clv0116 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 It's not you job to teach women how to behave. Can we at least teach them to use paragraphs?
stillafool Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I always wondered why alot of guys 10 yrs younger contacted me when I was in my mid thirties. Maybe it was just for fun. Not sure I could not relate to them too much energy. There were times men much older would contact me like 12-15 yrs and I would just laugh it off. Maybe the sex is good since it is so taboo. I know an older woman in her late thirties married to a man / guy in his early twenties and they are having a baby. Strange things do happen! It sounds like you don't like older women. You can't control them. Maybe they are hoping to have a chance at love with a young stud. The old dudes do it and it's ok since all men are pervs - they can't help it. We are ok with it, we accept it. Women need love too! It's not you job to teach women how to behave. Don't hate. This is it. Women have long accepted that old men like younger women and we are used to it because it has been going on for centuries. However, men seem to have a problem now that women are interested in good sex with younger men. Why? I hardly think 25 yo men are ready to get married and if they want to gain some "very useful" and "fun" experience from an older woman why should you guys care. Wouldn't that leave more "younger" women for you to date? I've never been a woman who liked old men. When I was in my 20's I thought people in their 30's were old. I was disgusted when older men tryed to hit on me. I have a great father and didn't see a need for another "daddy" but to each his own.
Author boxing123 Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Well marriage statistics illustrate most women do want OLDER men. it does not really matter if you come here to post about your friends. Facts are facts. If women were not driven solely by emotion, thy would realize AGE is the number one most important thing men look at when seeking mate. It is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. Funny how women can have SO MANY long lists of requirements, like height, income, job, etc, but men are looked down on for judging a woman by her age. I mean even telling a woman you do not want to raise her kids leads you to be called "selfish"..
Jersey Shortie Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Just when the kids are out of the house he's hitting 60 and she needs to start taking care of him. Meanwhile she's 45. Does she retire at this age? So much will depend on his health. What if he has a heart attack at 68 and she is now, (the horror!), 53. If there was a 20 year difference then she would be 48 and looking on the dating sites just like the Carrie Bradshaw wannabes. If our mythical woman starts looking again she might look for younger men because she doesn't want her next love to die on her. So not a fun experience. my mother married again at 55. He was 57 then. So I don't know about the unreasonableness of finding a mate later in life. You actually just about discribed my mother's situations. She married my father who was older then her and now at 51, is his nurse maid. It's not fair to her to be honest. I love my father very much and am thankful she takes such good care of him, but I know she is missing out on alot of things like having a mate that she can do things with and his energentic like herself. And I know it furstrates her and that her quality of life is different then if she was a man her own age. The advice she has always given me is to date someone within 5 years of my own age range. I use to tell her that she married someone else older so who is she to tell me who to date. But that's the key point, she has the life experience that I didn't. And she is right in away. It's a better fit overall when two people are on the same life path with the same priorities as each other. An older man in his 30s might be on the same life path as me in my 20s. But as people age, they age faster. He will age faster then men and just like some guys don't want to have an older partner, I don't want an older partner that I am going to become more nurse to then partner. Older women are giving younger women advice. I have spoken to alot of older married women and the advice they give, is similar to that of my mother's. Maybe a 25 y/o woman should look for a 25 to 32 y/o man. He's old enough to settle down. She's young enough to have his kids. He hopefully won't die more than a decade before she does. At which time she moves in with or close to her grown-up children so that her son/daughter can lookout for her and she gets to spend time w/ grandchildren. Shouldn't you be more worried about mapping your own life out then mapping the lives out of women and what they should or shouldn't be doing to make you happy? That is what this is about. About men being more concerned about their own needs and priorites and not spending too much time looking out for women in theirs. Utlimately, the turn off here is the comments from some of the guys that come off selfishness and entitlement filled. Women are apparently insignifcant. Instead of trying to convince women to adopt a situation they don't want, why don't you try listening to them to what their needs are and grasping the concept that we are just as entitled to seek those out. Well marriage statistics illustrate most women do want OLDER men. it does not really matter if you come here to post about your friends. Facts are facts First, please show us these facts. Because I think that the average marriage age for men is around 32 and for women is 27. Staying within 5 years of your partner isn't a huge deal. If she is 27 and he is 32, he is older but not so older that he would be a turn off to her. Most women aren't 27 and marrying 42 year olds. However, if by older men you mean a woman that is 27 and a man that is 42, I disagree that this is the norm. Although it's funny how men want to take the leadership role in a relationship yet take so much longer to get to a postion of maturity then women. You would think a truly strong mature man would be able to do so sooner if that was the case. If women were not driven solely by emotion, thy would realize AGE is the number one most important thing men look at when seeking mate. It is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. I don't think a woman here doesn't understand that men consider us worthless as we age. But you don't life in the 1950s anymore. And women have more options today, then ever. We don't have to marry someone to take care of us. We can marry for the same reasons that men do, for looks and feelings and age. Studies show that women are more critical of these things then in previous generations. Because of social and economic restructing. Lets be honest here. Both men and women age. I think this grasping onto the mentality that men age better is very telling about men's own insecurity about aging. I encounter more men that are insecure about the aging process then women.
Author boxing123 Posted March 12, 2009 Author Posted March 12, 2009 Although it's funny how men want to take the leadership role in a relationship yet take so much longer to get to a postion of maturity then women. You would think a truly strong mature man would be able to do so sooner if that was the case. Women want financial security. If they did not car about it, then younger men would be getting married more often. Men make more money as they age, which makes them a good prospect for younger women.
Jersey Shortie Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Women want financial security. If they did not car about it, then younger men would be getting married more often. Men make more money as they age, which makes them a good prospect for younger women. Most men get married at 32, most women at 27, that's the average. So I am not sure who you think these older men are and younger women are. It happens but it's not the great big norm. On top of that, men aren't exactly lining up to finacially support women now-a-days. The little woman, is helping to support the family just as much as the man. Most relationships I know of are a give and take and they both work. You can't have it both ways. You have to be able to offer something yourself. Men aren't finacially supporting women like they use to so it does shift the power a bit. How many of the guys here will finically support their younger wife so she doesn't have to work? I know men expect women to work now-a-days outside the home in many cases. So we are expected to work AND take on older husbands. Errr, yeah okay.
redant Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 I don't think ALL women look for money. Love and commitment is also very important. I'd rather be with a hard working loving guy. Than a wealthy jerk any day. I believe alot of rich men let it go to their head and then believe they are superior. So a young man with potential is perfect! I do think old men are attractive at times but not for a serious relationship. Maybe young men feel the same the only thing is the older women can not have kids older men can. Can't we all just get along?
Jersey Shortie Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Just because you can do it, doesn't mean you should. I don't think older men or women should be having children.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Actually, on the whole I'd say society is telling women that age matters greatly - and these women are bucking tradition by seeking out what they want, not what they're told to want. More power to them. If it doesn't work, of course, it doesn't work. But why shouldn't they give it a try, if they want to? And sometimes it does work out. A friend of mine who's turning 40 this year just married her 30-year-old boyfriend. He's desperately in love with her. So, you know. Don't assume anything. I give that 10 years MAX! Unless she has a very high sex drive and keeps it going.
clv0116 Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Most men get married at 32, most women at 27, that's the average. First, 32 > 27, just so we're clear, and that's an average. If you assume a distribution that allows plus or minus 8 years as fairly common, you are looking at the common cases for marriage to be anywhere from the man being 3 years younger to 13 years older, and interestingly that is about what I also observe. I suspect if you look at the age difference for people who marry later in life it would be even greater.
stillafool Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Well marriage statistics illustrate most women do want OLDER men. it does not really matter if you come here to post about your friends. Facts are facts. If they do it's only 2 to 3 years older and that's mostly young women who want to marry men a couple of years their senior. If you take a divorced woman with kids or a single woman who does not want children she may want someone younger. If women were not driven solely by emotion, thy would realize AGE is the number one most important thing men look at when seeking mate. It is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. Wow! Silly me, I thought it was looks and sex appeal first. If AGE is the number one most important thing to men that's okay also. Women will still continue to seek what they want. You see that doesn't bother us because we are used to it, but it bothers you that women are starting not to care what society says and are dating younger men in droves. Why do you give a da-n? Funny how women can have SO MANY long lists of requirements, like height, income, job, etc, but men are looked down on for judging a woman by her age. I mean even telling a woman you do not want to raise her kids leads you to be called "selfish".. Yet men have requirements like AGE, looks, heights, hair color and the list goes on and on. We are used to that also. No one here is looking down on any man who wants a younger woman. We just want you to stop judging women who want younger men. BTW, who asked you to raise her kids? I don't blame you for being selfish about that! My gawd!
stillafool Posted March 12, 2009 Posted March 12, 2009 Women want financial security. If they did not car about it, then younger men would be getting married more often. Men make more money as they age, which makes them a good prospect for younger women. Financial security is a good thing. Men seek financial security also. I think younger men wait to get married because (as they should) they want to 'play the field' a bit before getting married. Everyone should. Also you are forgetting that women are climbing the corporate and entrepreneur ladders like monkeys and making tons of money and will just continue to make more as they age also. So I think it's all good for everyone, don't you?
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