday. If it's too pricey at this point, see if they offer gift certificates. Sounds tacky, but for musicians, it's a great gift (or so I've been told).

 

find out what kind of music/planes he likes, then look for documentaries on those subjects.

[kashmir]

Just cold hard cash.

[prettybaby]

Just cold hard cash.

LOL I don't think so.

 

And thanks quankanne! I will definitely do that. I actually still have about 7 weeks left before his birthday, so hopefully I will know by then.

[mr.dream merchant]

You could learn how to play his favorite song on guitar. After a nice day of taking him out for his birthday, at his place or yours, have him wait for you. Then that's when you jump out butt ass naked, or maybe some lingirie, with a nice guitar he's been looking to buy, and play him his song. Yo, that would earn you major points.

[prettybaby]

Oh dear ....

[Tony T]

A small, consumer digital camera; a program for his computer; a nic-nac for his living from; guys love shirts...if you know his size; some nice cigars if he smokes them; a gift certificate for a massage...nothing better in the world than a therapeutic massage...surprise him and just take him there for his appointment without him even knowing what it's about; tickets to an upcoming concert he may enjoy; some DVDs of movies he hasn't seen; or go by your local Circuit City store and take the Closed Forever sign down and give it to him for a souvenir of the worst economic downturn since the Great Depression...

[mr.dream merchant]

Or maybe the most romantic verse from his favorite song, guitar is a mission and a half to learn lmao.

[kashmir]

Seriously. Either nothing or just cash.

 

Nothing is good because I feel that people don't need to waste money on me to buy me some material possession that I don't really need.

 

If the person insists, though, then cash is the best gift. Every dollar in my checking account (or in my sock drawer with this economy) makes me feel that much more financially secure, in case something comes up where I actually NEED money.

 

Someone once got me a nice watch. I have no use for that, so I secretly sold it on ebay for just under the price of a brand new one. If someone insisted on spending that much on me, they could have just given me that money up front. That way, it's a win-win situation. A win for me because I get more money, and a win for them because more of their money is going to what they spent it on. No loss to the middle-man.

[kashmir]

Plus, when I DO spend my money, it's usually on something big, like an amp or guitar. Unless you plan to drop a few thousand bucks on him, then a bit of cash that goes to him eventually buying that expensive product. That would definitely raise my value for you.

[prettybaby]

Seriously. Either nothing or just cash.

 

Nothing is good because I feel that people don't need to waste money on me to buy me some material possession that I don't really need.

 

If the person insists, though, then cash is the best gift. Every dollar in my checking account (or in my sock drawer with this economy) makes me feel that much more financially secure, in case something comes up where I actually NEED money.

 

Someone once got me a nice watch. I have no use for that, so I secretly sold it on ebay for just under the price of a brand new one. If someone insisted on spending that much on me, they could have just given me that money up front. That way, it's a win-win situation. A win for me because I get more money, and a win for them because more of their money is going to what they spent it on. No loss to the middle-man.

There is zero romance in that I don't even know yet if I'd end up spending little or much on it; as long as it's small and special. Cash is a real crappy gift for someone you're deeply in love with.

 

I was also thinking, at that point in our relationship, I might give him a pretty little box with a key to my house. But I'm not sure yet.

[melodymatters]

Dude, nobody gives their BF money ! Maybe mama to child, but not woman to man. I like the idea of an "event", be it a bed and breakfast weekend, a wine trip, disney land, horse back riding with a cabin, ski trip, whatever floats both of your boats, yet still creates memories.

[prettybaby]

How about a guitar pick? Like, a special one. Can you get golden ones (not solid, of course ) engraved or something?

[mr.dream merchant]

That's a hot idea.

[kashmir]

There is zero romance in that I don't even know yet if I'd end up spending little or much on it; as long as it's small and special. Cash is a real crappy gift for someone you're deeply in love with.

 

How is it crappy? It's like the stem cell of gifts. He can make it into ANY gift he wants.

 

And I know you ruled this out in the beginning, but besides nothing and cash, sexual favors are your other option. I honestly don't care if a girl never spends a dime on me, as long as she's putting out frequently.

[kashmir]

How about a guitar pick? Like, a special one. Can you get golden ones (not solid, of course ) engraved or something?

 

You can order regular plastic picks with a custom mark and colors on them, usually in big amounts like 100-500.

[MindoverMatter]

You could give him a little box with the key to your place and a key-chain in the form of a guitar pick. Custom made in silver, engraved with something that has a special meaning to both of you.

[Trialbyfire]

The gold or silver guitar pick is something very individual specific. If he's not into bling, it will just sit in the box unused in a drawer somewhere, like other forms of memorabilia. I would discreetly find a way to run it by him.

 

While not every man is like this, many prefer something practical.

[kashmir]

If I knew a pick was special and cost more money because it was silver or something, I probably wouldn't use it. I lose and break picks all the time, and it's ok because I get a ton for cheap. I'd be afraid of losing the pick that some girl got specially for me.

[BUENG1]

You can order regular plastic picks with a custom mark and colors on them, usually in big amounts like 100-500.

 

I dont think money is an appropiate gift between gf and bf. If you just exchange money between each other gifts, what is the point, of giving a gift at all? It's just a waste of time where everyone ends up back where they started.

[Lucky_One]

You already came up with the guitar pick.

 

Yes, you can sterling ones that are engraved AND usable.

[prettybaby]

If I knew a pick was special and cost more money because it was silver or something, I probably wouldn't use it. I lose and break picks all the time, and it's ok because I get a ton for cheap. I'd be afraid of losing the pick that some girl got specially for me.

Hmm, yeah I see what you mean. Alright, back to square one lol