aerov2 Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I think I'm a very caring person, when I like/love or care about a girl, I give myself completely to her. I'm shy guy, but when I really love someone, I always try to overcome my shyness and go talk to her or ask her out or what ever. Sometimes, because I care too much, it almost seems like I'm desperate. But I don't understand the meaning of being desperate. Well, I'm not desperate of having a girlfriend, or sex, it's just that when I love someone, I truly pour myself to that girl. I would worry about her sport injures, and trying to be there for her as long as I can. But I always run into this problem, the girl would think I'm too desperate and reject me. Girls, please advice, do you like a guy who really care about you, or a guy who has the option of having you or not?
mr.dream merchant Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 This is what I've seen alot of times. Guys who pour themselves into a girl, when it doesn't work out, and the girl leaves them, they seem to have nothing left in their life because they made that chick their life. Don't do that. She's an addition to your life, the brighter side of things, but don't make her your life. When you're young and things are mostly uncertainties, its wise not to put all your eggs in one basket. Continue your life as you would if the girl wasn't with you. Still hang out with your friends, still do whatever it is you do, don't change your life for her because its not safe to do so.
mikesierra Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Girls are animals. There are things that they want. Security is one of those things. They want you to prove yourself ahead of the pack, and they want it done in a way that makes it look natural, not like you're trying to impress her. At first they want you to be impervious to emotional attachment, macho, then soon enough they want you to change into Mr. Sensitive. When your heart is broken enough times, you'll eventually learn how to master it. But in your particular situation, I'm going to guess that this is only a small fraction of the equation. You're still in high school... from my experience in that world, people don't date much outside their little groups... ESPECIALLY attractive girls like the one you spoke of. I don't know anything about her, but I can guess her type. She has plenty of guys to choose from that she already knows, that she already feels SECURE with, so there's no reason to get involved with... well... you. It's high school. It'll change.
Peter_pan Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 This is what I've seen alot of times. Guys who pour themselves into a girl, when it doesn't work out, and the girl leaves them, they seem to have nothing left in their life because they made that chick their life. Don't do that. She's an addition to your life, the brighter side of things, but don't make her your life. When you're young and things are mostly uncertainties, its wise not to put all your eggs in one basket. Continue your life as you would if the girl wasn't with you. Still hang out with your friends, still do whatever it is you do, don't change your life for her because its not safe to do so. good advice. if only i could have been told this and listened before everything i went through. i put all my eggs/ bacon/ change into one basket and i got f'd over
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